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Can any of you answer honestly PLEASE?

My wife and I have been together for over 10 years and always had great everything up until several months ago and she knows everything because I tell her what I like sexual and so forth. She though seems to make ZERO EFFORT EVER, I do everything to make my lady happy because a happy wife normally means happy life but definitely it's not that. I'm miserable sexually cause no matter how much I express myself to her, she just seems to not give a fu*k and constantly flips it on me like it's my fault. She is my best friend and it kills me everyday. Why is things going like this. I need honest Input guys and gals?
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Superb Opinion

  • You have become too familiar to one another and too settled into a routine. You're going to hate this idea but, I suggest saying something like this to her:-

    "Ever since we stopped having sex my tastes have started to change, I now fantasize about having sex with other women. I'm not going to of course but the longer this situation goes on the more compelling it will become. I just thought it was something you ought to know"

    The next step is never bring it up again. Let her mill it over for a while. My guess is you'll see a dramatic change in her behaviour towards you if she thinks she's going to lose you. EVEN if she doesn't let on you mean much to her these days, trust me, the thought of her being without you will terrify her after being so reliant on you for years.

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  • sounds like you are good friends and not lovers...

    if she is not prepared to even attempt to even talk about the issue, then i think that she is being very selfish and obviously not putting into the relationship as much as you are.

    unfortunately, when you come to this point, its difficult decisions ahead... if you are unhappy and frustrated (like you come across in the message) then you need to ask yourself is this really the girl for me.

    maybe you could try not being so nice for a change and when she asks why your not being super helpful etc, just say, you can't be assed to do something for me so why should i, this is your attitude so i am just returning it, see what happens.

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  • well... this is obviously about specific circumstances...

    what's this sexual thing that you're into and she doesn't care for?

    it could be just a little weird like wanting your elbows licked while the back of your knees are pinched...

    or maybe you just want to have wild furry sex while the house is on fire... and in that case, that's obviously difficult to get into... so

    depends on what kind sexual life you're after...

    • It's Definitely nothing weird or anything. Just get a little wild in bed at times or be naughty at times which is something she knows

    • yeah... "get a little wild" "be naughty at times" those are very vague... so I really hope that you would be way more specific, and assertive and clear, communicate with her... because wild and naughty can mean a million different things but more important than that... you just can't tell people to do something in bed and then it will happen, many people need more than that, they need no to be in the mood, and also fit for it... they need to be inspired, or provoked, or enticed... or turned on... and that is on you... to make it happen, not just to ask her to do something

  • You say about telling her everything you like, but what about what she likes, have you asked her that?

  • What was she looking for

  • Clearly you're not communicating as well as you need to

    • It's all on her as I constantly do and try and I do mean everything but seems like it never works

    • If it doesn't work it's not because one person is failing it's because both of you are failing. You might think you're communicating but if you're not getting your message across then you're not. You can't expect different results when you keep doing the same thing. You need to change it up

  • It sounds like she may be experiencing hypoactive sexual desire disorder. If that's the case, she'll need to have some psychotherapy to overcome it.

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