How can you tell if your boyfriend is bi-sexual?

[Anonymous]

So my man grew up in a family w/a lot of straight people but also grew up w/a step family where most of his step cousins are gay. Before we dated, we were best friends & would go out to bars together. Me being a total girl & loving gay bars I would choose to go to them sometimes & never tell him about where we were going. He’s not homophobic thank god so I knew every-time we got in one he’d be caught off guard & just laugh once he’d realize where I brought him to. Gay guys would hit on him ALL THE TIME. Being a straight guy though, he would just tell them he wasn’t interested & carry on. These men would not give up though! He felt uncomfortable after awhile…
FAST FORWARD to the future, later when we finally got in a relationship together, I saw in his phone that he was videos of straight p*rn (normal) but in the mix of those videos I remember he had searched for “bi s*x” &watched one bi p*rn video. I was shocked. When I asked him about it he said “I just thought it’d be hot to see but I wasn’t into it” I was shocked, but accepted his word. After all, it was just a bunch of straight p*rn vids after that one. After that, I never saw him looking it up again. - Whenever we do go out to gay populated bars though or if a gay guy is around, I notice he’ll look at them casually. One time when we were out in West Hollywood (where it’s a gay bar scene) I noticed this gay guy sitting down staring at my man &I while we were in line. He was staring at him more & kept turning back. & then I noticed my man was looking back at him too. I felt so weird. I asked him if he was staring back at that guy &of course he said “no” but dude, I noticed it. I just want to know from a gay or bi men’s take, What do you think? Is my man curious ¬ telling me? Do you think he’s bi? Maybe he’s experimented before? Please! I would love to know the signs! I’ve asked him &he denies it claiming he’s straight, but as a bi-girl myself I don't know if he’s telling the honest truth! Help

[RobT312]

I think this guy is acting as any guy does. Nothing very awkward here. I consider myself straight, as I have no romantic interest in guys but even I have done more bi/ gay stuff than what you wrote about your boyfriend.

Threesome bi porn- yes, wanted to check it out of curiosity
getting hard seeing bi porn- yes, not ashamed to say guys can be attractive, the porn made me hard, I think all porn does
naked play with a guy- yes, during a threesome with my girlfriend.

relax, if your guy is in love with you that’s all that matters. Are you worried if he has experimented? And even if he was a little curious, does it even matter? Just ask him!

[Asker]

This was so helpful! Thank you for your insight! I wouldn’t say I have any feelings of worry cause I’m bi myself, I just have a gut feeling coming from the things I’ve mentioned above haha. As most people would be I think he’d be too nervous to tell me anyway

[RobT312]

Wow really, you don’t think he’d tell you? Given you are bi, I’d think that would even make him more comfortable. Well my girlfriend and I over time have become so open we talk about everything. If outsiders overheard our conversations at restaurants, etc. they’d think we were slutty sex addicts!

[Asker]

Yeah I don't know I just think he might not be comfortable with it yet maybe. Sometimes I think a joke I made when we’re just friends might play a factor in this whole thing though (my man tends to care how I view him) when we we’re friends someone asked me if I would date a bi guy & I said “no way, I would have to worry about him cheating with not just girls but guys too” & everyone laughed about it cause they know I myself am bi so that wouldn’t make sense anyway…the point is, he was there & heard this too so I wonder back to that & consider what if he might of taken that to heart

[RobT312]

From your story though, my gut tells me he hasn’t. However, You do have a good point about people caring about how others view them. I think you get over that with age. In my 20’s I really cared, now at 30 it doesn’t matter to me so much.

[Asker]

Hasn’t experienced before? & YES, he cares so much. by the way, thanks for chatting with me about this !

[RobT312]

Sure anytime. Having had a 3some experience recently it felt very fresh. Feel free to dm me if u ever want

[nudeNhorny]

He sounds bi-curious, you are taking him to gay bars constantly, so you should've expected him to become curious at some point, since he doesn't admit it I suggest trying to test him.
You can pm me if you want to discuss it.

