Why am I never good enough for anyone?

[mackenziestar]

I think if every guy knew he had the chance chance be with Margot Robbie or Megan Fox they would take it in a heartbeat.
meaning beauty isn't in the eye of the beholder I use dating apps, and whenever someone conventially attractive comes on there. all the dudes flock over her. So to say someone would find me beautiful is bullshit.
I have a conventially attractive sister. guys come up to me to ask about her. she's never had trouble finding men. she's a bartender and gets numbers all the time. she met her now husband and got married. We look nothing a like. my ex would stare at her. I've been out of town at a bar and no one wanted me. so why even try? I'm not even pretty. I'm boring, and have social anxiety which makes me quiet. my own mom told me to lose weight so I could find someone. my friends always have guys after them and think every guy is crushing on them. I know models too and girls who are actually pretty. so don't tell me beauty is in the eye of the beholder cause that's bullshit. i put a photo of us on a social forum and guys chose her. And even in the bbw group I'm in. guys have called her hot. guys made me feel dumb even thinking someone would love me. I got told to stand away from them and maybe someone would approach me. got told to go out alone so there's no distractions.
doesn't matter if you have confidence, pretty privilege exists. it's embarrassing, I'm embarrassing. I don't fit in looks wise with my family. I'm slow and boring. who wouldn't wanna date them? lol
truth hurts. I'm not good enough. I never get out, when I do I can't meet anyone. I've had my friends for 10+ years. I've never been approached. ever.
the next time a dude tries to tell me they like big women I'm laughing in their face
have fun following half naked chick's chick's watching p0rn cause you'd rather lust after other woman than your lady. But no one wants to talk about that huh? :) you'll never be good enough. Why am I never good enough?

[MrOracle]

Looks have always been a factor and always will be. I'm not sure who told you otherwise, but that's a very widely accepted fact. Having said that, it's rare that natural looks alone are a complete dealbreaker. But if you compound that with being overweight, or not taking care of your skin or hair, or not dressing well, or having a bad attitude, or being shy or withdrawn - all of those things are going to make it much more difficult.

If you had a twin sister who naturally looked just like you, but took care of herself, maintained her weight, dressed well, and was friendly and outgoing, she would have little trouble finding a good guy. Would that guy look like a guy from a boy band or a WB show? No. If a girl is a 5/10, she's not getting a 9/10 guy no matter what she does. But she'd have no trouble getting a 5/10 guy, and if she had a great, fun personality, she *might* get a 6/10 guy.

I have no idea what you look like, but if you have, say, 5/10 potential, but you've let yourself drop to a 2/10, that's your own fault and you need to own up to it. You can also CHANGE that and maximize your potential if you choose, but you're going to have to work hard for it and make some sacrifices along the way. Or you can stay a 2/10. That choice is up to you. I can tell you this, though: you'd be way happier as a 5 than as a 2, even if being a 5 is far more work to get there.

I wasn't born with the blessing of good looks myself, but I don't blame the world. I know what my potential is and I learned to work that to my benefit. You could do the same if you wanted to.

[mackenziestar]

You are one of one of the most shallow ass fucking users on here. Absolutely disgusting

[mackenziestar]

You realize that some me love big big women right?

[MrOracle]

Nothing I wrote is specifically about me - I was making generalizations about people in general. You can convince yourself of whatever you wish, but you'll also be the one to suffer the consequences of your choices, not me. Do some men love big big women? Sure. But, as a rule, they are men that the majority of women could consider "low value men." I didn't make these rules, I'm just explaining to you how society works. You can use that information to maximize your outcomes, or not. That's completely up to you. But you won't change the way society works. The world is as it is.

[mackenziestar]

Low value men my ass. You're truly despicable

[DonkeyDan]

I wouldn't want either if those 2 thanks. Attraction isn't all about looks, yes initial attraction is enhanced by looks but I've been attracted to people that I've found attractive and then found they have zero substance once you start talking to them. If you aren't happy with your look get a make over, but once you've reeled someone in yiu have to have the personality to keep them interested. Do things to improve yourself, find hobbies, take evening classes, join groups. Basically be the interesting person that someone wants to get to know.

[Frank_Woods]

Don't throw in the towel. If your body image is the issue, work on it. It takes time of course, but in the meantime worry about yourself and forget about relationships. I am kinda in the same boat right now, worrying about my health and well-being over relationships.

[mackenziestar]

Why am I not good enough now? Why do I have to change? Lmao don't you get it? Or you just trying to be a dick.

[Frank_Woods]

You have a choice in life. You can be sorry for yourself, or make a change in your life for the better. You can have a poor mindset or a rich mindset. It's up to you.

[mackenziestar]

Why do I have to change my PHYSICAL appearance? I wasn't talking about my mind I was talking about my physical appearance.

[Frank_Woods]

Again, it's up to you. Being a healthy weight is better than being overweight or underweight. If you want to be healthy, that is a personal choice. If you choose to aim towards a healthy lifestyle, just know it will take time and determination.

[mackenziestar]

You aren't answering my question.

[Frank_Woods]

You think you aren't good enough for anyone because you have a poor mindset and are seeking for approval. You are indicating to others that you are self-conscious about yourself because you bring up your body image. The problem is your body image bothers yourself. You can either love yourself for who you are, or improve yourself as you see fit.

[MCheetah]

"Why am I never good enough?"

Could be your personality... Or your depression. If you PM me, I can give you some no-BS feedback.

