Do you think a threesome has a good way to spice up your sex life?

[Anonymous]

She really wants to try it

[Daftlad88]

I once asked my wife if she would be up to try a theeesome because she was on about starting to try make some money by doing webcams online like playing with herself and stuff like that I wasn't happy at first with it but after a while I was okay with it and when I did ask her to try it out just the once she said would it be with a lass or a lad I said it would be with a lass then she said no but it would of been okay for her if I said yea bring a fella in to have sex with you while I am watching use two haha

[Asker]

Did you do it then

[Daftlad88]

Not at all lol

[DonkeyDan]

That really all depends on how secure you both are in your relationship and if you are both completely happy with eachother. If you are doing it because there are problems and she thinks it will help to fix them by spicing up the love life, then it's a really bad idea and will most likely drive you further apart. If you're both totally happy with eachother, and things couldn't get much better for you and it's just a bit of fun to step it up a notch in the bedroom then it's probably fine.

[Asker]

I think things are pretty good between us which is want to try some extra fun

[DonkeyDan]

Then it will probably be ok. Does she have a FMF or MFM in mind?

[Asker]

Mfm is what she wants

[DonkeyDan]

That's cool it will be fun

[Asker]

Now I'm a little excited to see it

[Daniela1982]

If you can live with it, go for it. I'm sure she wants a guy for her, not a girl for you. Unless she has some same sex tendencies. I certainly wouldn't be sharing my man.

[Asker]

Yes she wants a guy for her

[OlderAndWiser]

Is your girl a prospect for a log term relationship or is this just a girl you are fucking? Does she want to try MFM or FMF?

[Asker]

Long term mfm

[OlderAndWiser]

Wandering away from the concept of sexual fidelity and commitment takes you in the wrong direction, doesn't it? Imagine that you are married and away from home for a few weeks. Suppose she says that she is horny and wants to fuck one of her friends just because she needs to get laid. Will that be okay? Will the idea of fidelity ever be a part of your relationship? Is she open to also doing a FMF later?

[Asker]

As long as she asked first I would probably be okay with it

[OlderAndWiser]

If you are faithful to each other, does that mean that you would never get married?

[Asker]

I would actually like to marry her

[OlderAndWiser]

What would marriage mean to you?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[OlderAndWiser]

What is the point in getting married if you aren't going to be faithful and monogamous with each other?

[Silvershadegirl]

Not every happy marriage is entirely monogamous, you know...

[OlderAndWiser]

@Silvershadegirl I know that some people say that.

[RobT312]

Why does she want to try it? Talk more about it with her before doing, because typically it’s a bad idea. My girlfriend had friends that did this and they are no longer together

[GoldenCage]

bad idea

[Asker]

Why do you think that?

[GoldenCage]

It's very rare for open relationships to last long and you said you want something for long term. And usually jealousy comes in place either during the act or afterwards when someone start having emotions for a side piece. It is just a dangerous game you're playing. I've heard of couples where only one person sees other people. Still it is just a sign of an unbalanced relationship where one holds more power than the other party. And then when they want they replace the weaker partner who put up with all that. So it looks like that your girl have the upper arm here so just be careful. I think it is all fun and all. But eventually she might lose respect for you or find a better lover. Or one day decided to stop even if you didn't want to stop the fun. Especially when she gets pregnant. That's when the rules will be different and suspicion kicks in or jealousy. What I don't understand why would you contaminate a good relationship just for instant gratification? unless it is not good and you under the delusion that this will fix it. For me if my partner suggested this to me I'd immediately leave even if I loved them. Because it just means they don't equally love me back.

[Asker]

I guess maybe I just want to make her happy

[GoldenCage]

Yeah and when did you evewhear anyone saying that and still in a relationship today lol If you're ONLY trying to make her happy.. than good luck with that pal.

[Asker]

Yeah thanks you definitely have some good points

[AndyOh]

It can spice up your sex life quite a bit.
However... if she really likes a 3-some, expect to start having them more and more.
So be careful how you step in this arena. I suggest having some long what-if conversations before you go down that path.

[Miristheiss]

No, it is a good way to ruin and end your relationship.

[AviatorTom]

If she wants tot try it and it's okay with you, go ahead.

Just curious... is she looking for adding another guy or another girl?

