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If a guy doesn’t ask or really try to get me to orgasm, does that mean he doesn’t care or that he’s inexperienced?

Dating a guy for a couple months. Our sexual chemistry is the absolute best. He has said that too. We ’re both addicted to it and it’s just so passionate and intense.. it brings out a sexual appetite and energy I never had before him. He’s more dominant and I’m more submissive. I looove pleasuring him; so fun to me. I read stuff online and try it on him. I enjoy giving him head as much as he loves getting it.
However, I normally don’t orgasm with him. I can’t tell if he doesn’t care or if he just is entirely unaware. Based on his dating history it seems like he has mostly had one-nighters/random hookups and he hasn’t had long relationships since he was like 21. When he was 21 he lived with a girl for a year but they ended. He’s had a couple long distance relationships that ended and they weren’t physically together a lot. He’s now 31.

I can tell he has urges but holds them back.. like sometimes he wants to slap my ass but slows his hand down before he makes contact. Or when he tries to eat me out he starts but he just licks the entire area and then kinda stops.

So I’m wondering if maybe he is just inexperienced and doesn’t know how to get me to orgasm? Or should he be trying and know how to? Is this more of inexperience or he doesn’t care?
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Also IM not that sexually experienced. I don’t really know how to orgasm with a guy when I’m so focused on pleasuring him at the same time. My last boyfriend made it a routine to always eat me out first, make me orgasm before him and then have sex and he’d orgasm... but that was so boring to me. it wasn’t fun like this. Making sure I orgasmed wasn’t what made the sex good I guess but I still would like to.
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  • He hardly sounds inexperienced, but maybe he's just inexperienced in the right areas. Some guys do genuinely think stick it in the thrust back and forth and are just clueless. A guy who isn't selfish should want to please, know how he is doing, what you like and if can get do anything better. If he's not interacting with you about this stuff maybe he doesn't care or is just a rubbish lover.

Most Helpful Guy

  • He doesn’t care. Dump him and find someone that does.

    • Um no I really like him

    • Have you told him what works for you? He can’t read your mind. If you did, did he respond or ignore you?

    • I haven’t told him anything yet I don’t want to hurt his feelings lol

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Most Helpful Girl

  • That means that he’s selfish you should talk to him about that

    • Touching yourself when he’s on top helps that has helped me

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  • If he knows and doesn't seem to care, it's selfish. If he doesn't know, you have to say it. Get him to zero in on your clit until you're ALMOST there, then sex the rest of the way.

  • Does he know you are not finishing?

    • No he doesn’t lol

    • I don’t want him to feel bad lol

    • So then how would he know to improve do u not see how your actions are preventing your pleasure

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  • I go for lack of effective experience and skill sets.

  • Could be either. This is where communication is important.

  • Could be either of the two and or both

    • I like your new picture ☺️

    • ? 🤨

  • Could be both really.

    • Have you talked about this with him?

    • No I haven’t yet

    • Then you should.

  • Tell him you're not getting orgasm

    • Yeah that would be the best wouldn’t it? Why do I make it difficult

    • Yeah that's the best.

  • Ask him to do more of what you want. If you want him to spank you, ask for it. If you want him to eat you out longer, ask for it. Don't assume he doesn't care if you never ask about it.

  • Either. But a nice experienced guy would care.

  • Could be both tbh

  • Inexperienced IMETBSHO. I always try to make her cum first. Have you tried to guide him? Every girl is different in their likes so tell him and help him get you on the path to satisfaction.
    Oral sex? I would have fumbled around... a lot, except, my first was 12 years older than me and taught me about her body. Now I crave eating women. I love driving them nuts and getting my face 'washed'
    Again, communication. Talk him through it. He just may not know.

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