So a foursome you say?

[Anonymous]

How do subtly suggest get my wife and our friends (a couple) to have fun together? I think it would be interesting and I have little sexual experience.

[t-8900]

I know a few people doing similar things without issues. I've read and heard about nightmare stories from people of previous generations (mostly late boomers and early gen xers). But I think now more than ever people are being more clear about what they want ONCE they are in that serious relationship. First things first, you DO NOT pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do. She says "no" there is not "c'mooooon babe please", there is no "just one time", there is no begging for it again. If she says no LET IT DIE in the cradle. If she says yes you need to work together as a couple on boundaries, set them firmly, and pick together and make agreements. At any point if she says "no more" it means NO MORE and vice versa. Otherwise your marriage is dead in the water my friend. Also be prepared for a worst case scenario. She might start to gravitate to that guy or other guys, or that lifestyle, and then you won't be enough. I've seen plenty of girls with far more sex drive in the long run than their male counterparts.

[Anonymous]

My wife and I did this. We didn’t bother using protection because we thought since we were good friends with them, it would be fine. Basically, it just became a free for all where everyone was having sex with everyone so it really was a bisexual foursome. We played for about six hours and basically, everyone got cummed inside, including both guys. After that, my wife and I got together with them again but it wasn’t the same. The allure wasn’t there the second time and my wife got very jealous when I came inside the other wife in missionary position. She said that she thought I was getting feelings for the other woman so we both agreed it would be best if we just stuck to one-on-one sex instead. We no longer talk to the other couple.

[TeddyE]

Don't burden your wife with your perverted ideas, degenerate.

[AviatorTom]

First, talk with your wife and see if she's interested. Then, if she is, talk to the guy friend and tell him that you and your wife would like to have a foursome. He'll let you know if that would be good or not.

[CubaPirate]

A great way to lose your wife and best friends

[Anonymous]

A 4some needs to start with 1 on 1 conversations.

Ideally: You'd talk to your wife or the dude and they would talk to the other woman.

It helps control the failure too, if its a hard no in the 1 on 1, then you save face from the other 2.

You CANNOT go to the other woman first. It can't be y'all's idea, then it just seems like you want permission to cheat.