Boyfriend lasts hours in bed?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now. The sex is great, however, my boyfriend always lasts for hours. When we're having sex, it can take up to 3 hours including foreplay. I'm really enjoying it but after 1.5 hour i get exhausted. We're each other's firsts so I don't know if it's just me or if he would last this long with anyone.

Since the start of our relationship, there have only been two times he lasted for 10 minutes or so (one time just randomly and the other time was when I did wear sexy lingerie for the first time). I asked him about this but he says he doesn't know why he can last so long. He always tells me how beautiful I am so I guess he is attracted to me enough...

We talked about our sex life and what we like so I really know how to turn him on. So I don't really understand... Is it normal for a guy in his twenties to last this long and should I be concerned?

[Rachel794]

I’m no expert but I would say it’s a positive thing he can last. I know you said you get exhausted, maybe you can discuss that with him? But know that sexual intercourse is a type of workout. That’s why couples take a lot of time afterwards to cuddle and have pillow talk before moving on with the busyness of their day.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your opinion! I really appreciate it. I forgot to mention that although he can last for hours, I often have to finish it with oral sex because that's (most of the time) the only way to end the sex. Right now my biggest problem is that I get exhausted, and I'm scared he might not be attracted to me enough (even though I get hit on by men pretty often so guess I am quite attractive..) . I'm also thinking about the future when we want to have kids.. would be very incovenient if he is unable to come from only intercourse.

[Rachel794]

You’re so welcome :) And don’t worry, if you work on your self esteem it will soon show in your sex life.

[Nightroads]

Its not ideal, but lasting over an hour can be very unfair for the guy. I myself only get off occasionally because of the amount of time required. But good for you, i myself can go over an hour and my wife says its the most amazing sex she has had.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply! I know I should consider myself lucky since a lot of people have the opposite problem.. I can understand it can be unfair for the guy.. I would like to know, do you enjoy the sex? If you can last that long, does that mean the sex doesn't feel good enough or so?

[Nightroads]

Sex is amazing, every time. It pains me at times, feeling the need to finish and then not achieving. Continuing and leading to the same feeling, till the third or fourth time to actually finish. But im a husband and father with two jobs so i only end up finishing two or three times out of seven. But even when i dont achieve orgasm, sex us still really good.

[Asker]

Great to hear that the sex is still amazing! That's one of the things I was worried about.. Thank you for your explanation, I really appreciate it.

[Nightroads]

No problem.

[exitseven]

It is normal. If this is the worst thing that has happened to you then you are lucky.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[varan69]

Dont u all girls want for guys to last in bed?

[Asker]

Of course! 3 hours is just a little too much for me haha, but I know I should consider myself lucky... just wondering if it's normal

[varan69]

Lol yes in some way yes. Maybe at least 1 hr to 1 and half I say

[Asker]

Haha good to know, read on multiple websites that guys last on average 10 -15 min. Really didn't know 1,5 hour could be considered normal. Thanks for your reply!

[varan69]

No no not normal. Ok yes and i say from 5 to 15 min average but the hour will be better for a girl isn't. And still i will say it will last an hour after his first cum lol

[OnTheLevel]

I never met a man who couldn't cum faster if he wanted to. You need to let him know that this is an issue for you and ask him to speed things up.

[Anonymous]

He's on something, no guy last that long normally.