Is saying "I Love You" after sex weird?

[Livelyserenity]

So boyfriend thinks that saying "I love you" after sex is weird and not appropriate.
Is that true? When would be the best time to say it then? Lol

[SteveSmith1985]

Well... umm... so this is a bit concerning.

Saying "I love you" after sex is definitely a very normal, regular and apropriate thing... if you're in a loving relationship.

So assuming that you and your boyfriend generally have said "I love you" to each other outside of the bedroom... then... yes you're right... after sex WOULD indeed be a very normal time to say it.

What this immidiately suggests to me (keep in mind I know NOTHING but what you wrote here) is a guy with some intimacy issues of one sort or another.

I say that because "I love you" after sex IS inherently more in-your-face intimately meaningful than saying it on the couch watching TV. In other words, it's much harder to say "I love you" to someone right after the intimacy and connection of sex without being forced to ACTUALLY think about the deep meaning of the words. It's impossible to be the least bit casual about an after-sex "I love you". (Which is why is a very common thing. People feel especially connected right after sex so feel the urge to express it verbally.)

So yes, you're right... you're boyfriend is the "weird" one on this for sure. It seems to suggest some fear or discomfort with intimacy on some level. I am not a doctor. I definitely might be wrong.

That being said, don't read more into it than is really there. If you are otherwise happy with your boyfriend, and don't get the feeling that he's got a problem with commitment aside from this... then... my advice is to take note of it... don't force him to say "I love you after sex" ---at least not initially. That's an "intimacy and our future together" conversation for another day.

On the other hand... if this guy has given you other indications that he might not be ready for the type of commitment you're asking from him... then this is a definitely another one of those things.

If this is your only problem, drop it, and bring it back up as part of a broader conversation later.

[Spookydood]

If you've been dating a while and say it in other situations, it's more weird he thinks its weird.

[Lucy68]

Saying I love you after sex is not weird at all in my opinion it's not.

[dreamstar72]

I say it to my wife before, during and after. We also add the word “more”

[RHK36]

It's only weird if you don't mean it or the other person doesn't love you, so they feel awkward that you're saying it to them.

[Wise4myage]

Only if it feels weird or you said it too soon.

[IncognitoBandito]

No its tender and sweet

[Twalli]

Maybe in a situation where you aren't about to have sex, during sex, or just after

[Rudon00]

No way that's silly

[Anonymous]

No, that is normal.