No matter how much lube I use or how wet I get it's always a tight fit. Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

Probably something super stupid but I lost my virginity last year and ever since I've been using a dildo to masturbate.
Recently met a guy and me and him have had sex twice now, the first time I was dripping wet and I could feel it, I don't think I have ever been that horny in my life. He tried to penetrate me and once his tip was inside it was a struggle to get in, he did and we had sex normally.

What makes me super self-conscious is that I had the idea that once you're really wet he just glides in and it doesn't happen with me. Even when I put my two fingers inside it's so tight (not painful or uncomfortable). Is there a way to make my vagina wider, make me one of those girls that just sit on a guy's lap and he slowly starts to slide in. How do I get to that point? Most I won't even properly use my dildo because it won't go in

[buddysboy16]

Some girls are tighter than others. Some are looser. It's just how your vagina is. Frankly, as long as it's not so tight that it hurts, being tight is a good thing. Being tight means you feel that much more and it's usually more pleasurable for both parties. Being too loose can mean that you won't feel as much. Slipping right in isn't always how it works. In fact, in my experience, it's usually not how it works. My head is really big so I usually have to take it really slow at first.

Don't worry about being too tight. Consider yourself pretty lucky. If it ever gets to a point that sex is uncomfortable or hurts, go see a gyno because at that point, it's a problem.

[FunkyMonkee]

Happiness is a tight pussy!
Are you relaxed? You could just be a bit uptight or, not scared but something close to it. Like, you now know it's gonna be a tight squeeze so, you're worried about that and that tenses you up a bit more.
Maybe you can try a speculum.
Trans women use these things called, dilators. they look a lot like dildos and they come in various sizes. From what I know, they have to put one in and just leave it there for maybe half an hour or so at a time. Maybe you can just use Mr. Dildo like that. There's also inflatable dildos. You slip it in and then inflate it.

[swettannie]

it could be how your body is made.
best thing to do is asking your gynecologist

[Asker]

I went to her a couple of times and the first few times she told me I was contracting my muscles when she had fingers inside me, then she changed her mind and said that this is just how my body is made, that I'm healthy and not to worry. I don't think people take me seriously when I express this insecurity

[swettannie]

she's probably right. you need to get used to it

[jshm2]

It's nothing to do with either lube or stimulation.

The layers of the vestibule and vagina don't always relax and stretch in some women.

This can mean you'll be a c-section birth, as you'll never be able to "push" out a baby.

[LiamSawyer]

You just need to learn tho relax. You're clamping down your vaginal and pelvic muscles due to not being fully relaxed thus tightening the vagina making it difficult to penetrate.

[josephinelcajon]

I bet as much as you were willing and "horny" you were also scared/concerned about it. try more foreplay and relax as much as possible. Make love not sex!

[johnsilf]

Use lube and exercise with your dildo. Get a bigger dildo and find out what's the biggest one you can get in. You could try to use a big dildo just before having sex with a guy. Do it privately or do it in front of him. It would prepare your vagina for he's cock to slide in with ease

[brianwong008]

Disclaimer: I've never have sex before

I think happens to all women when they are not ready enough, like when he goes in smoothly when you're very high and horney

[In_Trance]

it's normal if it always happens... do you mean common?

[Asker]

possibly

[Jerre]

After a few more times fucking, your pussy will not be as tight. Lots of men, myself included, love a tight pussy clamped around my cock. Just feels so good!

[najekim]

I'd say you're tense in anticipation. Relax. :)

[abc--123]

Same as my girlfriend

[EaterPeter]

Get a smaller dildo or three size combo available on Amazon

[JamesRandiDebates]

Sounds like you're bragging.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/6Z2-uJz8Cfc

[Zygum]

It is good, you are tight, guys always like tight pussy

[jimmy2]

Hummm that why i love virgins

[Yellovv]

You should proud of that, because you can able to give too much pleasure to your partner...

[Asker]

Not being fully comfortable has an impact in my performance. I'll start overthinking, thinking he's judging me, that he feels like there's something wrong in me and those thoughts can get in the way

[Yellovv]

İf I was in his place, I can take too much pleasure from fucking your nice tight pussy, because fit well inside your amazing pussy...

[MasterKS]

nice pussy!

[lycanthrope3]

Just keep trying, you will adjust

[TeacherUser]

I think it is normal because we all have different type of bodies Some of us have big penises whlile some have avarage or small and some have tight pussies while other have more flexible.
You should enjoy what you have

[Anonymous]

Try using a vibrator instead and it's better to be tight than loose :)

[Maxwell_Styler]

Dont listen to this pencil dick, dont do that, my ex was too tight to do anything and it isn't fun for either people, you will a bit wider the more you guys go at it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Maxwell_Styler Why butt in when I'm giving her good advice to help her? Obviously you are the pencil dick dickhead.

[Maxwell_Styler]

Really? She wants to be looser and you are telling her the opposite because of your own self interest. Tiny dick over here wants tighter cuz he is too small. Obviously.

[Opinion Owner]

@Maxwell_Styler I told her to try a vibrator and I'm not the one sleeping with her you moron.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is too big

[Anonymous]

Actually that sounds wonderful. You'll both feel every bit of what's happening. But just more experience.