Why am I not good enough?

[Anonymous]

I have tried very hard to make my husband happy. We have been married awhile and have 2 kids but no matter what I do he's either watching porn or going on social media and liking sexually explicit photos of women including ones the women label "milf" and calling them hot. I have seen the kinds of photos he likes and despite my confronting him and showing proof of what I found he flat out lies about it.
I follow him on social media too. He never initiates sex but when he's in the mood which is in fact quite rare I am expected to do it. If I dont initiate it never happens one time it went so far as 6 months without. Now i am pretty sure that's not normal. I am right in front of him but instead he wants to look at social media sluts who are also on onlyfans instead of the wife who is craving his attention.
I know men give the bullshit reason of its "natural, it's just what men do and it has nothing to do with the woman we are with" which is a crock of shit because if it wasn't such a big deal why do guys go to great lengths to hide it? And if I did the same with a guy he would be furious. I am not even interested in doing that though. I married him and have eyes for him only. I dont have the want or need to stare at a man who isn't my husband.
I can't believe how rare it is nowadays to find someone who is actually faithful.
Its disgusting and insulting what he's doing and I am seriously put off for sex anymore with him after finding out what I found. How am I supposed to know he's not fantasizing fucking them when he's having sex with me?
And you girls who say it's not a big deal for your guys to do that and you don't care are lying and have no self respect. I may not be the hottest girl on the planet but i deserve to be treated with respect and not like I am crazy for caring about my feelings and more about this marriage then he obviously does.
He has a hand... he might as well get used to using it.

[DonkeyDan]

No it's not natural if it's effecting the relationship. I buy having a normal sex life with his wife and occasionally looking at a girl is bit a big deal but what you are describing is not even close to normal. He has a problem and if you've already talked about it and he is lying about it I don't know what else to suggest other than leave him, or at least threaten to of he doesn't change his ways. Maybe marriage counseling could help, but by the sounds of it he probably won't go. It's something I see far too often as a question on this site, boyfriend or husband obsessed with either porn or Instagram models. It's pretty sad really especially when he has a willing partner, these guys are pathetic.

[summiter]

I am sorry you have to deal with his issues. It seems like he does not want to change things. I agree that he needs to get use to using his hand if he wants an orgasm. Cut him off from sex. Will he go to counseling?

If he does not want to change I hate to say it but you deserve better and need to move on.

[nickiyo13]

I know where u coming from mine says he don't think of sex like that we'ver anyway I hate the fact I have to wait till he wants it shit fk that I got toys but my husband seems more distant these days but my life bout the same

[Hangry06]

I mean you can't expect giys to be oblivious to other girls just because they got a woman. Besides being married to 1 person, men are basically defying their non monogamous nature. You have to give em credit

[LiamSawyer]

He's immature and it appears is addicted to porn. He obviously doesn't take his responsibilities seriously. What a husband and have and share should be special and not involve what he's into. He is just degrading himself and your marriage. I feel for you. Do you think you could get him to go to marriage counseling or attend an addiction centre?

[LiamSawyer]

Also I highly doubt this has anything to do with wether you're good enough, so don't beat yourself up for his unfaithful actions.

[bubbakong2006]

You deserve a man that appreciates you and has your needs in mind as well as his if anything is going to be kinky you both need to discuss it now if you mutually agree then you will both enjoy it if not it should not happen and if you aren’t enough for him leave he doesn’t respect or love you and you will be better off

[IncognitoBandito]

He sounds like he has issues being in a serious relationship

[Twalli]

He's a POS. Most guys aren't. Guys will look at sexual explicit pictures and videos. The only guy who won't, also won't look at you because he's literally blind. The problem is when a guy chooses those over sex. I masturbate daily. I don't want to, but I can't have sex so I do it.

[In_Trance]

You're not because you don't think you can be

[MasterKS]

divorce is there for it.