How do you get a guy to take you seriously?
I told him clearly that I need time to heal from our past since he had created a confusing environment of lies and games to do things behind my back which honestly are not huge but the lying is a major boundaries crosser and left me feeling like he was playing games with me especially because it led to him not engaging in sex with me. Overall he told me he would commit to letting me heal and waiting to watch porn since it is a trigger for me at the moment and just need time to adjust and build trust with him.
If I start feeling a bit depressed or express my insecurities he starts to complain and then he tells me how it makes him feel and it makes him feel like a bad guy and starts saying he is tired of it all. He has been stressing and getting angry at me for not being able to watch porn which was his idea not mine, our sex was getting better and more frequent before he started to stress, so I have had enough of the back and fourth. I told if he cannot be 100% on board with being supportive to my healing process then he can just watch porn and I will distance myself from him intimately and mentally since he can not be patient and allow me to adjust. I do not want him putting in half effort this only leads to him being deceptive again. How do I get him to take my feelings and needs seriously? He seems to only think about himself and put half the work unless it benefits him with the end result of getting to see nudity. I am growing tired of this and just prefer to fuck myself.
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