Have you ever had a friend with benefits?

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I've never had one before , tho , i kinda want to try it? LMAO

Breanna_nonbinary · Accepted Answer

Yes I have. Several. Sometimes I have more than one and some are female and some are male. The hardest part is separating love and sex. Usually men have an easier time separating the two because men biologically have a need to spread their genes around. Women however are biologically programmed to be more discriminating as to who they accept genetic material from. In addition they grow up thinking that love and sex are the same.
Add to this that sex releases oxytocin which is a bonding chemical into the body. This chemical helps in bonding mates together.
Finally it can also be hard for most people to not feel jealousy. It is import to realize and understand that we aren’t in control and do not own other people. We are free to do as we choose and are responsible for our own feelings.
If you’re considering a friends with benefits just make sure you are getting what you want out of it. If not then find someone that is satisfying your sexual needs.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

Yeah, turned into an on/off relationship and a total mess

Would I go back in time and do it again? Yes I would
Would I want another one? Hell no! Never again.
Can i recommend it? No either! But like if you wanna make this experience, well then go for it and see for yourself

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

Well, I did, if you could call it that. We were/are friends, and do a lot together i. e., travel, go to neat places, Las Vegas, Palm Springs, Nassau, in the Bahamas, etc. When it came to the benefits part, we were going to fuck, on New Year's Eve, and damn, I could not get hard with her. So now we are back to a platonic relationship. From my POV a 'friends, with benefits' relationship is idea, if it remains that way. Had one before, in my teens and 20's but we only discussed our sex lives and activities, which was hot to do.

With you being a 'minor' I may have over stepped the 'rules' here with a minor, but since you asked the question, you are, or are considering being sexually active, so perhaps my choice of words will pass the 'test' when answering a 'minor's question. I will check with my 'moderator' friend to check my response.

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CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

Me and my childhood friend that I grew up with always had benefits. Sometimes it's weird to wear different shirts that match the same words especially while playing video games. When we was kids he wore a blue shirt that's said I was his best friend and I wore red shirt that said he was my best friend. When we was playing GameCube at the time, I would play with the blue controller while wearing the red shirt and he would play with the red controller while wearing the blue shirt. Sometimes we mostly Jinx each other while talking and keeps saying the exact same word at the same time. Sometimes best friends think alike especially when you grow up together and both of you know what each other is going to do before it happens. The same goes with between couples and other people who are best friends. So yes best friends do have benefits.

wheist9095 · Answer

Yes, the thing is it usually doesn't work out long term because someone makes it weird. Someone catches feelings, or they don't want to be mutually exclusive friends with benefits so people get jealous, etc

If you wanna do it go for it, but be ready to lose that person as a friend if things go south. If you're clear with y'all's expectations and boundaries it ain't bad!

little_bird1 · Answer

Had plenty, never again. More drama then actual relationship. I don't see what's in for women, since women our sexually different then men.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Yes, but it sounds better than it really is. Don't get me wrong, it is fun and great but before you go down that road you should consider your life goals and how that may affect them.

Rob596 · Answer

From my experience, girls get too attached to stay friends with benefits. Me on the other hand, I just see it as sex. How it should be….

LikeALog · Answer

Yes. A true friend with benefits. There are many interests and activities that we have in common. We spend time together doing those things. We enjoy each other's company, but know that our personalities are not compatible for a serious relationship.

Comesaveme · Answer

Yes I did. I eventually fell for him and then he liked the fact that I loved him and turned it into a relationship. He proposed way too quickly and J thought it was because he loved me but all he wanted to do was “settle down” and have someone cook and clean for him. Before we could get married he met a 19 year old girl and within 2 weeks of knowing her he left me for her and already proposed to her within a few days of knowing her. She dumped him in less than two months and now he keeps messaging me like nothing happened (no apology nothing) in hope of getting sex or nudes or temporary satisfaction. In summary, men and women are very different in friends with benefits relationships. A woman can grow to love a man but a man cannot. He either sees her as someone he could love from the beginning or nothing. I guess there are some exceptions but in reality, if you are in a friends with benefits relationship with a man, it’s highly likely that you’ll always be a friends with benefits to him and he will keep looking for the next best thing. So if you just want to have fun and can control your feelings, go for it! But if you think you can get him to love you by sleeping with him, not that big of a chance. However, there have been a few cases where FWBs have fallen in love and stayed together.

Jooying · Answer

Many. Especially in college time. I had no time to date and the stress from college just crashed me almost. I had fun in party and knew many good guys. I was ok, he was ok, and we had casual sex.

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I have had a few which worked out ok for me. I wanted the fun, but wasn't interested in a relationship and this friends with benefits thing was perfect for this.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

I want one. I guess it'll be some kind of practice for me since I'm not sure how to be a good future girlfriend.

JBlade · Answer

No, I imagine that it would be quite depressing because sex with nothing more would be empty for me. It's akin to just friendship.

TheorionMage · Answer

Was propositioned by a married woman to be her friends with benefits and it was some of the most playful and satisfying sex of my lifetime. I suspect her husband was infertile and I was to become the covert sperm donor. We became one another's naughty sex toy.

Physically we fit one another's genitals like hand-in-glove. The relationship ended when I civilly married my regular girlfriend at her parent's behest.

She was our matron-of-honor. She's passed on now---

MCheetah · Answer

No, I haven't. Girls have never been that into me. Also, I don't think it's a good idea. Recipe for disaster, most of the time.

Flower7 · Answer

No and I would never want to.

hahahmm · Answer

Just keep in mind that you will be lowering your relationship value. Most dudes have zero interest in taking a girl like this seriously.

RobT312 · Answer

No, I never really crossed the line. Friends are friends and girlfriends are girlfriends.   I ended up dating friends but at that point they were more than friends with benefits

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Why do you want to try?

MrCommodore · Answer

Just don't do it in thr secret hope that the guy will eventually fall in love with you, that won't happen.

Remember a guy won't be friends with benefits with a girl he is crazy about, he will take her off the market. And in most cases guys don't fall in love with a girl he is friends with benefits with. He will have sex with her until he meets his dream woman, and may still use after this from time to time, but will never consider her relationship material.

ohshee · Answer

Yes I have and I could tell you such a wild story about it but I won't do it and tell everybody I would tell you though if you wanted to know if yes is one of the best experiences ever I got to learn a little bit about myself which I really am glad that I did and if it's done right it can be a cool thing a good thing for both people

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Nope. It's not my thing. And no matter what people say, someone always ends up catching feelings. I can't be intimate with someone without having some sort of feelings for them.

Bobsyoruncle · Answer

One. Back in the 70’s, a long time before that term was coined.

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