[ohshee]

I have a challenge for you. I have found that most people do ask questions out here you're not serious at all. They just like to hear themselves talk prove me wrong send me a message please I will tell you what my challenge is let's see how bad do you really want what you want

[PositiveNote]

mackenziestar, first of all, don't give up, girl! Most of the time when you can't come up with fish after you spent a long time at a fishing hole, you will move to a new spot, and get catch a fish! It's not the fisherman/fisherworman's problem; and it's not the fish's problem!

If it's possible, a change of friends or places to meet friends is what you need. You have to "widen your horizons" a bit. (I'm sorry, I really hate that petty quote, but it is kinda right in the this instance.)

[boggboss]

We have spoken about this plenty of times over a long while yes its shit yes u don't feel u should have to change but if u know guys don't find you attractive how u look now clearly u will have to change things and your negative way of thinking as why would someone want to date u when your yourself don't think people should date u

[mackenziestar]

Why do I have to change my looks? Lol

[boggboss]

Because people like u say are clearly not attracted to them to the point you yourself say your ugly so if u think your ugly why would someone else find u attractive

[boggboss]

Like I am confused by that point

[mackenziestar]

So it's more of my mindset?

[boggboss]

Yes that plays a massive part

[mackenziestar]

I'm still gonna work on losing some weight but I won't ever be thin. I'm just gonna love myself and be nice. That's all I can do. I don't know if I wanna be the prettiest girl because looks fade.

[boggboss]

Ofc looks fade and nobody is asking you to become super thin but we both know it's harder for bigger girls to find partners

[mackenziestar]

A lot of guys like bigger women. 🤷‍♀️

[mackenziestar]

Why would you say that it's my mindsey and now it's weight cause no guys want big women. Make up your damn mind.

[boggboss]

I never said its only one thing yes many guys like bugger girls but we both know it's harder for them and even if u was skinny the way your mindset is would make it hard for u too find a partner so its too ossuesif u read what I said I said your mindset plays a massive part not the whole part

[RichSD]

Your first sentence was incorrect, neither Margot Robbie nor Megan Fox are remotely my type and I'd politely turn them down. I'm also not a fan of porn. You have a lot of assumptions about people that isn't true from the get-go, so maybe your conclusion isn't as certain as you assume it is.

[adolfohittando]

you are for someone

[Redeye2020]

Well that is kinda rough on yourself. Can't say about the weight thing but I've see many women who are at a health weight limit and are not considered hot or pretty, but they are attractive because they look very health and are feeling good about themselves. If you feel like that about yourself maybe it will come through to other people.

[cookiecrusher]

Fat/oveweight is the opposite of hot for most men.

I'm also quessing low level of hair, skin and etc maintenance.

Do you go for the same type of men as you?
As in low in value, lazy/complaining, nothing to offer.

Nobody owes you anything, nobody has to be attracted to walking talking 💩.
The comeptition is bringing more to the table, than you are. Why should a guy pick you if he could have better?

It's simple really, why would you want your future man be stuck with an unattractive or an okay woman. Don't you also wan't best for him?

I get it, not all people win the looks lottery, but there is tons you could improve on yourself that will get you on a very high level if you so want.

Life is not fair and your life so much better even now, way better than billions of poor people stuck in shitty coutries.

Work on yourself, don't make excuses 😗

[mackenziestar]

Lmao says the incel with a stupid profile picture.

[cookiecrusher]

Didn't you just write in declaring to be involuntary celibate (or incel for short). You seem stupid now too, to be honest 😗

[Twalli]

Because you don't believe you are

[disgustingweebtrash]

What you're dealing with is what the average man deals with but he powers on, man up pussy

[mackenziestar]

Incellllllll lol

[disgustingweebtrash]

Facts are facts regardless of how you feel about it

[Deku2009]

It really depends on if you compare yourself to other women or not. Tgen beauty is truly in the eyes if tge beholder (also you have to remember those kind of people more then likely taken )

[mackenziestar]

Wdym?

[Deku2009]

If you stop comparing yourself to other women , you will see a lot more guts will be open To you

[Anonymous]

No effort = no reward. I'm socially awkward, too, but I put in the effort to learn social skills and got through it. I'm not genetically gifted, but I put in the effort in the gym to look my best. I've put in the effort to be great at my job, and I make a lot of money. I've put in the effort to be great in bed. It's called building yourself. If you sit around and mope, expecting everything to come knocking at your door, then you're just gonna sit and mope. You have to go get it, and that requires effort.

You've seen through the lie about men liking big women. So now you know. What are you gonna do about it? Try to change men? Or change yourself to fit reality?

[mackenziestar]

There's no lie. Every guy likes something different lmao. Says the anonymous user probably living in his moms basement

[Opinion Owner]

I make right around six figures, own three vehicles and a house, stay in good shape and am raising a family. Nice try. Every guy likes something different? Well, yes, but aren't you contradicting yourself? And only about 3% of men are "chubby chasers". Out of those, how many do you think would be attractive to you?

[mackenziestar]

Ah, there goes the money attitude. Pretty sure if you made 6 figures ylu wouldn't be talking shit online about big women. Get a life.

[Opinion Owner]

You brought up that I'm "probably living in my mom's basement", implying that I'm poor with nothing going for me. I simply responded to it. And I want talking shit about big women. I was talking shit about people who won't work to improve themselves, but sit around complaining that they aren't getting what they want out of life.