Sexual Relationships
+1 y

How do I accept I'm going to be alone forever?

I'm very lonely, I'm thankful I have my grandparents and my dad but other than them, I have no one who gives a shit about me. I'm in college and I'm 18, and I constantly think about how I'm never going to find love or make friends because I'm ugly and I'm mentally ill, and even when I cut myself and cried in front of a bunch of people in college, nobody cared as I had blood dripping from my wrists and I could barely breath. I also wonder if there was a God, if he destined me to be miserable and alone forever, as I'm too shy to talk to people and everybody always looks so angry and they're on their phones, I'm scared to talk to them. I'm also scared of humanity in general as I've seen some fucked up shit, and I'm scared of what skeletons people are hiding in their closets. I'm also a virgin and I'm sexually frustrated, and I can't even watch porn or masterbate because I ended up feeling sad because I know I will never be able to have sex because nobody wants to have sex with me. I don't know what I should do, life seems so meaningless to me at this point. Therapy and meds ain't helping with shit.
1 0

Superb Opinion

  • Sweetheart, I’m so sorry to hear this. Just remember there are people who do care and without exception and/or without wanting anything in return. Yes this world can be cruel but there is good for example, enough people care that even here on GAG 10+ strangers on a website in various parts of the world felt it important enough to let you know that you matter and that we value your life and your desire for happiness.

    I've learned that life isn’t easy at times. Everyone has low points as well as periods of little to no hope for love, career, friends, family, money, health, etc. It can be overwhelming. And no one knows perfectly what you are going through. I will tell you though that I do believe in God. I know too much to ever deny Him. He is intimately aware of how you feel. He allows us to have the trials of this world and life so that we may grow. Ask him to help you and don’t ever lose faith in Him.

    Think of it this way... First of all, if you will be patient, you can and will with the help of others overcome what is causing you to be sad now. You WILL have better days ahead and happiness and realize your dreams if you keep working and trying. So, when that happens and you run into someone in the same situation or worse down the road, think about how much more insight and reserves of strength you will have in order to be able to offer help, having been there yourself. Things happen for a reason. Don’t give up.

    You can always PM me if you need to talk. Please just don’t give up. Your life and happiness are very much WORTH it ❤️

    • @sitbackrelax That was an amazing reply. Even a cynical bastard like me could not help but be moved by it. I really hope this question was not posted by some troll who just did it for laughs.

    • @exitseven thank you. I hope she can find hope and happiness

Most Helpful Guy

  • Your responsible for your own state of mind. You're your own worst enemy, fix yourself first and the other will not be as impossible as you think. There is other people in similar situations. It's not other people job to fix your problems. It's yours so stop your selfpity and do what you can. Or you will fulfill your own prophecy. Life is tough accept and do the best you can with what you got.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's a scary, cruel world out there. Life is not for the faint of heart.
    I'm not sure what advice to give in this situation -- but being significantly older than you, I feel obligated to tell you that "forever" is a very long time, & that you should never say never. Also, your attitude (how open you are, & you approach things) is very important - so don't get discouraged. If you keep the possibility of good things happening, you naturally draw them to you. I'm sure you've heard that cliché, "You reap what you sow" - and there's a ton of truth to that.
    Find something you enjoy, look for the silver lining, & perhaps doing something for charity or consider volunteering (something personally enriching for you & to give back for the greater good).
    Good luck & I'll say, it's a daily struggle to get out of bed - trust me I know. But you don't grow as a person if you just give up.

  • Fuck what everyone else is doing. Focus on yourself, and dare I say BE selfish. Therapy isn't working because you're not opening up to it. You're only 18, you have a lot ahead of you. I used to feel like you. Unworthy of everything. Hurting myself. Feeling not good enough. Not listening to people telling me "it gets better". But you just have to listen when I tell you that it DOES get better, you ARE worthy and you ARE good enough. This is your life. How other people's lives progress have nothing to do with how your's does. If you need someone to talk to, you can message me.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

Related Questions

If you had the power to snap your fingers and make something happen instantly what would it be?
Do women really squirt or is that a euphemism for orgasming?
Are married men really happy seeing the same T&A and screwing the same woman every night?
What’s your favorite part about going down on women?

What Girls & Guys Said

5 11

  • Your negative attitude towards life won’t help you

    • Even when I tried adopting a positive outlook on life, I don't see anyone here who wants to be my friend. It's just coping at this point, it still doesn't change the fact that I want to die.

    • You can’t be superficial about your positive outlook. It comes from within and a strong connection with God. You’re 18 years old. You have your whole life ahead of you. Focus on yourself and your school work so you become successful and get a hobby.

  • You are only 18 you will.
    You are in a viscous circle. You are desperate for people to care which makes people not care. Work on your mental health, meditate, keep a diary, write a list about what is special about you, get a hobby! There’s tonnes of things you can do to feel better about you and then people will start to come

  • Here’s a message I like turning to when I feel hopeless in this area or with anything. This reminds me I can find rest, despite worldly anxieties and burdens. God Bless 💜


    I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28–30)“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

    • Very well said 100%

    • Thanks!

  • I think if you hit over 30 you can say that. But being only 18, you’ve plenty of time

  • You’re just 18 how can you say that

    • Most people already have experience and they're so far ahead of me...

    • So you try to socialise more. You’ll eventually get better with people

  • You’re only 18 you’re going to get married to a nice man

    • I want to believe that, but everyone else is far ahead of me.

    • It’s OK some people are late bloomers

    • It’s not time sensitive. Late or not. Focus on arriving. We are all at different stages

  • You can get help for the mental illness and the is someone out there for everyone.

  • You're so scared of the bad you aren't willing to find the good.

  • Well I have been single since many years and feel the same sometimes.
    But while there is life there is hope

  • You won't be alone forever. I know it's cliche to say that but I think it will happen for you. If Siamese twins can find someone (which DID happen by the way), EVERYONE can find someone. It will come, I promise you

    • Thank you, that's really sweet, but I feel like I'm going to die alone because nobody wants me.

    • You aren't going to die alone, have faith/confidence. Guys are attracted to confident women

  • Its normal thinks for a teenager. When you will grow up they ll end.

  • U're just 18... I got my first girl at the age of 26... don't lose hope

  • You are not going to be alone forever and you are not ugly

  • Is your favourite artist Billie Ellish?

  • How long have you been single now?

  • Try dating older guys, we are less self centered and narcissistic. People in college are usually at their worst. As they are now independent of their parents and they haven't learned the importance of self control.

Latest Questions

Higher levels of dopamine and testosterone by 0.3% population? Is abnormal sex mania a good thing if there is self control and discipline?
I have been questioning my sexuality lately, Am I Bisexual?
Why would any man believe a real raped victim is damaged goods?
Do most guys prefer being on top more?
Home >  Sexual Relationships  > How do I accept I'm going to be alone forever?