Guys, How come my boyfriend expects sex every time we see each other?

[Anonymous]

Every time we meet he wants sex or head. Is it normal? He is my first long time boyfriend.

[Keyboardkat]

You know, there is a general misconception between men and women. Men's brains and women's brains are hardwired differently. Men have been programmed since we all lived in caves to find the sights and sounds and behavior of women exciting, attractive and erotic! Women need to feel that they know and can trust the person, that the guy will be there for them. Who the person is and is much more important to most women. The fact is that both guys and girls share a misconception. Each think the other looks at sex the same way they do! This is why, when a girl says no to a guy, he oftentimes doesn't believe her! And women are sometimes shocked when guys seem to expect them to be ready to jump into bed on the first date.
When I was a teenager at a sleepaway camp, we once had a session with a counselor on dating. He said, "It is male weakness to look upon the girl as a kind of toilet facility." We guys turned red with embarrassment, because we knew how close to the truth that could be! The girls looked shocked! They hadn't had a clue!
This doesn't mean that all guys act like animals in heat, although some do, usually guys who have been brought up wrong by fathers who don't respect women. This is the root of the old double standard.
I don't believe in the double standard. I never did. I think guys have an obligation to behave in a moral and responsible way just as much as women do. A real man doesn't look upon a woman as a consumable. A real man treats women with respect.
So the answer is, if your relationship with your guy has deteriorated to the point where sex becomes for him the main attraction for your dates, it's because you have let this happen. Next time, ask him, "What about me as a person?" THAT'S got to come first! And you know what else? We've thrown out all the old values, like saving it for your husband or wife. Maybe that was a big mistake! Maybe there was a lot to be said for those old ways!
I hope you've found this at least a little helpful. Maybe I'm just rambling too much.

[notonehunglow]

well said

[massb]

Well think about it thats the only thing that seperates a relationship from a friendship is sex. So obviously. But would you rather him ask you or go find it somewhere else. Because eventually if you stop he's going to stop begging and asking you. Then he will go find it somewhere else just saying

[MTC29]

Normal, especially if he's in the same age range as yourself.

[ChrisMaster69]

Having a lot of sex is fine.

Expecting to have sex is wrong.

Neither partner should be in a position to Expect sex every time, some times we are tired, can’t be arsed etc.

[RobT312]

... because he loves you.
it’s normal... have sex!

[Asker]

I mean sometimes I just have sex or give him head because I want to make him happy but just do not feel like it sometimes

[RobT312]

Ahh got it. Well either he has the bigger sex drive, or maybe sex is the most important part of the relationship for him. Make sure you have more than sex in common... I had a relationship like that and it didn’t last because sex was the priority

[Spookydood]

Considering your age range I'd say that's entirely normal.

[Genoside]

You must really turn him on. You should feel good about it.

Obv. don’t do it if you don’t want to, but you shouldn’t be bothered that he’s so into you.

[Asker]

Ya thanks

[slatyb]

Seems pretty normal. Is that all you do together?

[RealMarek]

Yes, that is normal especially at your age.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Not all guys want sex with their girlfriends, If he is doing this all time and it bothers you then you need to speak up and tell him If the truth hurts then he will get to his senses

[rcljr]

That’s normal, men have a primal sex drive that never shuts off.

[whosDmann]

Kind of depends, if it's still that cute early stage in the relationship, that's kinda normal but both of u should be that horny.. wut would happen if u say not today? Would he break up with you?