Shall I talk to My Mom's boyfriend ?

[Siabong]

My Mom's boyfriend is almost 50 Years old but he is quite Rich Guy and Since My Mom have lost her Job in a Hotel, Her Boyfriend has been helping her with the Money and for the other Expenses ! These days My Mom is ruining out of Money and I also doing a Part time job but I get paid very little, in The Morning I go to college And I return in the afternoon, So My Mom's boyfriend helps us with Money !

We live in 1 BHK Flat, ( I bedroom, Hall + Kitchen ), My Mom's boyfriend comes on Weekend sometimes and he stay All night and go out on Next Morning, Now issue is that he has a high sex drive and he fucks My Mom very hard that sometimes it makes her cry and moaning, I have heard her crying many times and even she ask him to stop even then he don't STOP ! Although he is Supporting My Mom financially but he is quite Stubborn and Arrogant Man and I feels like he is very harsh and Rough with My Mom, Shall I talk to him about this? Will he listen me?

[Teaku94]

Given your struggling situation, it pains me to say this but (I'm crying on the inside) Your Mum Loves You Very Much!!

I know her methods to keep you both financially afloat is wrong but your mother loves you so much that she is willing to sacrifice her dignity so that you get the support you need to complete your education.

I'm saying this because my father wasn't around much and even though my sisters and I didn't want my mum to struggle and told her to go back to her village, she didn't go but stayed and struggled with us until my sisters were working and happily married and supporting me in university, then she went to her village on a tropical island paradise to relax. She did not have a boyfriend after my father left but she struggled and did everything in her power to straighten out her children's paths to success.

I don't support your mum's guy either but if that's the situation, commit it in prayer. Trust me - God hears! God, in His own special way and timing will make a better way for you and, more importantly, your mum. But ye, ask and trust God for deliverance.

Do stay strong! ❤️

[t-8900]

he's not going to listen to you and you'll just make it way worse. Talk to your mom about it but in all honesty it might go very wrong for you. He might get you removed from the picture, at least in living there. Tread carefully because you mom sounds extremely dependent on this guy. He knows it, which is why he got with your mom. Its not a care for her, its quick and easy access to P*ssy he can manipulate. such males are trash but nothing you can do about it.

[Siabong]

@t-8900 Do you think its useful to talk to My Mom because he is very dominating Guy and he fucks her so badly like a she is his concubine, Though I never talked to him so because of Arrogant attitude I am not Sure how he would react? So I am little worried and afraid about it !

[t-8900]

tbh that's exactly what she is to him man. you think he's got any love for your mom? Hell no! A man doesn't bring his woman to tears in pain if he loves her. She's being used as a meat slab. honestly I'd get this dude jumped

[Siabong]

@t-8900 I am doing My Graduation and I hope Once I complete it I would get a better Job to support My Mom financially, Also I will try to pay back the Money which he have Paid to My Mom for her old debts, but it will take one year So till then I want him to be gentle with My Mom ! Sometimes I tried to do friendship with him but I think his attitude was very Arrogant and Sarcastic ! if you want you can PM me !

[sage2021]

Hi! I am a mom so I can say this. A good mom will do ANYTHING for their child. In this case she is being physically assaulted you n her vagina by him, and she even cries. Your Poor mom. I feel so bad for her. He has made her believe that one day he will provide a career for you at his company. I don't think so! He is telling your mom a lie so she will keep letting him assault her. Just because no one sees bruises on her they think nothing is wrong. Because her bruises are in her vagina where no one can see them. She and you both need to get jobs and pay your own pay and tell that abusive son-of-a-bitch to stop coming around. Don't talk to him now about this because you don't know how he will take it, but it won't be good. I feel bad for both of you. But if you each get jobs and put your money together to pay bills and food, at least your poor mom won't have to endure anymore of this man's abuse. I will pray for the two of you. Especially your mom. She's a good mom, but she shouldn't have to go through this because he says he is rich. Wrong reason!

