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My boyfriend wants to play a stripping game with our friends. I'm not comfortable. What do I do?

Stripping here is only till the undergarments and not below.
He says it's the same thing as wearing a bikini to the pool but I don't agree with this since the vibe at a pool and the vibe when you're playing a stripping game with your friends is very different
He also says that it's only friendly and there are no horny or sexy things involved here

I honestly don't know how to feel about this since I made it clear more than a few times that I wasn't comfortable with this but he keeps bringing it up
We've had some history regarding him wanting to do shit with other people involved too

I feel weird talking to my friends about this
Should I break-up with him? We've been dating since 3 years and we're very dependent on each other
If I don't break-up with him I honestly don't know how to deal with the feeling and be normal around him again
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  • If you don't want to do it... DON'T DO IT!!!
    Be blunt, stand up for yourself and say/do what you want.
    If you really don't want to do this then don't be wishy washy, be very strong and say I'm not doing that, don't ask me again.

    It isn't like the beach. At the beach... a random stranger may walk past you and glance at you while they are on their way and you are on your way and they'll see you walking and get a brief glimpse. They may walk by you while you are laying on a towel and for a brief glimpse they are looking down and you and staring at your butt and how much of it is showing.

    What you are describing is you'll be the center of attention. You will be standing up in front of each other putting on a show, they'll just be staring at you from head to toe the entire time as you move around and undress.

    What kind of thing is this? This sounds like he is grooming you for some sex orgy. It doesn't sound all harmless like he is saying. He is BS'ing you. Any guy would love for his girl to strip for him in private. This is really weird that he wants to you strip in front of a group and everyone is going to be stripping. Is he a swinger, orgy guy?

Most Helpful Guy

  • Maybe the two of you just march to the beat of different drummers.

    Nothing *wrong* with the, but it isn’t a situation where you’re BOTH going to be satisfied.

    I’ve been fortunate enough to be married to TWO women who did not restrict their sexual favors only to me.

    If I were ever to marry a third time I wouldn’t even consider a wife who wouldn’t also accommodate a lover or two on the side.

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  • Awkward. And it really doesn’t make sense to be honest.

    Okay, it’s not sexual? I mean, then why do it? Why does he want to see his friends in their underwear so bad. The only thing I can think of is maybe is A) attracted to some of the girls you’d be playing with or B) being naked in from of other people turns him on.

    What about the friends? Do they want to do this?

    Regardless, you’re not comfortable doing this so don’t do this. It’s weird. While I can say that you should or shouldn’t break up, I do think he has some ulterior motive be isn’t being transparent about.

  • Maybe just tell hime that you are not comfortable with that and if you trust him, just let me do it but don't participate or don't even be there when its happening

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  • He wants to see another girl in her underwear. Perhaps he fantasizes about you getting aroused by the experience, to the point that you lose your inhibitions and maybe something else happens. Have you asked him why this is important to him?

  • Do what is comfortable for you.
    It sounds like there is more than a cute little stripping game though

  • "We will only go this far" sounds like a ploy to get involved and then allow it to go farther. I doubt it will stop there. Obviously he is not going to give up pushing this. Either you get on board with his urge, or get rid of him, because it will keep coming up.

  • You NEVER do what you're not comfortable doing. If you man respects and loves you, one time should be enough unless of course he's kinda deaf.. 2 times should be enough.. 3 times just in case he's really stupid.. play that by ear I suppose

    Point is, you say NO.. that should be gospel... other wise tap out

  • If you aren't comfortable, don't do it. Period.

    You are ultimately in control of you.

    Do not let someone else control you or make decisions for you.

  • If your not comftble doing it then don't why do u feel u have too

    • I don't and I won't do it Just feels weird that the man I've been with for 3 years and is this close to me would want something like this, especially when he knows it could potentially hurt me

    • Because in his mind if he is asking u clearly he thinks your fine with it

    • Do you think stripping can be friendly tho? Friendly stripping just doesn't seem to fit right in my head

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  • Tell him you're not interested. I wouldn't think this is something to break up over, but that's your call... partly depends on how he reacts to you saying "not interested".

  • Beg out! Or, just wear a bikini instead of a bra and panties!

  • Quit fussing about it and just tell him that straight up - "I'm not stripping in front of our friends. So NO."

    What ever happened to 'strong and independent'? Stand up for yourself woman.

  • Break up with him, you don't agree on things, of you don't break up, either he will, or you will just stay together and fight until one of you snaps and you break up anyway or worse.

  • Be overly into, like too much into it for him...

    Works always

  • Tell him about it. I would not do it, if I am not comfortable with it.

  • you have to be happy, if your not and feel bothered then he either understands or he dont and its not easy to go forward that way, so choice is yours not ours but the concern to be happy isn't a choice it is a must so do what you must.

  • Makes me think he wants to bang one of your friends. Just refuse to participate.

    • How do I continue dating a man that makes me feel this way tho?

    • Maybe its time for you to move on?

    • He doesn't respect you or he would stop bringing it up.

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  • Dependent on one another. That’s a big one. Obviously it sounds like he wants more in the relationship. He says it’s only friendly which is total bs. Everyone knows what happens when you start taking your clothes off. I’d dump him, but I seriously don’t think you can do it. Sounds like even though you don’t approve of what he’s wanting you to do, you will end up doing it because it might help out your relationship?

  • Don’t ever do anything that you aren’t comfortable about.

  • Nobody said you HAD to play. if you don't want to play, don't play, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't be able to

    • I told him that and he isn't okay with that either Honestly feel stuck here

    • You don't have to do anything you don't want to do

  • If you're not comfortable don't do it

  • Maybe you should brake up with him. It's your body, your mind. But I do find it weird that you think it's so taboo. How on earth did you connect with this guy if your are so scared?

  • Tell him that. There is a reason you aren't comfortable. He should respect you if he loves you and not selfishly insist on his own desires

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