It probably wasn't, but you stayed. The question is about his behavior now. If you like his behavior now, then stay with him. You knew he wasn't a virgin when you had sex. You still did it. You knew he was talking to other girls and you stayed with him. You knew he was unfaithful before you and you still chose to date him. Clearly you forgave the things that are causing you worry now at the time. Because of that you can't hold him at fault for things you knew that you let slide if they're not still happening. Granted if he was still doing those things and you were cracking under the pressure, then it's a different story, but it appears he's not doing them anymore and it's hypocritical to have an issue with them now when they weren't enough for you to break up with him then, especially since they aren't still happening now.
1 0 0 0You're right. But I think he didn't change them immediately because he didn't know I knew and when he knew that I knew he said "well I didn't know it would bother you" and he quit after I told him or so it seems. I stay with him 'cause I love him and I waited for so long. And when we had sex for the first time his past didn't bother me (and I kinda thought he was a virgin and just lied) but I was more confident then. I became insecure in this relationship but I still love him very much.
It sounds like you've entered stage 2. Stage 2 and 3 if a relationship are thr most difficult. I recommend that you remember what you love about him. Remember a relationship is work and nobody is 100% perfect. Even if there is (as I believe) a perfect person for you there's a 1 >7 billion you will find that person. This could still be good for you and you for him even if you aren't perfect.
What is stage 3? :(
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I agree with the other answer. If you choose to stay, then you shouldn’t be imposing toxic behaviors in a relationship because you feel insecure. If these things are a deal breaker that you can’t come to terms with, then you need to leave the relationship, and start fresh with someone else. You obviously have morals that you didn’t even listen to yourself when you went for this guy. If you stuck to your morals, you would’ve never dated him to begin with.
0 0 0 0The thing is I became insecure in this relationship and the morals came with them. I think it just didn't hurt me as much as now because I was confident and I was kinda blind.
@asker well if that’s how you feel, then you need to break up and stop talking to him, start fresh. What you accepted doesn’t give you a right to act toxic in exchange.
I still love him a lot and I don't want to break up but I'm not allowed to speak to other people about his wrong doings so who else should I speak to than him? Asking people anonymous is literally my only option because he doesn't want to talk about it.
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