[Siabong]

@sage2021 EXACTLY ! I am fully Agree with you and I feels like Someone like you ( A Woman to Woman ) Should talk to My Mom and make her Understand that HE is just taking Advantage of her ! I know He is just a Sly, Arrogant and opportunist Man and Even if I greet him every time even then He won't hire me in his Company, He Paid some of My Mom's old debt and he entice her that He would give me a Good Job ! I study in College and I return in either in Afternoon or even in evening So I can do only Part time Job which I am doing but I don't get PAID enough, My Mom had lost her Job in Pandemic and Since then My Mom became more dependent on him, Now he comes late Night on weekends and he drink Alcohol and take My Mom in the Room and he there he fucks her so badly that I can't sleep in hall due to My Mom's Crying and Moaning, Many times My Mom ask him to Stop but he don't leave her, And like you said she might have many bruises on her vagina but she tolerate it All, Many times in the Morning I felt like that I should Approach him and talk to him about This but then I feels What if he takes out on My Mom or if he turns more Rough with My Mom in ANGER... It will take One more Year to me to Complete My Graduation and then I can try to get a Better Full time Job but till then I don't know what should I do about him !

[dezzydoodles]

He might make things worse or manipulate your mom to think you hate him and make ludicrous lies up and your mom might get mad at you too so don’t talk to him talk to your mom on how she feels about him and tell her besides helping financially what else do you want from him and just talk to har

[Siabong]

@dezzydoodles My Mom's Boyfriend don't talk to me and he mostly comes to in late evening on weekends... So far Rough sex is concerned, I am not fully sure if By Nature he fucks every women Roughly or he is only Rough with My Mom? but sometimes when i heard My Mom crying then I peeked inside the Room through window and i saw he was fucking My Mom is very EXTREME and Painful Position ! So this is WHY she cry a lot ! But I am still not Sure if I talk to him then how he will react? He might get Annoyed and he might be more Rough with My Mom !

[dezzydoodles]

Ok well maybe he just likes it rough maybe she does too yea there is too rough but if Is dominate and all girls cry and scream if it is rough sonidk love

[Siabong]

@dezzydoodles Yeah May be it his like his Nature and he has been Rough with every Woman but Shall I intervene into this or not?

[dezzydoodles]

No lol not unless you see her in pain or she is crying continuously after but not just once or twice like crying every single time after that’s their sex life and you don’t wanna come off with strong accusations and make him feel like you’re ungrateful for what he’s gliding for you and your mom yk? Cuz something’s aren’t always as they seem cuz my boyfriend was like that I’d be crying like crazy and yea it hurt but it also felt good so I don't know for now leave it alone

[Siabong]

@dezzydoodles Yeah You are Right I can't accused him strongly I just want to remind him if he can be gentle with My Mom, During having sex sometimes Women shouts and Cry loudly but hard to tell if they are crying out of Pain or Pleasure or both but No Doubt he is really Rough with her !

[Siabong]

@dezzydoodles You know what if he was my father or My Mom's husband then I would NEVER mind how roughly he fucks her and how much she cry but HE is Neither My father nor her Husband !

[dezzydoodles]

Look do what you deem necessary but again it’s her sex life she doesn’t need you in it correcting him

[CMeow]

You should tell your mom that you are worried for how he is treating her. Tell her that you don’t want her to feel scared or unhappy in order to get money from him. I don’t think this man will listen to you if he is so arrogant. He will dismiss what you say because you are young and you are not his child, so he will not see a reason to respect your opinion… If he is not respecting his girlfriend, then he will not respect his girlfriends child. Try to help by finding another way for you and your mother to afford living, so that you do not need this man. It is a very difficult situation. I am sorry to hear that you and your mother are experiencing this.

[Siabong]

Yeah Most Likely he will not listen to me because He is Arrogant and Rude By nature but I wanted to tell him about My Concerns !

[DaveJord]

Dude, there nothing much to say here. Its really on your mom. I'd talk to her before doing anything.

