Is my husband bi or gay?

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Please I need honest opinions or if anyone else has gone through this. So my husband has been insisting to F me in the ass. I just don’t feel comfortable doing that and it doesn’t turn me on when he tries to touch me there. So that night he freaking positioned himself like if I were to do him doggy style and he told me to lick his butthole. I started to laugh and say what the F why r u laying like that? Then he fixed himself like if he was ready for me to ride him when he grabs both knees and says stick your biggest finger in my ass hole. I was in shock like we have never done that. I didn’t know what to do and outta no where he stuck his big middle finger in his anus and started to go in and out fast while moaning. WE HAVE NEVER DONE THAT BEFORE! I felt bad I got turned off by him doing that. Then he insisted on me doing it now and he said stick it in more but my fingers aren’t that big and long like his. So he took my hand off and did it himself again. He was saying “that’s so bomb” after that I said can u go down on me since I sucked it (I didn’t mention the fingering) he said yeah. He gave me the shittiest head ever so I said can you just stick it in and his penis went soft and he couldn’t get it up. I tried jerking him off a bit and he wouldn’t even look at me like he usually does. There was no kissing either or touching of my breasts. I just told him forget it and he said ok. And walked away. I feel very confused. I know recently a lot of women have been losing their husbands because they want to be gay instead. I’m afraid of that. I’ve been scared to ask him if he’s bi or gay. ( That same night he did that he had gone to the gym with my nephew but ditched him to go to the sauna where he said he met a real fit guy and talked to home for twenty minutes.) our relationship hasn’t been that great lately he hardly ever talks to me anymore. Please help me!

Quigly · Accepted Answer

Yes , he's gay. Everyone has an asshole and it's not what makes a girl a girl. Keep in mind, From behind you aren't really any different from a guy. You don't have any lady things on your back. All your lady stuff is on the front. If he enjoys anal doggy so much he's probably gay dreaming that you are a guy from behind too.

Yes, you are being faggot raped from behind by a gay guy

Tip: Wear an over the shoulder shirt to bed. Whenever you are with a guy and about to do doggy. From behind you now look more like a girl with a shirt over your shoulders instead of a boy from behind. It's better for the heterosexual guy and You are Kicking the faggot out of your bedroom.

The Bible is against sodomy cause it is homosexuality, it's perversion.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

He's probably not gay. My guess is that he's read about pegging and prostate massage and how it's pleasurable for the guy. He may have watched some porn about it and wants to try it. That he asked you to do that is actually good.

I understand your initial reaction. Maybe you can do some research about it and decide if it's something you'd be willing to do.

hhadeshatesme · Accepted Answer

The only thing you could really do is sit down and have a talk. The anal play itself does not automatically make him gay. The ignoring your discussion and arguing about other things could be concerning but it could have also been how you brought it up. If you keep bringing it up and he continues to dodge talking about it chances are he’s gay.

bones_20 · Accepted Answer

Well unless you have recently had a sex change and became a man or he has specifically said to you he is gay or bi then I’d say no he’s not.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Well the sexuality thing, chances are it’s a kink.

there is a potential he’s bi curious, but unless you have seen him checking out other guys etc, then likely not.

The only way you can sort things is sit down and talk to each other.

Get the marriage sorted first, then think about the sex side of things.

Have a sit down and discuss likes, dislikes, kinks etc and listen to each other, what’s being said, what’s implied and what’s not being said.

MCheetah · Answer

If you have to even ask, chances are he's gay. Although a lot of "straight" men claim to be into anal. NOT ME, though! Would never do anal.

DukeDango · Answer

Yup. Not 100% guaranteed, but I wouldn't bet against it.

DonkeyDan · Answer

No he's not gay or bi, the male g spot is the prostate and it feels good to have it stimulated. It can be common for partners to do ass play together, just because a guy likes anal stimulation from a woman doesn't make him gay!

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

Wow. You're husband is not straight. That's for sure. You need to have a serious talk with him. This doesn't sound good.

Manchild2018 · Answer

He wants to fuck a female ass. He is straight. Wtf is wrong with you asking that?

joeldalton · Answer

If you are a woman, he wanted a woman to put a finger in his ass, which makes him not gay. If he wants a man to finger his ass, he’s gay.

Mangospacho · Answer

Probably not gay. I like the same thing because anal does feel really good. He is probably just really sensitive back there too. As for him going soft, it does happen sometimes.

Twalli · Answer

Anal stimulation is pleasurable for a lot of people. It doesn't mean a guy is homosexual if he likes it.

Hanrej · Answer

He's not gay but you're still about to lose your husband.

minuteman12 · Answer

Wait. Did he want to fuck you in the ass or did he want you to fuck his ass?

nudeNhorny · Answer

buy a strap-on and use it on him in your bedroom activities, he might just want anal stimulation, doesn't necessarily means he is interested in men.

anylolone · Answer

Don't know but it has no relation to this.

Deku2009 · Answer

Might be a phase

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Some straight guys like anal fingering.. I myself discovered during a massage when the girl fingers me.. I found it pleasurable.. do it or he will search for someone to do it. no I don't think he is gay or he wudnt have done it with u