Guys, how important is this to you during sex?

Question

How important is it for you to have your woman orgasm during sex? Do you feel pressure to make her cum? Does it make you feel less manly if you can’t make her orgasm?

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

Owing mostly to the circumstances of my youth, I don't put a whole lot of importance on seeming (or feeling) "manly". What I am, I simply am. That said, yes, it's important to me- but mostly out of a sense of wanting her to enjoy it, too (and, frankly, plain pragmatism- if she does, she's more likely to want to do it again).

The thing is, though, that there's more to enjoying sex than having orgasms- there's a lot of pleasure in causing them, too, especially to someone you love. And sometimes time and/or circumstances make it impossible. That's okay to me; I know it'll be made up later, either way. I also know that fixation on a strict one-to-one basis can keep you from enjoying the moment. I've encountered some real difficulties in getting across the idea of "Don't worry about it; just let me take care of you and my turn will come later"; a lot of women (probably a lot of men, too, but I'm straight) feel guilty if they don't keep score.

Come to think of it, anorgasmia is an issue, too (though not one I've encountered). There are lots of other pleasant sensations in sex, and while I suspect I'd have some difficulties with that, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker or anything.

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

It's probably the most important thing for me, I feel it is my duty to make her cum, and if I can't then a failed as a man. Luckily that hardly ever happens, I usually try and make sure she cums at least once from foreplay before we even start sex, that way I know she'll at the very least cum once, but normally it's multiple times. There is quite a lot of pressure on us to make a girl cum, after all that is the end game of sex really. If I've cum and she hasn't then I need to keep working.

PenkWing · Answer

It’s as important as she tells me. Some women will tell you upfront that they can’t cum during sex, or that they have a hard time with it, and just want to enjoy the act without thinking too much about the outcome. If she wants to have an orgasm, I have fun making it happen. The important is to be open and honest when you talk about it.

I don’t think it has anything to do with masculinity. Women who have sex with women have orgasms way more frequently.

ohshee · Answer

That is the goal one two three times. There's no pressure I mean that's what I'm doing it for to get her as many times as I can it is my turn

AndyOh · Answer

It is very important for me to get my lady off. I don't feel pressure to make it happen. I just have fun and enjoy her body. It helps to have great oral skills too!!

buddysboy16 · Answer

Extremely important. I want her to be able to get off and thoroughly enjoy herself. It brings me more joy hearing and seeing her get off

Fireguy17 · Answer

No pressure, just being a good partner.  If you make sex good, great for her she is probably more likely to want to do it more often.

Andres77 · Answer

That's my primary purpose!!! When she's exhausted, then it's My turn.

Mr1derful · Answer

It's always an important priority to me! I never finish and end, without her getting hers! Whether that's my hands, a toy, or oral, she's finishing!!

Chris_68 · Answer

no, no pressureif she doesn't orgasm during sex, I'll make her cum afterwards

Wise4myage · Answer

Its very important to me. I feel bad when the girl doesn't cum.

Jerre · Answer

I always make my girls cum numerous times during foreplay, eating her and then with my cock.

KeithLane · Answer

I feel the woman must cum and she must cum first. I feel less manly unless there are extenuating circumstances like alcohol involved.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I definitely prefer to make her cum

CubaPirate · Answer

It's my primary objective tbh

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Its very important just as important as my cumin and no I don't feel pressure I just have fun with it

MasterKS · Answer

its most important part of a successful sex.

Zlantur2 · Answer

Really important. I make sure she cums at least once before I cum.

Nightmoon12 · Answer

It’s important to me because her needs are first mine are last I would rather give pleasure then receive it. Also I try to make them cum twice before I even cum once.