Girls, Being dominant in the bedroom?

[Srobusch]

You're (new) partner tells you that he would like to be dominated by you in the bedroom.
How would you react and what things would you do with him / make him do?

[SelinaK]

😂 You get your kicks reading this?

Well, first off, establish a safe word, since it's a new partner. Also, ask what kind of stuff he's into/not into. Wax, knives, restraints, pain play, spanking, hair-pulling, master/slave, teacher/student, mommy, blindfolds, gags, collar/leash, ass play, belittling, etc. Best to know while they can still talk, afterall, most people are not into everything.

Next, set the room. It's best to get in the right mindset before starting. Sure, you're using them, but it's about the both of you and fulfilling what you both want.

We're not going into describing the scene. You'd like it too much and I don't want to. 😉 You can imagine, though.

After, I'd make sure he's good with what just happened, making him feel comfortable, releasing restraints or pieces, cuddling, etc.

[Srobusch]

Wow, you seem to be quite experienced in being dominant! Thanks a lot for this answer 😍!

[SelinaK]

Np! Also, I'd suggest "red" for full stop, and "yellow" for not as much of that, and a tapout when you can't speak.

[Srobusch]

Thats a good tip. Do you have any advices on what to try as a beginner?

[SelinaK]

Let's see... wax is fine, because you can stop at any time, a cold butter knife will feel sharper than it really is, silicone restraints are easy to get out of (also called "quickie cuffs"), pain play could be started with spanking, hair-pulling there's not really an issue with trying (mostly just timing, but during foreplay or at the height of sex is a good time), any of the roles are beginner-friendly, blindfolds are fine, panties as a gag could be spit out, choose a loose collar, clip-on tie, or something easy to get out of if you're trying leashes, rimjobs are a good opener for assplay, belittling... that's actually a wide scope. Depends on what they want to be treated like. For belittling, I'd suggest trying one of those roles mentioned earlier, because it's semi built in.

[Srobusch]

Thanks a lot! 😇 The things you wrote about sound so hot. Can I ask you what your personal favorites are when it comes to dominating guys?

[SelinaK]

Depends on the guy? Different urges for different people. But I'm actually married, so there aren't any different people. Haha

[liel443]

I prefer dominant men. In that situation, I'd make him give me oral for an hour and then leave.

[Srobusch]

I would love that to be honest. Especially if she would sit on my face

[Srobusch]

If you like to feel free to dm me

[liel443]

Sent

[Srobusch]

Have also sent an answer :)

[snowgirl123]

I would accept, but not often, I would like to be mostly submissive. I don't know what I would do to him, I would ask him to tell me what he likes and teach me. I don't have experience.

[bones_20]

Sounds scary. Too much responsibility for me to handle🙄

[Jinsoyun]

Don't really see myself as the in control person in the bedroom but I think I could be more dominant if it happens naturally. Being dominant playfully sounds fun but it's a turn off when you have to made rules and play a part.

[CindyRuns]

I tend to be somewhat on the dominant side often.

I love being in control !!!

[Srobusch]

Can you maybe tell me what you like to do with him when you are in control? You can also pm me, if you dont want to talk about it in public

[NicoletteXO]

I can be playfully dominant, but it has to come naturally… kind of as part of the ‘rough and tumble’ in the bedroom.


I’ve had a few men outright ask me to dominate them, and it’s a real turn off to me.

[Srobusch]

Thanks for your opinion! What do you mean with playfully dominant?

[NicoletteXO]

Well, just like getting on top of him and pinning his wrists down… a few spanks here and there… nothing too crazy.

[zaharuh]

You explained it perfectly lol like sometimes I can feel that way but if that's what they ask for I just can't do that

[sweethrtx]

I would be surprised and excited even though I don't know how to be dominant.

[Srobusch]

Cool, do you have any dominant things in mind that you would like to try with him? :)

[sweethrtx]

Tie his hands and blindfold him or ask him to follow my instructions.

[Srobusch]

Sounds nice, what would your instructions be like?

[sweethrtx]

Ooh that's a secret!

[Srobusch]

Haha, okay. Thanks for your answer :). If you want to talk more about this feel free to pm me !

[tee_64]

Even if he doesn't ask for i am going to do it anyway as i like to dominate in bed tie him up blindfold and do lot of things

[Srobusch]

Nice! What kind of things are you going to do when he is blindfolded and tied down?

[__cassiexxx]

Honestly I really like being submissive. I like when the guys dominant over me and chokes me and talks down to me lol. I wouldn’t really want to do this but if it was for my boyfriend then I’d try and do it for him. I’d have to have some wine first lol

[BlacklightShade]

At least it's not being dominated in the bathroom.

[zaharuh]

It's not really my thing