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If you knew that nobody (including your spouse) would ever find out, would you have sex with someone aside from your spouse?

If you knew that nobody (including your spouse) would ever find out, would you have sex with someone aside from your spouse?
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  • Because I am single I was not going to give an answer, but honestly, I think I have one. Outside of serious mental issues like NPD and being a sociopath. The guilt will finally eat you up. In the end, you can't escape YOU knowing about it. I help run a men's recovery group! All these men are in the US Navy and either is divorced or are in the process of. One of the guy's wife finally just busted out she had cheated about two years before when he was deployed. She was not able to hide the guilt. he started to notice she was depressed all the time and stopped enjoying the things she used to enjoy. He just asked her what was wrong, she fell to her knees and let all that guilt flow. Yes, the infidelity was a deal-breaker, she knew it. This was why she tried to keep it hidden. As I said, absent a mental issue, we humans are not programmed to hide secrets like this. That guilt is going to come out eventually and you can't stop it! So to answer that question, my answer is a firm NO! We talk about this some in the group, it is likened to would you run a red light if there was nobody around and you were 100% sure you would get by with it? It is surprising how many men say they WOULD NOT run it. I have asked this question to maybe 500 people over the years. 75+% of females say they will run it. Only about 10% of males say they would. Really weird!

Most Helpful Guy

  • Im not into cheating.
    Its not a question of having the ability to get away with it. Trust is a question of weather or not you are worhy of the mesning of that word.


    There are plenty of men and women who cheat and get away with it. But there are no ways the cheaters can hide the truth from themselves.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your S/O may never find out but you would know. If you were any kind of a decent person the guilt would drag you down. Plus you would always wonder if they some how found out and know all about your cheating heart.

  • No. I don't betray my spouse. I abide our rules to the letter.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Absolutely not.

  • My husband gives me everything I need sexually and I have no desire to look for anything else.

  • I have but I meant to have told him that was what was wrong of me

  • I would know about it and that's enough. I like to think of myself as a decent guy who has never been unfaithful and I've been successful about being faithful through 50 years of dating, relationships, and marriage. Not gonna change that now.

  • Nope, that would be cheating, even if she didn’t find out.
    i tell my girlfriend everything about sex. so if something wasn’t working out I’d tell her instead of finding someone else behind her back.

  • You know I love fantasy I love roleplay I love pleasing a woman but if I'm married if I have a girlfriend I'm 100% loyal and that's because I want her to be 100% loyal with me so so even though she would never know I would know and that would bother me

  • If your relationship is bad, just break up. Why daydream of cheating when you can just leave.

  • no, never, i would still know

  • no. If I dont want my mans to do that to me, I wouldn't do it either. being loyal is a necessity. and if i want it, i should be loyal too.

  • I suppose it would depend on how that relationship is going. Love is kind of a vapid concept to me. Loyalty is earned by mutual respect and by fulfillment of symbiotic needs. Absent that, well, they are called needs because I need them..

  • No, I'm a genuine person no pretensions here, for me... loyalty is not conditional

  • No, absolutely not.

  • I realized a long time ago under the right circumstances with the right women Ide cheat. It’s extremely unlikely though and completely avoidable by getting enough at home as far as I’m concerned.

  • If your only reason for not cheating is fear of getting caught, then you're a piece of shit.

  • Nope! Because it's not worth it

  • Very unlikely. Too complicated.

  • That shit is whack. It's like getting jobs... just so you can steal from them. You become a shitty person rather quick.

  • That’d be pointless to meeee

  • No.
    That is the standard definition of a cheater.
    They all "think" no one will find out.

  • <Chose no>

    In short, IF I'd do that, then I'd be doing one heckuva' gamble. 'cause it'd only be a matter of time before my would-be girlfriend WILL find out, And the consequence would definitely be worse than doing so, while poorly hiding that.

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