Being a girl makes me sad! Why did God design us in such an unfair way? How do I stop feeling like this?

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Being a girl makes me sad it feels like God hates us! My first boyfriend was so abusive he taught me that I am constantly at the mercy of men. Whenever I'm alone with a man the only thing keeping me safe is the fact that he doesn't want to hurt me.

And you never know if a guy is going to hurt you because they're so mean! They get turned on when sex hurts us and makes us cry and they always pressure us into sex, I couldn't imagine wanting to have sex while he's crying. My ex would just climb on top of me if I said no, I'm surprised he bothered asking. They always get to enjoy being dominant and doing what they want and we just have to submit to it and feel it. We can't use sex to hurt or dominate or degrade them. They never have to do anything gross.

They always come to us for emotional support but we don't get it from them! Sex is always nice for them but I've had to endure so much painful and dehumanizing sex from men that I loved and trusted and respected. We have to live with pain they'll never experience like birth, periods, and anal. We're weak and we're designed to be penetrated and we get pregnant so a man can do what he wants to me with no worries and I have to experience what he does and live with all the aftermath.

Does God hate women? He could've made things more fair! How about give the weaker sex the penetrating organ? How about neither of us are way weaker? How about sex doesn't involve domination and penetration?

Carolmille · Accepted Answer

I’d advice you develop yourself. Nothing is promised to you in this world. The values given to you increases exponentially by the value you can give to others. There are just as many guys out there who feel used and abused and wished they didn’t have to be men or they didn’t have to deal with the other sex. It is however pertinent that you make yourself a high value person. If you think men treat you unfairly, try dating women or not date at all. What I want of you though is that you love yourself. Create happiness within yourself, be a person who has happiness to share a person who has something to offer. Then perhaps more people would be more afraid of losing you than be happier to move on from you.

B4852 · Accepted Answer

Very sorry to hear about how you are feeling and your experiences.

No, God doesn't hate you and doesn't hate women. Unfortunately society is creating weak men and weak men tend to hurt people. A strong man who knows the power of his strength and holds compassion and empathy and has a genuine connection with God will know how to show gentleness to a woman and protect her.

It's not God. It's our falling away from God that's the problem.

I hope that you find someone who will treat you like a treasure.

Dragonpurple · Accepted Answer

You know I have often though, how much better life would be if I was a woman. I don't feel like I was born a girl anything, 100% man but I've had a rough life. The women I've known have had some problems but seem to do better and getting past them than I do. They seem to have things easier.

I'm sure this is strictly as grass is greener type situation.

Both genders can be very mean to the other, women have hurt me intensely, emotionally and worse.

I'm really sorry you had to go through what you did.

The_Maphio · Answer

Seriously third rate bait.

Dontaaaa · Answer

Being a guy ain't all that great either, so don't think changing genders will make you suffering as a human being any better.

RichSD · Answer

Remember that you outlive us.

Twalli · Answer

Most men are not as bad as you describe. You got stuck with an asshole, and for that I am sorry. Although most guys are not the greatest people, we're out here. I hope you end up with one, so you can feel what it is for someone to be truly in love with you.

Eswarroalvass · Answer

Those men are mean I couldn't do that to a nice girl

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Sounds like ur problem

2021biguy · Answer

Don't be sad, I'll be your friend. Women are beautiful and have a beautiful design, you can be loved. Not all men treat women badly.

nudeNhorny · Answer

If you ex was a jerk doesn't mean all guys are, a lot of guys would treat you with love and respect and care about your needs and show you how they arw grateful for having you in their lives, these guys exist, hope you meet one someday.