[Asker]

Another guy

[AviatorTom]

You probably want to think about whether you want to play with the guy, and whatever your feelings are, talk with her about them before you have the threesome. She may just want the pleasure of having two guys play with her, but if she wants to see the two guys play with each other too, she needs to make sure you're okay with that. Just talk with her and find out exactly what her fantasy is and let her know if you're okay with that. Personally, if my SO wanted a MMF, I'd like to see her pleasured, but I would not play with the guy.

[Asker]

Yeah we already talked about that there won't be no guy on guy stuff

[AviatorTom]

Sounds like you have a good relationship. Emjoy!

[Asker]

Have you ever tried it

[MikeTheBartender]

As long as it's w two babes.

[Silvershadegirl]

That depends on the couple, and what they want

[Asker]

She just really wants to try one I guess

[Asker]

Which I'm willing to try but just kind of nervous about it

[Silvershadegirl]

So don't try it if you're nervous, it's obviously wrong for you.

[Asker]

Well I want to make her happy and I also do think it could be kind of fun I mean I am kind of turned on by the thought of it

[Silvershadegirl]

Being nervous is a red flag, so don't.

[Asker]

Yeah but I get nervous about a lot of things and end up enjoying them I was nervous the first time I had sex

[hawkeye92]

It could be, but you have to be very careful. Must have trust between your partner before even thinking of bringing in another person

[Varshika811]

More than 10 people was amazing

[Asker]

At one time

[Varshika811]

Yeah

[Asker]

What was it like a big orgy

[Varshika811]

Yeah ✌

[jennajordyn]

Yes, guy-guy-girl

[Asker]

Yes that's what she wants

[Mangospacho]

Basically, it’s a fun way of ending the relationship because the sex is usually better with the third person.

[Twalli]

You need to both be willing and if you suggest FMF or FFM, you should agree to MFM or MMF if she asks.

[Asker]

Mfm is what we are planning on

[Asker]

Have you ever done one

[Twalli]

No, but I know a lot of people who have.

[Asker]

Did most of them enjoy it

[Twalli]

More enjoyed two girls than two guys because girls can keep going so they can get each other off and give the guy a rest before continuing on, while once both guys are spent it can't go on.

[Asker]

Yeah we just figured it's a lot easier for two guys the pleasure one girl than one guy two pleasure to girls

[Asker]

And she's not really into doing stuff with other women

[Twalli]

I would also have ground rules for him. Is he allowed to cum inside, if so, where. Stiff like that.

[Asker]

She's on birth control so coming in her would be fine

[Twalli]

Just be sure to decide what he can do beforehand. I know if two couples that were swinging, and one got mad when the other guy cummedin his wife became they hadn't decided on rules. They talked later and made up because the guy who ejaculated in the other's wife had a vascetomy so she couldn't get pregnant from him, but they forgot to set ground rules.

[Asker]

The only thing I can really think of is I don't want them kissing not sure why

[Twalli]

Okay so when you decide othe person, tell him he can cum inside, but not kiss her.

[Asker]

she admitted that she would not be willing to do a FMF

[Asker]

Witch is fine with me

[Twalli]

It sounds like you are willing to try. Agree on rules with her and then finds guy that will also. agree.

[Asker]

I think she already has someone in mind

[Asker]

I got to say I was a little hesitant at first but the more I thought about it I really started to get turned on by the thought of seeing another guy's dick in her

[IronsKev]

A bit risky i'd say

[boxxie2002]

Yes, but lay out ground rules ahead of time and make sure everyone understands them

[anylolone]

There's no such thing as spicing one's sex life, there's only doing things one wants.
And people like to experiment.

[Asker]

So do you think it's a good idea

[anylolone]

For me it would be. The hard part os not the ménage, but finding a fitting 3rd party for both.

[Asker]

She already did that

[anylolone]

But are you ok with the 3rd person? If you are then great, have fun.

[Asker]

Excited but also also a little nervous

[anylolone]

Both probably connected.

[Guido]

Only if your relationship is very strong

[abc--123]

I do but I also think it takes the right kind of couple to make it work

[Asker]

Like what kind is that

[CubaPirate]

More of a good way to ruin a relationship

[QuietRunner]

yes with some rules

[Asker]

Like what?