What’s with the oral & anal only mentality?

[SitBackRelax]

I was browsing some older questions on here where it was advocated that oral and anal with a girlfriend is the only sex that matters. They more less said they are anti vaginal with “no interest in pussy.” That it was “outdated.” WTF! And then there are the numerous tired old questions about “boobs or butt” too.

Why even have a girlfriend/wife if you have no interest in the most defining part of the female body which is actually made for the penis? Why on earth would oral and anal sex take precedent/replace vaginal and why would boobs and butts be preferable as the more beautiful parts? I mean sure seeing a woman’s butt and breasts as a whole on her is beautiful but I don’t understand the singular obsession.

It makes absolutely no sense to me. The ONLY part on a woman more beautiful than the vulva/vagina to me is her face and personality which unfortunately has been completely removed and dehumanized as so many seem to objectify sex which is actually the ultimate way to display love and affection toward a woman who is a living breathing person.

[snowgirl123]

I agree with you. the man I love also told me this many years ago, that when a man loves a woman, all he cares about is her vagina really. what he meant is that, when you love a woman, the most important is that she is a female, and the rest is of not so much importance.

I think that a beautiful face, and a stunning body can do many things, and men love them, but at the end of the day, when you truly love someone what matters is the soul. other things can be arranged with medical or beauty care, but the soul never fades.

I think that people have forgotten what sex is about: love, care, connection, and just think about it as fun and silly, like drinking a shot, once it's finished, they'll just drink another.

[SitBackRelax]

So perfectly said. You 100% articulated what I meant to say, and so much better. Sex can and should be fun at times but it’s still connecting because the couple is having fun together. But by far it’s about the seriousness of looking into each other’s eyes during, focusing on each other’s face to notice if it’s feeling good and getting more intense, and literally driving each other’s body over the edge to take a step into heaven together and then back. And then just remain in position after orgasm, basking in each other’s mess that their body made for the other, to kiss, adore, and let the other know that they are loved. You said it perfectly about vagina being what a man is attracted to. It’s the womanhood side of the woman the man loves.

[snowgirl123]

thank you, these are beautiful and lovely words. beauty and grace comes from within the rest is just a compliment

[SitBackRelax]

Thank you, and same to you. Beautiful words indeed. It’s nice to know that there are others out there who think and value alike. :)

[snowgirl123]

let's keep the love alive =) =) =)

[SitBackRelax]

Absolutely ❤️

[SitBackRelax]

I’d like to keep in contact. I followed you :)

[snowgirl123]

okay I will follow you too

[SitBackRelax]

:) Thank you! It’s great to have someone else be so understanding, respectful, full of reality, and level headed. That’s so rare now days.

[snowgirl123]

thank you so much! it's always great to learn and share experiences =)

[Princess_Sasha]

Most of the time of the drive is for oral and anal only, its because of a concern for pregnancy. I know my hubby with his ex was in that boat for a while and that was all the two of them would do.

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing. Let's put aside the fact that oral and anal feel great for a guy and arguably better than vaginal. The fact is that vaginal sex is dangerous for a guy, even if he wears a condom, which is prone to failure. Men literally have zero rights when it comes to pregnancy and parenting. Zero. Why the FUCK would you, as a man, choose vaginal over anal or oral?

[SitBackRelax]

The reason I choose it is because it’s how the human body of both genders is made to function. Natural is a turn on, the others are not. And I’m willing to be a father and take responsibility if a woman gets pregnant. I only associate with women who are also mature enough to be mothers too. So I guess if a person doesn’t want to have the risk, don’t have the sex.

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like quite a prude. Lol

[SitBackRelax]

What’s prudish about loving sex with a woman? I just love it the way it turns me on which is 100% naturally vaginal. You’re trying to tell me however that I should hate the vagina in leu of something not made for my penis. To me it’s no different than telling me to go do it with a dog or cat. There’s no risk of pregnancy there either but again, there is no attraction or drive because it’s not natural. Lol 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not trying to tell you what to like. You're the one who did that here with your question. Come on dude, how about a little intellectual honesty?

[MrOracle]

@Princess_Sasha has it right, I think: I've run across women who have this same policy, and it's because they can't take hormonal BC for some reason and are afraid of getting pregnant, so their rule is "oral and anal only." I suspect that guys who want this have probably been with a woman who had that policy and perhaps got used to it.

[DizzyDesii]

Im all for vaginal sex. Giving is a secondary interest. Receiving is a bonus. I also love making out and masturbating eachother as well as getting my tits sucked on. Anal is not an option with me

[loves2learn]

Very bizarre. Vaginal sex is my favorite.

[SitBackRelax]

My favorite too. It’s what I long for. The connection, the amazing feeling inside, the warmth, wetness, and the comfort. Takes me over the edge every time without fail and I feel satisfaction. I've never tried anal and never will. The few times I received oral I ended up just sliding in vaginally anyway which made her happier and we both finished with a smile and in orgasmic bliss.

[loves2learn]

We often start with oral but almost always end with vaginal. It is certainly not a replacement.

[pickedcrisps]

I am a vaginal and anal only guy.

I cannot stand oral. Oral grosses me out. It's hard finding a woman who's never done oral and never wants oral neither to give it to me either.

And if only she could be into anal 🤪🤪😱

[SixFootSexy]

A major factor for non-penetration sex, is that it reduces the risk of accidental pregnancy to almost zero. If you’re dating and not sure you want a baby, don’t want to do birth control for one reason or another, oral is a decent alternative.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s bizarre. I love vaginal and oral sex. Don’t like anal.

[Cheechee4me]

That’s mainly popular with dead beat men or people watch too much porn.

[Twalli]

If you don't want a kid and want to have raw sex, anal and oral are better

[Quigly]

Makes perfect sense,
Faggots want men to be gay.
They want you to like assholes cause other men have them.
Faggots are not normal people.

[SitBackRelax]

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve seen myself and the girl I was making love to at the time in the bedroom door mirror. It was very sexy to see her cute bum bouncing up and down when she was on top but make no mistake, my penis was in her vagina and the vagina is what I’m oriented toward exclusively when it comes to sexual connection and making love. But the ability during sex to see her face, kiss her, and interacting as two people (male and female) who love each other deeply is more important than seeing her butt, breasts, and even vagina for that matter.

[OnTheLevel]

I've never met anyone who was oral and anal only