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If you know it's her first time, do you automatically go down on her?

I'm very inexperienced. Luckily I have found a guy with whom it seems to be going the right way. I believe we'll probably end up in bed soon and I'm really nervous but also excited.

What worries me though is what if he isn't going to take his time? I imagine stopping him abruptly would scare him out... usually guy goes down on a woman to ready her first no?

I don't know whether I should somehow bring this subject up to him... I'm not sure if he even knows that I'm a virgin, we haven't talked about this yet, we haven't done much except makeout stuff..

How would you guys prefer to be told she's a virgin? Some time before or before the first time night together?
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  • Most guys who are ok with eating a girl out will usually do it. Not exactly "without asking"... like the guy will make it SUPER obvious that he's going to eat you out (slowly kiss down your chest or up your thigh ever-closer to your vulva, for example).

    Most guys are not going to verbally ask you... just because it can be kind-of a mood killer to literally ask in words. But most guys WILL absolutely 'ask' by making it very clear what they're intending to do, and to give you tons of time to "say no".

    You should definitely have a clothes-on conversation with this guy. You need to communicate to him what you're looking for. Otherwise he won't know. You should be able to talk about sex and oral sex, if you're ready to have it. So you should talk to him about what your looking for. And he can either reassure you that he's going to do his best to give you the experience you're envisioning... or... if he happens to be one of those guys who doesn't eat pussy... you guys can TALK about it. That way, nobody is disappointed, or wondering why this or that happened the way it did. Communication is key when it comes to sex. That very often involves clothes-on communication before anything sexy goes down.


    You aren't going to get a sudden, surprise tongue between your legs. If he's going to go down on you, you'll know it's coming. Whether he does (as a matter of course) or not, is going to primarily depend on his feelings about going down on girls in general. If he's down for it, then yes, most guys usually will warm a woman up that way. But... again, TALK about all of this. Otherwise, the odds of things going the way you envision are fairly slim. 🙂

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  • I rarely give oral sex to a partner on our first encounter. Many people have the attitude that if a guy gives a lady oral sex, she is obligated to return the favor. Some women do not want to perform oral sex and adding that to everything else happening the first time unnecessarily complicates matters. If it is our first time, the only thing I know is that she has consented to having PIV sex, so i engage in some foreplay like playing with her nipples, fingering her, and then proceed to PIV sex. After that first time, she will probably be more comfortable talking about her likes and dislikes and the second or third encounter would probably be more adventurous, less inhibited.

    Yes, you should tell him - in advance - that you are a virgin. And if you aren't ready for oral sex, either giving or receiving, then tell him in advance. Unless they are just players, most guys would feel very honored to be your first partner and would make extra efforts to make sure that it is a pleasant experience for you.

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  • Do you want him to go down on you? (You don't have to know now; you can decide in the moment.) But you can probably communicate what you need to with more gentle clues. If he wants to go down on you, he'll probably move down your body fairly slowly; you can gently stop his head when he goes as far as you want him to. If he doesn't take the hint, just gently say that you're not ready for that yet, direct him up back toward your head, and say something like, "I want you here close to me."

    If a guy is going to charge at your pussy like a bull, it's usually with his cock not his mouth. But, if he does rush down on you, he's probably going too fast through things in general. If you're like most ladies, you like lovemaking to be slow and intimate. So, if he charges down on you, that might be a good chance to slow him down in general. You can stop him in a loving way by pulling him back up to your face and saying something like, "Hold on, I love you and want to be with you, so let's go slow so we can love and enjoy each other."

  • Guys nearly always go down. Not so much for your pleasure it's more to remind themselves where the hole is.

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  • If I know it's her first time, I'm not going to do ANYTHING automatically- I'm going to talk to her about it beforehand, and probably start some very basic stuff as a standalone to get her used to being touched and make sure she's comfortable with it. Sex is a wonderful thing, but it can easily overwhelm someone if you move too quickly. Better to take it slow, at least at first. It's much easier to speed up to someone's comfort level than to slow down to it.

  • A guy who cares for you will always take your feelings into consideration first. He should be patient and gentle. Make sure it's right or don't do it.

  • No reason to "ask" her. If I move to eat her out, she usually lets me do it.

  • Once her shirt is open, I'm off and running.

  • Important thing is to communicate your worries etc. to your partner.
    For some girls, even tongue on your clit may feel rough.

  • I would not go down on her unless she asked me. I would let her figure out what was most comfortable for her.

  • Just communicate. That's the best idea anyway. Tell him you're a virgin and tell him what you'd like him to do and what you're scared of happening. This way you can make it best for both of you. If that scares him away, he's not the right one anyway.

  • Yes I would

  • If we're going to have sex I make sure she's aroused before we start. My girlfriend and I have had sex over 100 times and I still. do it every time.

  • If we care about each other then I would start licking her pussy first :)








  • I would tell him that you are a virgin. Then he knows (if he is sensible) that he has to be careful and slow. Take your time, don't do anything rash. Tell him how you feel, what you want. let him kiss your body top down That increases arousal and he can start with his tongue...

  • Id start pretty slowly and then give you all the feels.

  • I love going down, but always ask.

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