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As a Christian man why do I feel like I’m struggling right now? Why is it so tempting to give up and return to watching porn and masturbating?

I’m getting horny all the time and I really just wanna pull my penis out and satisfy it.

I want to have a girl suck it. I want to experiment with having sex. I want to chase after my own self pleasures in a way that doesn’t satisy God.

Obviously I’ve been a virgin this entire time but just four days ago I had such a pleasurable interaction jerking off in front of an attractive Spanish girl on camera and she teased me while showing her big beautiful butt and round breasts.

But I now feel really guilty about it.

I wish it could’ve been more meaningful than just a one time interaction.

That interaction made me realize how much I wanted an actual companion. How lonely I truly was.

I wish I could’ve gotten to know her for who she truly is as a person.

But it’s been four days since that happened and I’m honestly struggling right now.

My testicles are in pain from the sexual thoughts I’ve been experiencing but I’ve been resisting the urge to return to my old sinful ways so far.

But it’s only been three days.

And I feel as though I am destined to fail and fall short again.

I want to mate with attractive women and cum inside of them. I want to recklessly impregnate as many women as possible and I think dirty thoughts any time I see intimate parts of their body.

Yes it’s natural. Yes it’s a normal way to feel.

But I have a higher obligation to resist temptation as a Christian.

And I’m starting to doubt myself and whether or not I’m really making the right decision.

Before I would satisy my sexual urges whenever they came up but now that I am not satisying them they appear to be much more frequent and chronic than they usually were in the past.
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  • Torturing yourself, and yes it's torture because a man or woman read an old book and somehow gleaned from it that an all powerful being that knows all things and is perfect in every way as well as directly creating you and everything doesn't want you to do certain things you are clearly designed to do said that doing what what you are clearly capable of doing ( our arms reach our pekers bro. If God truly didn't want us jacking it we'd have arms like a tyrannosaurus. Now there is one pissed off lizard.) is a baddie? So you are supposed to suffer now in life so you don't end up in this bad place that may or may not exist but you'll not know untill you are dead. Brother, think man. Just think. Use your head. And ignore anything that requires ignorance be applied in order to have staying power.

    • I do not wish to dishonor my God and his instructions. I live to serve him not myself

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just masturbate and get some relief. As one user joked, "At this age you've got sperm coming out of your ears." It's a bit more crude and comical than I would have said it, but he's absolutely right in the sentiment.
    You are not a sinner. You're a human with raging hormones.

    Work on yourself (so you don't spend all day every day looking at porn on the internet), learn some things, work on a future, read some articles about relationships and women. You can't necessarily make a relationship happen out of thin air, but you also can't come at young girls with this much sexual angst. They'll see it a mile away and almost all (or all) will reject you.
    But you also can't wait for girls to approach you. So make yourself into someone they want to know. Dress decently, learn some manners, some good communication and conversation skills, develop some passions other than sex, and in the mean time get rid of some of that angst. I, for one, will not be judging you.

    • I don’t spend all day on the internet though because I am in college. However I do regularly visit porn sites at least a couple days a week. Concerning women, I do not look upon them lustfully in public as I would be embarrassed and uncomfortable doing so however sexual thoughts always rage to my mind when I am alone in my bedroom under the covers looking at social media pictures of women. Regarding my status as always being single, my conversation skills around women have always sucked as a guy who was born with autism. However guys being the less social beings they are tend to not mind as much.

    • You're fine. You're just an average red-blooded male. Nothing to be ashamed of. No one owns your mind. Fantasize away.

    • I know its natural but I feel called to serve God

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  • Well masturbating isn't sinful. I'm a christian and I masturbate and do other sexual things but not sex. The important thing is follow God and do his plan of salvation and continue to remain faithful until death. The thing is to avoid sex before marriage as it is sinful. So go ahead and masturbate but remember to love and serve God always. If it still bothers you then pray about it and that'll help you.

    • Are you sure that it’s ok? I thought the Bible spoke against doing that

    • I'm sure it is ok

    • What makes you so certain of that?

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  • Go for it! What's god gonna do, pull your dick off? Strike you blind? If it's perfectly okay for the pope and his minions to molest captive children at the vatican, why shouldn't it be okay for you to pull your pud or fuck a girl when you want to? I haven't fucked a girl in almost 26 years!! If there WAS a god, he would've awarded me with a MUCH better life than I have now, thanks to my greedy, evil ex-sisters, one of whom lives and breathes the bible but, she SEVERELY fucked over both me AND mom!!! Why does that worthless cunt have a great life after all the evil she's done to us but, I have to live in hell, even though I'm a MUCH better person than she'll EVER be?

