How to hookup with women in college? Any advice? How can I avoid getting in trouble? Are my fears reasonable or unwarranted?

[WhiteBoyChill]

So it is my understanding that if I ask most girls straight up my first time meeting them “hey you’re hot can we have sex” vast majority of the time they’re gonna get super uncomfortable and say no.

Possibly even be offended. Most likely even going to badmouth me to other women and further tarnish my reputation telling them that I am a creep and they best be avoiding me.

Worst case scenario even report me to police for harrassment.

But am I just being a complete wus or am I actually being reasonable?

My point is women hold a lot of power in society. They can completely ruin a man’s life if he is not careful. It is best not to f*ck with random women that you do not know well.

So something as simple as asking for consensual sex can be a death sentence in the wrong setting with the wrong girl at the wrong time.

But at the same time I’m the guy that isn’t getting laid so are my fears holding me back or am I being responsible?

How can I safely pursue sex in the safest and easiest possible manner where I won’t face negative repercussions?

I’m not very social either and I tend to be introverted so that hinders my ability to get sex. Nevermind the fact that I have social anxiety.

But still like with any other guy I still do get horny from time to time.

I’m wondering how I can get sex. Someone suggested a tinder profile but I do not have someone that I feel comfortable asking to take my photos. And I’m not really sure about hiring a photographer either.

One thing is for certain there are plenty of girls on tinder nearby that I can choose from.

And given my limited social skills I’m not really comfortable asking a girl for sex in person unless we actually were in a relationship or otherwise close to each other or something like that.

With tinder women are essentially just listing themselves on the market for hookups so I don’t have to worry as much about what I am asking them.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

If I knew you in person, I’d totally help take pics for you and help build a profile. But I understand it, it’s kinda hard to know what people’s reactions will be when you ask them in person especially if it’s in a certain setting. College parties are a big place to meet others and hookup. I understand the limited social skills too, it makes it 10x worse when you don’t feel comfortable being so upfront or even attending parties. It’s not like you can just go to lecture and talk to the girl next to you and ask if they wanna hookup — Super odd, wrong place, wrong time.
All I can really advise is that you attend some parties… Drink a little if it helps, bring some friends so you can be more yourself, dance with some gals… You get the gist.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Alright. And would using Tinder be a safer place to start since the site is practically established for that purpose?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I would think so, talk a bit first and try to aim for girls that kinda make it clear that just want hookups lol.

[andreea89]

I don't know man. I feel sorry for guys. And for myself. I used to get more guys who were upfront about wanting to fuck and I liked it. But now it's not that often. I like a direct guy but you're probably right to not be direct. Not many girls understand

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah. I mean the reason I’m afraid about being direct is because we live in the “MeToo” era where women get bothered much more easily than they did in the past. Things were seemingly different ten years ago, but of course I was below the age of consent obviously

[andreea89]

Things were different ten years ago when I was at uni. Getting groped when out dancing wasn't a huge trigger for most and drunken one night stands were the norm for me. and my friends. If there were regrets, we were fully aware we were responsible for our decision to get drunk and fuck

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ya but now if there’s regrets they will pin the blame on any guy they want!

[mark000h]

I actually like this question and sticking around for the answers.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah man. It definitely took some humility for me to be able to admit my fears and weaknesses. We just live in the era of “MeToo” where women hold a lot of power these days and you have to always be careful about what you say to who you say it

[bean2k21]

Drink heavily