There's a certain girl I stopped talking to since almost a year and yet I keep finding her very sexually attractive, although first not. What's wrong?

[Anonymous]

So yeah as the title says, there's this former female friend of mine whom I dropped since she is kinda toxic and in the process I discovered she's not a good friend for me I also found she's kinda like a reverse version similar to my brother and another person I dropped. She's like the male version of them, not the same but still pretty goddamned similar like being emotionally unavailable and not able to take responsibility for bad behaviour (often blame shifting on whatever). And I really can't fucking stand, that's also one of the main reasons why I dropped those two friends and my brother as a part of my presence and future.

Anyways during that period I began to find my former female friend very attractive and a huge turn on to fantasise about, even though I first didn't find her attractive, even an ugly ogress. And now I find her kinda ugly but that makes her somehow sooooo hot!!! According to a part of my brains then, haha.

I also looked up and found that it's just my brains wanting to take out my frustration on her soul by sexually dominating her, it's a sexual attraction of domination and rage or something.

You can find it when you look up: Have you ever been extremely attracted to someone you otherwise hated? On Quora, I can't post links now, sadly.

Anyways, what do you think of this? Have you experienced something similar? What are other possible causes according to you?

And most importantly: How the hell do I get rid of this enormous sexual attraction? I sometimes feel like it's sometimes even a (romantic) crush but at the same time not since I have enough reasons to stay away from her and already do to protect myself from getting hurt as a friend. It already happened with my brother a countless times and I want this to stop, now do I just need to get rid of my sexual feelings for her. Any tips? It seems almost impossible to get her out of my mind sexually.

Lol sometimes I feel like such a filthy freak. I appreciate any help.

[DiegoO]

You have your feelings mix up. Is not like she's your friend anymore. Anyway, do you hate her? Did she do you harm? If it's so, why would you want to have sex with her? To fuck her and dump her? Would that be a punishment? If it happened she would be a bitch you fucked? Instead of an ex friend?

Not sure how much harm she did to you, but I think its pretty normal, at certain point, to have those sexual desires, unless they are product of rape fantasiea (NOT NORMAL). I think those sexual desires of been with someone who was your friend or ex, are common, because in a way, its a mourn of what you had; and a confirmation that at some level, there was a sexual atraction, despite the relationship you had.

[Asker]

Well I wouldn't know if I hate her, I just feel disappointed that I invested time in her like I did with other people (males too ofc) and really try to show (without pushing too hard) that they matter to me just to eventually discover you never got really appreciated and you're just an asshole to them. It just kinda hurts and for some reason after that, that was the moment where the enormous sexual attraction came up. I only had it with girls since I'm straight but with her it was the strongest, like really strong. And like you said, I want to fuck her to prove a point and take out my frustration but maybe this could mean I had long repressed my sexual desires for her as friends, since I do not simp after girls that I see as friends. It's like trying to fuck your sister, which is beyond just off-putting and gross. It's one of the sickest things I can think of between relatives. Anyways, I guess I just want to fuck and dump her but it's just a stupid feeling that doesn't solve anything once I act on it. I want to move on anyway, but these feelings are starting to get frustrating after like a year. Luckily I know I can handle this and it doesn't impair my daily functioning in life.

[Asker]

And no, don't worry. Rape is not cool!!!

[DiegoO]

Good to know you're getting over it. Friendships not always last, relationships not always last. It's ok, it gives you the reason to analyze what happened and to strive for better.

[Asker]

Yes totally 😊😊😊😊 Just weird this time I want to express my frustration through sexual domination 😂😂😂😂

[Avicenna]

Sure, it happens sometimes

[Asker]

I guess so, thanks for letting me know I guess... 😅

[Iron_Man]

Get therapy

[In_Trance]

You posted this already

[Asker]

That's weird, I edited my post because it first said I needed a higher level to post it.