    • You do not understand God

    • There's nothing to understand! It doesn't exist!

    • A very terrible fate awaits you my friend. I do hope you come to repent and find God some day.

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  • Because you're horny.

    • But I don’t want to be tho

    • It doesn't matter. You're a guy.

    • I know but I dont have a girlfriend

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  • I admire your beliefs but I am a Christian and do not believe that masturbation is a sin. It is normal, healthy and it feels great! Enjoy your body and the pleasure it can give you.

    • My priest said it is sinful though because masturbating is a temptation.

    • With all due respect I do not think priests should be giving out sexual advice. Medical advice says that masturbation has health benefits.

    • Of course it has benefits but it is not absolutely necessary

  • You're at an age right now where you've got sperm coming out your ears. As a Christian, I know it's a sin, but sometimes you have to jack off to relieve yourself. Keep in mind, every person on this earth is flawed and a sinner. We have an emptiness inside us, and we try to fill that emptiness with SOMETHING. Some people try to fill that emptiness with sex or porn, others are into money, possessions, power, drugs, alcohol, whatever. These things only fill that emptiness for a short time, and then you need another fix. Even if you have a wife that lays you any time you want it, there's still that emptiness. All you can do is ask God's forgiveness, but if you have God truly in you, you'll find that all those wants have a lesser impression in your life.

    • I do not wish to knowingly commit sin though. I feel terrible putting my will above God’s

    • We're flawed beings in this world, physical beings who have lust. Actually, as you get older, the lust kind of fades away. God loves us all as his children, even though we do things that annoy him. Just keep asking God for forgiveness of your sins every day, and ask God to enter your heart and guide you. It won't happen overnight, but you'll slowly become a better person, and you won't be thinking about lust so much. In the meantime, do as @AmandaYVR suggests. Work on yourself, get into activities that expand your horizons, give you self-confidence, and help you break out of some shells. Personally, I took up ice skating lessons long ago. I wasn't trying to 'get' a girl, but along the way, I started chatting with women. If they didn't want to talk, then I'd just go back to working on some ice skating moves.

    • I understand. So you are not encouraging me to masturbate but to become involved in other things to take the focus away from masturbating.

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  • Most of what you wrote is reasonable.

    But this part is very problematic:
    "I want to mate with attractive women and cum inside of them. I want to recklessly impregnate as many women as possible."


    Is that what you REALLY think? Is that what you really want?
    Because if so, then your desires are evil.


    God designed us to be with ONE woman. Not multiple.

    • I know bro its just when I am horny I think of chasing after all attractive women and dominating them

    • @WhiteBoyChill Nothing wrong with fantasizing. I'm just saying don't let yourself become a "dog" in real life, if you know what I mean.

  • There are things about religion that are positive. I also see things that put negative stress and might lead to mental health instability. As humans, we can't live a divine life always and the people that tell you what is right and wrong, might be doing things in private that you might see as hypocritical. Occasional masturbation is healthy for your prostrate gland. And one last thing, you don't have to be a Christian to be a good man.

    • I know bro but it is my duty to serve God every way I can

    • Without going insane, yes.

  • This seems like a question you should be asking God and not posting on here

  • Well I was baptized as Catholic but I don't go to Church and don't find the need to live the bible as man has written it word for word. There are many things that God would find offense too certainly he may not like our cardinal shortcomings as it were but God has made each of us to have shortcomings and we are all offered absolution for them if we acknowledge them as just human nature. Go out and live be the best you can be make a woman happy and be happy that is Gods gift too us. Restraint is good but there is a time for restraint and I time too let yourself live and this my friend is one of those times. The choice is ultimately up to each of us but there is no wrong or right here.

  • Well, technically speaking Jesus said that we shouldn't lust after another woman that isn't our wife as we are committing adultery in our minds and hearts, and that also counts as adultery. And when watching porn, people are lusting after those women//men.

    • Yes exactly right. How can I stop doing that

    • I would limit the exposure to such stimulants and find something to occupy your mind and body with (workout,...). If I remember correctly, it takes about 90 days for our brains to rewire and get rid of addiction to porn.

    • Yikes. That is a very long time then

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