[Asker]

In the very beginning of our relationship, he joked around & asked if I would be down for a threesome with another chick cause we’d both like that & I thought about it but was like nah I don’t want to bring anyone else into our relationship! Later I joked around with him & asked if he would be down for a threesome but with another guy? & he said HELL NO, I don’t want anyone touching you 😂 we just laughed cause I said seee I feel the same way. So I mean I don't know this doesn’t really tell forsure that “he’s not bi” but I threw the opportunity out & he denied it in total so?

[Asker]

Also that’s what I’m thinking…I think my boo might be a little bi curious but I think maybe hasn’t come to terms about it yet, or is comfortable admitting it just yet.

[nudeNhorny]

Yes he sounds to me that he is bi-curious, still afraid or insecure to admit it, you must help comforting him about it, I mean for a guy to accept going to gay bars constantly, he must be a little curious

[Asker]

Well he was falling for me at the time & I found that out later when he was already in love with me, we we’re best friends so my feelings grew later on leading up to us finally getting together 🤍 he’s always been the type of guy to do anything to make me happy. Nonetheless though, thank you for your advice! I appreciate it!

[nudeNhorny]

no problem at all, I'm always happy to help, feel free to ask me whenever you want.

[spartan55]

It seems like your bias is distorting your perception of his actions.

[Asker]

Ya think so? ahh

[Fireguy17]

ask him!

[Asker]

I did he says no but then again there’s these small signs so…. I’m confuzzled

[crazy8000]

@Asker If the signs is to few they gonna be hard to tell with enough accuracy. that's basic 101 with that kind of field.

[Asker]

@crazy8000 well what you think with what I explained above. You think it’s innocent dude behavior or there might something more there

[Libertycityguy]

Unless he is banging men on the side who cares. Does it make you feel less of a person?

[LegendaryIcon]

Why in the world, would you take a straight man to a gay bar

that's just trolling to me. YOU'RE A TROLL

[In_Trance]

Ask him if he thinks dicks are delicious

[Asker]

I’m done 😂 stop

[Goodboystevie]

whats the harm if he loves you

[Asker]

No harm here as I am bi myself, I would love him anyway just like he loves me. He says no but I see otherwise so it’s confusing haha.

[Goodboystevie]

there ya go!

[Anonymous]

Why did you keep keep taking him to gay bars and why do you like that? It seems like you want him to be bi so you have to accept that because you got him into it by taking him to gay bars.

[Asker]

Why would I make it my life’s mission to make my best friend at the time bi? That’s makes no logical sense. I don't know if you read my story properly but we’d go out to bars period, SOMETIMES it’d be gay ones. You know why? Cause they play kick ass music, cause they have a kick ass dance floor, cause these bars had a mix of straight & gay in them. West Hollywood for example, has a GREAT street full of bars, idc if they just so happen to be gay bars. People from all around LA hit them up & they welcome anyone! Before I found out I was bi, I would hang out with gay friends at gay bars…that’s not what turned me bi. I have personal reasons for that one & it has nothing to do with with the places I visit. You’re not going to come for my character on my own post, give some advice or don’t say anything at all.

[Opinion Owner]

You don't have to be upset, I wasn't attacking your character. Maybe he's bi curious now and it started when you took him to those bars. It's fine if he's bi and you are. I was just saying that it might have started when you took him to those bars.

[Anonymous]

He's bi definitely, but he's too shy to admit it. It's hard for bi guys to come out. I don't really tell many people I'm into guys. Too much stigma. But all you can do is try to reassure him that he can confess to you and that it's okay.

[Asker]

I’ve tried! I know the struggle as I was straight my whole life until I finally discovered I’d want to hook up with chicks too. I don't know maybe he hasn’t come to terms with it yet or something?

[Opinion Owner]

Give him time. It's a little harder for guys. Took me a while to realize I like men. Might take him some time too.

[Asker]

Yeah same here but with girls! I was in denial until I finally just accepted that I might be & eventually I realized YUP I am haha. I’ll let him open up to me when he’s ready. Thank you!!!

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome🙂