[p043k3j]

I’m sorry this is happening to your mom , no one should ever be treated like this !
Maybe talk to your Mom instead? Let her know you will both figure it out as best you can versus her taking this type of abuse. Sometimes if we know we have our loved ones support, we find the courage to stand up and be strong. She is the one that needs to put a stop to this by cutting all ties with him.
It is a tough situation, God bless you both and keep her safe 🙏

[Siabong]

@p043k3j Yeah but I don't feels like talking to My Mom is very useful, I never asked her to put with this Guy but before taking too much Financial help from him she should have thought about the consequences about it !

[Vikkrram]

Yeah he is taking advantage of ur Mom he is helping yours mom financially and taking advantage. Yeah u can talk wid him but be careful this might get ur situation more tough...

[Siabong]

@vikkrram Hmm... Yeah you mean if i talk to him then he might be more rough with My Mom? that's why i have not decided yet if I should intervene or Not !

[Vikkrram]

Nope he might harras ur mom and even stop helping her financially

[jailbreak]

I would talk to mom about that. Be careful with this as it could cause tension in the house. Let her know that you hear things and it makes you feel uncomfortable. See what she says

[Jinsoyun]

Sounds like he's a bad guy... I'm sorry for your mom she has to put up with that 😔

[whirled_up_girl]

If you have a close relationship with your mom maybe talk with her and see if she if she has consented to rough sex, if not and she feels like she is being abused then maybe devise a plan for you to both get away from him safely. Saying something directly to him could be putting yourself in danger so you need to considere that. If she is being abused maybe check out things in your community, see if you can find out if there are resources that might be able to help you both get into a safer situation but beware that health care workers and social workers that have direct confirmation of abuse are considered mandated reporters in most states. However there should be information of resources available for anyone to access, such as for someone that is asking for a friend or neighbor, check out any county websites etc.

[TangBang69]

That's how rich guys roll, they rely on and let their $ get the girl but they are absent of the things $ cannot buy like sensual awareness, passion , physical interaction skills, sense of romance or poetry, they simply pay for a product and if it doesn't perform to their expectations they replace it by buying another.
Some guy, any guy that I felt was abusive to my mom would be punched in the face and beat all the way to his fancy car he likely holds higher value to than her. $ can't buy skills with the hands either or the instinct to use it to prevail in the field.

[ushagomez]

You need to tell your mom that you love her so much and that you do not want her to put up with this guy just to get money and a possible job for you. Tell her that you want both of you to be happy and that you prefer to have no money than to have him treat her this way.

[zyrensong]

Honestly I think it would be better to talk to your mom about it. As bad as it is, it is still her relationship and she might already have something in mind that could go out the window if you talk to him without talking to her first. But definitely let her know your concerns.

[Bobsyoruncle]

What you describe is WAY short of what I’m sure that you and your mother want for yourselves and each other,

No doubt about it.

But this world is a rough place, and it’s full of cruel and powerful people.

It would be presumptuous of me to offer advice to you, beyond the generic “be careful and wise”.

Good luck to both you and your mom.

[DonkeyDan]

Your mom's sex life is nome of your business and you'll probably make things worse for her.

[Birdlegs]

It’s definitely not your place to intervene but financial stability is a great incentive to stay silent honestly

[modeve]

You mom is doing it all willingly (whatever the motive may be behind it), you need not interfere.

[Sevenpointfive]

she caused this problem herself. she can deal with it until the day you can make it better

[Stoner710]

Probably not I think you should leave it between him and your mom, If she doesn’t like the sex she will let him know.

[Siabong]

@stoner710 I hope you read My update on My question as well, In short- My Mom lost her job a Year Ago and she had to pay her old debts ( bank loans ) which My Mom's boyfriend Paid and he has been also helping her Money, But I feels like he take advantage of her, He comes on Weekend evening Most time Drunk heavily and in the Night he fucks My Mom so badly that I barely sleep because of Noise an My Mom crying and moaning most time, I hear My Mom asking him to Stop but he don't leave him, So i think she is being sexually exploited and abused and I think I should try to talk to him about her !

