I was told it's a normal addiction and behavior for dudes to constantly think about sex all day long, & need or desires to relief the urge to nut or just the soft sensation of euphoric pleasure to ease anxiety and day to day normal life, its self soothing. I get it though, because I needed help understanding why my boyfriend needed his penis pump everyday was disturbing to me. I felt unattractive questioning if I'm even his type, is my snatch loose for him, is he gay, am i boring in bed, is he talking to or seeing someone else, is he out of love with me, is the relationship over, should I cheat to avoid the hurt? He assured me I'm fine, & I just needed to stop bitching about it. Cause this shit hurts & I need to feel needed. Keep in mind, women hit their sexual peak mid 30s., even during pregnancies or at the start of their p-words. I'm 39, & I lowkey now love masterbating. It's just a different type of self pleasure. So I totally get it. Just tell urself at least he's not physically cheating nor bringing anyone else in ur home & maybe he's working on his stroke count for u so he doesn't nut so soon.
0 2 0 0He masturbates after sex, which is why I feel like I'm not satisfying.. and I have a high libido. I have sex with him 1 to 3 times a day unless I'm on my period. If he masturbates AFTER sex tho does that mean I'm not doing it for him during sex?
Just means It just simply still feels good. The thing about sex, is on different levels It feels good. Like having an organization for girls, then afterwards realizing u can still keep going, u may or may not nut again. But it still feels good. Point is he is sharing that moment with you. Sex doesn't really mean it has an end time just because u "finished" necessarily. Some people can just keep going. And some can enjoy it without Cumming. Some can cum then pass right out asleep, then some can cum and be energized. It's fun. Try to have fun with it, without overthinking ur the problem or that ur doing something wrong. I'm frustrated with my dude rn cause he has been sending dick pics and he isn't putting out himself has me feeling like a fiend. Sharing his dick without me being in the equation is a real problem. And it's creating a distance between us. Ur dude is at least including u, making sure ur taken care of and he isn't hiding it from u. It's awesome I think when u can be ur natural weird perverted self with ur SO IS AMAZING. Do u have any toys to play with urself, or does he have a penis pump, try exploring intimacy together. Try lingerie, or try asking him what he likes about it then Being that for him. But I get it, my wrist can get tired to. Maybe he has too much time or this is a phase until he gets into a new hobby. Either way, he's happy and it's natural. Don't worry. Have fun with yourself to. It's okay. Try it.
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I think he gave a very logical/understandable and reasonable explanation. Listen to your boyfriend.
Masturbation and sex with a partner can give very different things, for me personally I don't compare them at all.. want of masturbation is as different as want for sex as it is to do sports. One cannot directly replace the other.
Though, you don't mention if he cums when you are having sex together.. if that is not the case I would also feel something was off.0 1 0 0Yes he always says that he cums in me. And I see evidence on the sheets after we have sex and everything, so yeah he's cumming during sex.
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Nothing wrong with this, I don’t think so. I have a similar relationship with my girlfriend.
we have a ton of sex as you do, but I masturbate a lot as well.
i am overly satisfied with my girlfriend but have been told I have a high sex drive.
masturbating releases that for me but it doesn’t replace sex. Sometimes on the weekends we will have sex 3x a day, but I’ll jerk off another 4. Sound like you guys?0 1 0 0Yes but do you masturbste after you have sex with her? I wouldn't have as much of a problem with this if he wasn't doing it AFTER we have sex. Makes me feel like I can't satisfy him or that my vagina doesn't get him off very well.
Immediately after, no. For example , if we have sex on the weekend Overnight at 11pm, and 3 am , and 7 am, I’m totally satisfied and don’t even think about jerking off. Maybe I’d masturbate alone at noon in the shower if I’m horny
See, my boyfriend masturbates an hour or two after sex.. that's why I'm concerned that he's not getting satisfied by me..
Talk to him about it with an eye on what he really wants. He may have some dark fantasies that you don't want to role play but you don't know until you ask. The same applies to you.
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6 29Let it go. You’re having a good sex life together, let it be, it’s not because the sex with you is not satisfying enough, for what it’s worth, he’s reliving these scene’s in his head during masturbation. Boys will be boys.
0 0 0 0He masturbates to porn? I doubt he's thinking about me if he's watching that, right?
