Why would a guy rape his girlfriends virginity?

[ElizaPam]

It's not fair. I loved him and he said he loved me. I would've given him my virginity when I was ready I was just really scared. But then he got me drunk and I passed out and he woke me up raping me. And now it breaks my heart every day after all these years. He always said he loved me so I kept telling myself he didn't rape me he just made a mistake but he raped me and he knew he was raping me and I was a virgin and I loved him so why did he do it?

[Avcfhcic]

No one outside of him can know his true reasoning as to why. Maybe he had a real uncontrollable urge and couldn't wait for you to be ready (sounds ridiculous).
I believe he did love you but he just couldn't control his emotions. It was rape.
Don't you dare blame yourself at all for any of it! I'm so sorry you lost your virginity in that way and I strive to ensure I treat girls correctly due to the world we live in currently.
This will be part of you for the rest of your life, but please don't let it get in the way of anything new. It happened, it's devastating for all, But you can't change that.
Again I'm sorry for how he did that to you, and hope one day you will be alright!

[Sidfawy]

* Some guys, when a man wanna sex and see that girl so difficult he try things like that.
* Maybe he was drunk.
* Maybe his friends told him to do it and it's not a rape coz she is your girlfriend.
* If he regret then it's a mistake if he not then it's rape.

[snowgirl123]

well this is what my man used to do to me: he would seduce me, do things to me, and then erase part of them from my mind you know. I remember only a few things that we did together. somethings he did to me I was told, or I have brief memories. he only did what I allowed him to when I was conscious, or close to that I suppose.

for example, if he wanted to have his hands under my clothes, and if I said yes, he would do it, but a little bit more, and like with more frequency that I can remember, and in places I cannot recall completely. something I remember clearly but others not.

well, I hope you got what I mean

[NicoletteXO]

Did he drug you? Why don't you remember?

[Anonymous]

Because he was asshole with no consciousness whatsoever and that says he was a narcissist. In translation, hiddenly evil. Because who good and normal who has love in heart does that? Think. Once you see his true colours, it's easier to realise. And. IT'S NOT YOU. IT'S HIM. HE WOULD DO IT TO ANYONE. WHICHEVER GIRL WAS THERE, WOULD GET INTO THAT SITUATION. IT WAS NOT A PUNISHMENT TOWARDS YOU, FOR YOU DIDN'T EVEN MATTER. IT WAS HIM BEING INHUMANE GARBAGE OF HUMANITY! ALWAYS KNOW THAT.
NOT YOU. HIM.
Therapy will only lead you to realise more and more of depths of this statement.

[SelinaK]

My now-ex said he regretted it doing it, said he should have waited, that he didn't want me to feel that way, buuuut then did that to me several more times before we broke up. I kept forgiving him, but he kept "messing up." It wasn't a mess up. He knew what he was doing. He knew how I felt about it and didn't care how I felt. He raped me on the night my grandpa died and took my virginity and didn't care.

I have a friend who is a therapist and talked to her about it, she basically came to the conclusion that he's a sociopath. So... maybe he also has unresolved mental issues?

Either way, I hope you're not in this situation anymore. Cling to anyone to get yourself out of it if you are. Ask a best friend to sit with you until you break up and block him on every platform he can contact you. It's hard to see yourself as happier, but I swear, there's better than this guy. I'm now married to a great guy and will be celebrating our 6th anniversary this month.

[CindyRuns]

Because he's an absolute slime ball !!!

I hope you not only dumped him, but called the cops !!!

[NicoletteXO]

I would suggest you discuss this with a professional psychotherapist.

[Rachelspiks]

I don't think there is anyone here who can answer the question as to why he did what he did. You would have to ask him, and I'm sure you don't want to do that. He was a rotten person is the only answer I can think of at the moment. Some - far too many - people are just evil. I don't know why. I'm sorry. :'(
I just hope you're not in any way blaming yourself for this.

[Agape93]

Selfish entitlement. I'm sorry you went through that, it's cruel and horrifying. If you need to talk I'm here

[PuNishant]

That's rape.

[soe11]

So sorry to hear that.

[Juxtapose]

He's a piece of shit and only said he cared.

[Anonymous]

As someone who was also raped when I lost my virginity no matter how many times you ask why did he do it we will never know the truth even if we went to them and asked them face to face they will still never provide closure or answers

the best thing for you to do is report the rape don’t allow him to get away with it and I would also recommend counselling cause it does sound like you are really struggling with what happened