[Stoner710]

I get it she also thinks that he can get your a really good job when your out of College. I think it’s up to her to talk to him about it. He might be sexually exploding your mom but she is it financially excluding him. Maybe ask him not to be so rough on her in bed but I don't know if it any of your business to talk to him about it. Might talk to your mom about it first before you talk to him.

[Siabong]

@stoner710 I understand being a Mom, She thinks/ care for My future but I don't like her boyfriend and I really don't want to get a Job in his Company, he fucks My Mom brutally like a whore and I will work in his office ! I know Money Matters a lot but Still My Mom should think about her Situation... She don't say ANYTHING about his Rough Sex, May be She feels odd or She don't want but I am 100% Sure she is being Exploited and abused Sexually ! If you want you may PM me as well, I am tired of him and his Surly Attitude !

[VDrago14]

I doubt he'd listen but you can try.

[Siabong]

@vdrago14 He is Rich and arrogant Man So I was hesitating to talk to him, I feels like he is Exploiting My Mom sexually because of her poor financial situation, Do you think if I talk to him about this, Can this make him annoyed and he might be more rough with her?

[VDrago14]

He'd likely take it out on her, it's a dangerous gamble to try and play

[Siabong]

@vdrago14 he don't talks to me So I am not Sure how will it go, if he take it out on her then taking to him is Risky ! My Mom wants him to give me a Job in his office as well !

[VDrago14]

I honestly don't know how well talking to him will help, and I don't think taking a job from him would be wise either

[Siabong]

@vdrago14 I don't like him Personally but I can't stop him coming to My home but My Mom thinks he can make My carrier So she asks me to greet/welcome him when I see Him... on the other side i feels like he has made My Mom like his Concubine !

[VDrago14]

He pretty much has, but if she's fine with the arrangement, you can't stop her. You can express your concern with her, but that's about it

[Siabong]

@vdrago14 Hmm... I think its useless to talk to My Mom, Can you PM me?

[w0810lv]

You know dam well what the hell will be next he will eventually give you a job and will try to start offering you money to fuck him cause your younger and he's probably a sex addict and he's obviously a sadist and Preys on vulnerable women and Is a fucking scumbag piece of shit who I hoped gets mugged and fucking killed in a alley way to do all women a favor and die so there is one less asshole to fuck with you guys trust me when I tell you this the money isn't worth it this type of fuck brings nothing but chaos in his wake I bet you every one that he's been with has been left in destruction and I know shit Is tough but tell this guy to fuck off trust me I've just got through living in a car with no job no money no way out of this fucked up town I live in and I know there were days I wanted to kill myself but I stayed positive which is the key I landed a job and the people there good people put me in a place and got me through and mu life is back you don't need his dirty fucking money so. I know it will suck and hard choices will lye ahead but just by your writing you seem like a strong girl determined to persevere so you already know what the right answer is for you and your mom don't give into people like this run this fucker off cause this help he offers will only be temporary and in the end it will only cause you and your mom pain I've seen it my whole life don't give in

[MelodyBlue811]

I would get as far away from him as possible.

[itsnate497]

I would confront your mom first and ask if she finds it as a problem. If she does, then he is going to have to leave

[Siabong]

@itsnate497 Did you read My question update? My Mom thinks he will hire me for his Company and Second I feels like My Mom is being sexually exploit by him and because of her Poor financial condition She is tolerating this ALL !

[itsnate497]

She should definitely cut him loose. She shouldn't have to be in a position where she feels like she has to be forced to please him. If I were you, I definitely wouldn't join his company; he doesn't seem like he would treat his employees right. Encourage her to break up with him, but be careful because guys like that sometimes won't take no for an answer

[Siabong]

Yeah I know Guys like him are quite Stubborn and Arrogant So he might not take No as Answer