Hello, I need a bit help to understand a man here?

[zzzzvqz]

So, I met this guy online, we talked a lot, and we got to know each other. Even though he was very busy with work, he still found a time to reply to me which I appreciate. However, we had a problem when the talk turned to sexual. I had a bad experience about meeting men online and they only want talk about sex. It wasn’t I was looking for, so I was really uncomfortable and left. I did tell him, we wouldn’t work out. He didn’t give me answer. A week after, I was online in this dating apps and found that we were still matched. I was wondering why he hadn’t unmatched and asked my self, was I too hasty? I felt bad and in the end mentioned about this and asked him to unmatched me if he wanted to.
A week passed, he hadn’t unmatched. So asked him again if he wanted to clear the air between us. Next day he unmatched me and texted me that it wasn’t my fault, he had a high level of libido and didn’t want to put me in this mess.. I did apologize to him for my rash action and he was kind to mention that it wasn’t my fault and I was kind for feeling guilty to him.
We finally had a talk where we agreed that we had separate ways. But when I was soo sad it came this way, he suddenly mentioned he had this naughty thinking about me. Which kinda caught me in surprise and made me think “How come you are thinking about this at this moment now?” I meant I was sad! Didn’t he feel it too? I told him I was torn between laughing (at his courage to say this to my face) and lashing out, so I told him, you’d better run now. He agreed.
But 2-3 minutes again, he sent me messages but deleted them. When I asked about the deleted messages, he sent a link to a porn. Said this was what he was thinking of me.
I don’t really know what is inside his mind at that time. I want an amenadble closure, but why with his ambigous act.
Please someone enlighten me, what was he thinking about moment. I think I was the only one who feel sad that we part ways 😂 Maybe am I liking him too much?

[MrOracle]

I'm going to be very direct here: very, VERY few men - and certainly almost no "attractive" men - have any interest in a sexless relationship. I'm not saying that you need to sleep with guys on the first date - you shouldn't! - but it shouldn't shock or surprise you that guys have sexual thoughts when they're single and dating. It should in fact be the expectation, because it's the norm.

Now, it's okay if that's not your thing, especially if the guy comes on too strong (like his "sex level" was set to 90+%), but you give off the impression that your "sex level" is set to 0%, and frankly unless you are specifically seeking out asexual men, then you might as well forget dating, because when a girl appears to have a 0% "sex level", most guys are going to dump her and move on, because they don't sex to be a constant battle.

And you should not date a man that you're not willing to have sex with - again, not saying you need to have sex immediately, but if you can't see yourself having sex with a guy, then you have no business wasting his time (and money and effort) dating him or even talking to him. 99% (or more) of men who are actively trying to date are expecting sex to be part of that equation - not necessarily immediately, but relatively soon. If you can't accept that, then either stop dating and get some therapy until you can, or stick to dating "ace" (asexual) men, because they're the only ones who are going to be okay with that.

[zzzzvqz]

Ahh I see I have said to him, I was the kind of person who needs emotional attachment first. So just after few days knowing him and he expected me to respond sexting was kinda too fast for me. He did mention he couldn’t wait emotional attachment when he had a hard on. Fair enough. So we agreed on just parting ways. What baffled me was why he sent this porn link and mentioned this was what he was imagining. While knowing that giving him the respond was a big “ugh” from me. So maybe he just did it to spite me

[Turtleneck22]

He is a guy. He thinks if sex very normal. Men think of sex much more them women and yes some meet women and imagine would sex would be like. Normal to me. Sounds like for you that you should move on.

[Magicsparkle]

You both feel alone and manipulate each others as your doubt you can find what you are looking for. There is no love in here

[booksandwonders]

Talk to him about your feelings and ask him what he meant

[IncognitoBandito]

I don't know that there is much future there

[In_Trance]

He found someone else

[booksandwonders]

How do you know?

[stevie98]

I think he's looking for a dominant female with a strapon

[Anonymous]

he's more interested in hooking up. Think about it like a drug addiction. Its all fun when he thinks you have the stuff but when he realizes you dont than he just wants to look for it somewhere else