What in your personal opinion is the difference between making love and fcking?

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Fcking to me would feel like a quickie. It would be like having no strings attached and just seeking/receiving pleasure and nothing more. Its quite selfish but thats okay. However, I’m more selfless when it comes to sex. Plus, i need more of a mental connection and extreme passion. A taste of romance would be nice too. When i make love, its not all eye contact and daisies. Its no going a slowass 25mph. We bout to get fast and furious when we fuggin fuggin. We just have to make sure we’re gonna love eachother while also loving one another’s body. I want it here, there, everywhere. We’re gonna be throwing eachother around wildly but not dangerously rough. I want it in public, private, semi, idgaf. I can’t just stick to one place. I like to switch settings and positions. Change gears in that hoe, ya know. Like I’ll be solely focused on pleasing him so i dont really notice who’s around when I’m putting in work. In the process, I hope to be pleasured in return. A big thing about lovemaking is listening to eachother and respecting sexual boundaries while also getting freaknasty. You can get dirty and talk dirty without degrading your partner. But yea, thats lovemaking for me. Lots of pleasure. Lots of passion. Lots of fuggin. Shit we’ll go all Keith Sweat on em and make that shit last forever. Ain't no such thing as quickies with this chickadee #FeelFreeToList #TheSignsOfLoveMaking

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Maybe one kind of fucking is when you don't have any emotional connection and are only focused on your own pleasure. You're using the other person.

When I think of the term "making love", though, I get a picture of some lovey dovey, saccharine shit - candle light, soft, slow music, rose petals, gently brushing her hair back from her face with my fingers while gazing searchingly into each other's eyes, heart pounding and breath trembling as your lips finally meet tenderly. I kinda don't like that, personally. It feels like the first time with virgin.

However, I really LOVE the kind of "love making" involved in really good foreplay. Taking turns with each other to slowly and skillfully drive every erogenous part of your bodies crazy; make the persons entire body buzz and ache with sensual pleasure until they almost can't stand it, are writhing to contain the sensations, and begging to be fucked hard. That kind of foreplay is like a feast.

But when the actual sex starts, that's FUCKING. No more soft and loving. It's the kind of thing that you described, Des. For me, as the guy, I want to plow her deep and hard in every which way - over, under, upside down, sideways, front, back, standing. I want to grasp her soft flesh, position her, pin her, lift her, sometimes pull her hair or slap her ass.

But in this case, it's not just about my pleasure. It's also about giving her what she wants and needs. Oh, I'm definitely doing what my appetite craves. But the very best kind of sex is when she is doing the same thing. She's fucking back. She wants to be used hard and feel my cock thrusting and churning in her guts, stirring and bending her wet pussy. So we're taking cues from each other. And nothing is hotter than making her orgasm over and over until she is practically helpless.

It's the kind of unbridled animal sex that two people engage in when they do love each other, know and understand each other, and want to give each other maximum pleasure. It's mutual.

When two people care about each other in such a way, even quicky sex can be joyful and mutually pleasurable at times. You're somewhere and start kissing, start clutching at each other, and suddenly he's pulling down her panties and plowing her without any foreplay. You just crave each other.

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

In my eyes and why I can only do one of the two:

Making Love: A process of sacred Unity of two souls becoming one, has deep meaning, love, and connection. The importance of physical and emotional pleasure are equaled and balanced and it's like 2 universes colliding. It doesn't matter how you do it or what you do if both people want and like it. In the end both know in the back of their heads they are loved and being loved and that's the real difference. You are with someone that is the center of your universe and you theirs. That's what makes it great, special, unique, different, important, meaningful.

Casual Sex: being cheap and screwing like debased animals. It's meaningless and disconnected. They lose a piece of themselves, a piece of their souls. It's a sad thing, at least for me.

closing thoughts: Love makers dont have to make things boring and vanilla, not even close. It's the feelings and connection that really bind you both and make it special. If you wanna get down and dirty and do all kinds of things there is nothing wrong with it. What makes it beautiful is the love and trust and most importantly your mutual admiration for one another through it all. Both should receive full pleasure, be considered, and worked around to get their climaxes. Everything should be communicated ahead of time and boundaries should be known and respected.

Lucy68 · Accepted Answer

Making love to me is when my partner and I just that moment comes in. Making love is when my partner is kissing me gently not just on the lips but everywhere on my body while he's caressing me gently. It's when he carries you to the bed and lays you down gently while still kissing you gently. During the sex act in love making i prefer missionary and cowgirl because you can gaze into your partners eyes that way you're staring into each other's soul connecting with each other on an emotional connection. Making love is where there's a lot of "I love you" and "you're so beautiful, you mean the world to me". Making love it's that physical and emotional connection, when both partners become one, and if the timing is right where both partners can create a little one with all that love that they have for each other. Making love is holding on to each other tightly not wanting to let the other person go. Making love is when the act is done is holding on to each other while telling each other how they were wonderful tonight, feeling safe, feeling love, feeling protected. Everything just feels calm, peaceful, and the world at the time makes sense.