You’re inside his head? I often use porn to get in the mood and then will finish off with a mental image of having sex with my girlfriend, I can understand that it doesn’t feel nice for you but I really think you give to too much thinking…
I get that.. but why does he need to do it after we have sex unless he's not satisfied? He cums inside me everytime but maybe it's not a good orgasm because my vagina isn't that nice?
a lot of guys do that they just want the release
1 1 0 0Yeah but why would he masturbate a couple hours after sex with me unless he just wasn't satisfied?
one guy did it to me right after he came
He masturbated after sex with you?
You are being ridiculous, and creating a problem in your head when there is none (a female calling card)
If your pussy wasn't cutting it why he still want it so much... just stop.0 0 0 0He obviously just has a very high sex drive, the issue is that you think it's a problem. If its not getting in the way of or affecting your sex life then there is no problem. Its not about you it's about him, most men masterbate even when they in a sexual relationship. As he said its about personal time, it's not a reflection on you and you shouldn't see it that way.
0 0 0 0What does it mean if he's masturbating to porn a couple hours after we have sex tho? I understand if I'm at work or busy or something, but why does he want to do this while I'm sleeping after we have sex? He knows I'll have sex anytime. I've never turned it down..
Because sometimes we just like to please ourselves.
Yes, I get that.. but all the time and even after sex?
I use to hate that to and took me a long time to get over some guys are just horney I use to be like that. That’s what helped me i have to stop at a bathroom or even in my car when I was anyone fck me horny, lol
0 2 0 0That is not unusual. My one-time-GF and I BOTH masturbated regularly, and we both knew it even though we fucked on the weekend, and sometimes during the week.
That said, my goofy wife, was LIVID about the thought of me jerking off 'since you have me" !
Go figure0 0 0 0Yes but did you masturbate a couple hours AFTER fucking your girlfriend? I don't care as much if he does this while I'm at work or something, but why does he masturbate AFTER sex if I satisfied him? Maybe the orgasm just wasn't very good with me or something?
I would fuck and probably eat my girlfriend on a date, and when I got 'home' or to my apt, I would jack off immediately or before going to sleep. I would jack off AGAIN just because of thinking of what she and I did just before. I think most men do that and maybe just don't openly admit it. Women take that "personally' thinking they did not 'satisfy' their husband or boyfriend but that is NOT the case, it is BECAUSE the sex was good for me that I jacked off afterward, remembering and thinking about it, OR even about some girl I was when we were out.
Yeah but he watches porn after sex.. he can't be thinking of sex with me..
He told you that sex with you is great and that masturbating is different. Most of the time, we guys masturbate to relax and relieve stress.
I understand your concern, but it's not about you... it's him.0 0 0 0Yes but why does he need to masturbate AFTER we have sex. I understand if he does it while I'm at work or a few hours before sex, but why does he do it after we have sex unless he isn't satisfied by the sex?
I understand that I should ask him but I've tried. He gets angry and shuts down and says that he doesn't like to talk about this.
Worrying for nothing.
0 1 0 0It sounds like you have a good relationship and are pleasing each other. I don't think you should worry too much about it. A lot of guys his age are horny all the time. When he reaches his mid-30s, he probably will be satisfied with just sex.
0 0 0 0what do you think would be your reaction to finding a pocket pussy somewhere?😨
0 0 0 0Try having masturbation sections with each other while you stroke rubs his penis he fingers rubs your vagina. 💞
0 0 0 0He might have a higher sex drive than you, talk to him about it
0 0 0 0He just likes to jack off.
may be he has higher sex drive
0 0 0 0This is why I'm so happy dating an older man with a lower sex drive
0 5 0 0That is weird... honestly...
0 0 0 0Is it me?
I think you’re worrying for no reason. It sounds like he just has a higher libido than you do and has a healthy way of managing it.
0 0 0 0No, I have a high libido and he knows I'll have sex anytime he wants it. I've never turned it down and we have sex like 1 to 3 times every day. My main concern is that he masturbates an hour or two after we have sex. I'm worried I'm not satisfying him as well he says I do.
As long as he isn't ignoring you, than I don't see anything wrong with this.
0 0 0 0he masturbates because you're a turn off
0 0 0 0Sounds like he needs to go to counseling. A healthy sex life is good, but damn dude is obsessed with it.
0 0 0 0If he's cumming when you have sex it's good for him. Until he turns down sex in favor of masturbating it's not a problem. You can get him hard and he stays hard during sex. That should be your only concern.
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