How do I stop blaming myself for being raped?
I thought no trans-attracted man would to hurt me like that. I considered this cis woman problems. I thought that trans-attracted guys were extra sweet and that God had someone special for me! There HAD to be good things about being trans! I thought he knew that growing up trans made me one of the saddest girls ever and he would give me happy feelings so I could be happy for once. My first was supposed to be the most magical moment of my life, it was supposed to take the sadness from my heart and make me feel happy.. It was supposed to prove to the world that it IS beautiful for me to love a man!
I also blame myself because when I first got there after driving 500 miles he pulled his penis out and asked me to suck it but I was tired and wanted to settle in so I said no- AND HE ASKED AGAIN!!! About 4 or 5 times I tried telling him no until he asked again and I could just say "I'm scared" he stopped but he wasn't happy. I thought it was normal. If I wasn't so stupid I would've known that it's not normal. He was a rapist! I loved him and thought God saved us for each other 😭
Then I got drunk with him. That's when he stole the most precious moment of my life from me and made it the most heartbreaking moment. I told him I wasn't ready yet. I was scared. But I was so stupid to think he cared.
The worst part is that I decided he must've just made a mistake. He loved me and this was what I've been waiting for- to finally be somewhere I wasn't the only trans girl. To finally have a man who made me feel lovable. I was just waiting until I was 18 for my turn to be happy!
I was so stupid! I was stupid to think there could ever be anything happy about being trans!. I was stupid for thinking anything special could happen for me. I'll never be good enough. God doesn't have any happy plans in store for me.
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