I know I know it'll probably sound stupid to some, but that's how I view it, that's how I feel.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was raped when I was 14 as a result I wanted to take advantage of guys and use them the way I was used, I did it with a lot of guys to try and use them. Turns out guys don't care, so the difference to me is when I'm just doing it for my own pleasures, I often don't want to kiss them I don't even want to make eye contact I just want to go and enjoy myself.

When doing it for love, I really enjoy the making out to go along with it too and I want to make sure he enjoys it. Those other guys I just used, don't give a damn if they enjoy it. Unless I want to repeatedly use them.

loves2learn · Answer

Fucking would typically be hard, fast, rough, raw, pure sexual pleasure. Making love is slow, sensual, coming together of 2 bodies.

MCheetah · Answer

Making love involves intimacy, care, passion, and well, love! F*cking is just impersonal and mostly a selfish act between two people to get off. There's no intimacy or care for the other partner, involved. (Usually the guy is the more selfish lover of the two.)

So, in short, it's about the emotion and care involved. F*cking is impersonal, raw, and lacks any passion or romance to it.

RobT312 · Answer

Fucking is the act, and lovemaking is having a connection with the person.
in my early 20’s I was a fucking kind of guy, now I’m obsessed with only lovemaking.

realized that with a recent threesome, and although I enjoyed both in the threesome, it was lovemaking with my girlfriend and it was fucking with the 3rd

ohshee · Answer

There is no such thing is a quickie there is a very fine line is making love and fucking because you can be right there on that fine line as you're making love to her and then pull her over to the fucking side and take her there for a few minutes and then pull her back over to the lovemaking side and slow it down and make her go crazy everything in life complete the circle

There was one time I was in so much pain can I can I can hold a lot of pain I can take a lot of pain and I was laying there and I'm thinking to myself I have to be the peak of my pain right now I have to be right there on that fine line and I said to myself I'm not going from this peak all the way back around and start feeling less and less and less and less pain I said fuck this I said I'm at the peak of it right now I'm going to take one more step over that line and I'm going right back to feeling good and I did that it amazed me within one second I felt no more pain you're probably about 6 hours it's the same thing as fucking and making love there's a fine line

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

The difference is in what you feel for the person.

Biancam13 · Answer

Making love = having sex with someone you care about or have an established relationship with, or really like. It’s about strengthening the connection with them through sex

fucking = scratching an itch through sex or doing it for some other personal gain, like having another notch on your post. Or you’re just really horny

NathanDavis · Answer

personally... I have never seen it as "with and without feelings"

to me is more about the intensity yes, and the foreplay, or none or less foreplay so also, like you said... it's quicker, and it's quicker because you're "already there" in the mood and then you just want to get to it, and go strong... then keeping it up at that level because you do have one thing in mind and one need burning in your body... which is the physical ecstasy that will come with it

Hans222 · Answer

Making love means there are feelings, f... ing only means there is pleasure. I would only be interested in the nr 1!

Agape93 · Answer

Making love is sex with emotions as a prevailing need.  Fucking is just sex with purely physical needs being met.

AviatorTom · Answer

Making love is when two people who car about each other pleasure each other physically, which may or may not include actual intercourse. Fucking is mechanical... open vagina, insert penis.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Wish I could help on this one, as I've only ever made love. I've never wanted to use her for her body, although on occasion I did just want to... but I've always been emotionally involved and wanted to make love. Part of me regrets not ever just doing it for selfish pleasure but then I know that never would of happened because it just isn't who I am.

My guess on this matter would be that making love means you care about the other person and just doing it, means you only care about yourself.

Kitten2Kitten · Answer

I am getting mixed signals here. Fking, but no fking? Fking loving, but just loving, yet also being descriptive about the fking, so like, wha?

exitseven · Answer

Everyone else has said everything already. I just say love is better than sex but sex ain't' bad.

JosyJosy · Answer

That would be making love being with someone you love, and fcking doesn't have to be with such a person

Anpu23 · Answer

It's all about the feelings. If there's feelings it's love otherwise...

Phoenix98 · Answer

Making love is emotional your feelings are involved and it's with someone who feels the same way you do generally your in love with each other.

Fucking is instinctual it's just lust and primal desire, raw.

Both have their uses sometimes you want to make love to someone and other times your just overcome with desire for someone.

Angelo75 · Answer

Making love is with lots of foreplay, caressing, kissing while holding tightly etc... There's a lot of emotion involved. And usually it's more about "giving" the other.

Fucking is with less foreplay, just that moment you can't hold back and just want to plunge into each other and intensely enjoying. I think each party is less about "giving" to the other, and more about he/she wants for him/herself.

Andres77 · Answer

My concern for her orgasm

Riddler1412 · Answer

Fcking is dex without emotion, making love is sex with emotions.

MysticDevice · Answer

Love making is mainly emotional pleasure, fucking is purely physical pleasure.

What in your personal opinion is the difference between making love and fcking?

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