Was it worth it losing your virginity recklessly?

[Anonymous]

For the people who lost their virginity while getting really drunk or high or who just did it with whoever accepted it. Was it worth it to lose virginity or would have rathered losing it to someone you cared about?

For more context:
I'm still a virgin and each year that passes I feel worse, lonelier, and more insecure about my looks. I don't know if I just want the sex or I just crave for real connection with someone. I never had a relationship either. I tried getting to know a girl recently and I ended up fucking it up for being impatient and creating unnecessary drama. I thought I was past my rejection trauma while being in high school but nope, I'm still that insecure teen. It turns out I have a shitty personality too I guess. At least before I was disciplined with my studies, now I'm really struggling with university because I feel no motivation about life, I just exist for getting by. I guess I should stop trying love and just focus on my studies as much as I can and try working on my mind and body.

Thanks for reading if you got here.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t lose it recklessly but it was not consensual. However, my real “first” time losing it was not reckless and I was dating this guy for years.
But I can speak for my friend. She lost it recklessly and she regrets it and she says it wasn’t worth it but knows she can’t take it back.


You might be craving both sex and a real connection. It takes time, I don’t know you or what you look like, but everyone finds someone if they try and are patient.
Focus on studies as of right now. You might just find someone in that time being. Be patient, and be patient with them.

[Medicalbug]

Absolutely. Virginity is the one thing I’m not sorry I lost. I am also glad I was too drunk to remember much. Once it was out of the way, I just felt so much more at ease with my sexuality, freed up in a way. I would highly recommend just losing it to whoever, if you find your virginity is causing you discomfort. I’m sorry you are having bad luck! I do have a male friend who is a virgin but he is kind of asexual and doesn’t fret about it. But if sex is what you want, I do recommend reckless removal of the V card.

[Neosporin]

I'm too shy how can I do it?

[Medicalbug]

So I don’t know a virgin who is doing this, but if I were in your place I would probably create a Tinder profile with a biography that clearly states your intentions. Be honest, let them know you’re shy and take nice photos - also make sure to stress no strings attached. I would just give it a try and see what happens.

[Neosporin]

okay thanks

[exitseven]

I met somebody at a party and we went back to her room and we had sex. I didn't cum and it was just awkward and disappointing. I had no connection to this girl and never saw her again.

[Neosporin]

Oh wow sad

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Neosporin]

I’m still a virgin but I tried a cheap escort and she just wasn’t attractive. COOchie smelled bad too. Paying for sex is not as easy as you would think

[Changiis07]

Hi! and I wish I would have waited for marriage to be honest but it happened. I'm sure there is someone out there for everyone. Try doing some research on how you can communicate better on how to control your temper etc. It's a work in progress but we all struggle and we all have childhood trauma. We are not perfect and we can all keep learning. Yes work on yourself! Women still love gentleman and that will get you very far but if you have not had a relationship maybe you are just not ready to keep it for long term. Whenever you do feel down or get discouraged pray! Pray every day, read the bible and listen to worship music. Trust me God is there to listen and to direct our footsteps. He wants us to be happy and full but you have to seek him. He wants a relationship with you talk to him and make your request known

[loves2learn]

I don’t think you should lose it recklessly. Yes, concentrate on studies and next time be careful not to make the same mistake.

[WakeSkateNut2126]

Plenty of fun stuff you can do besides sex. Save that for someone you really fall for.

[Subarugirl]

I was 17 when I lost my virginity to a hook up. Lost my virginity and first kiss that night and have never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Losing mine was just a total relief.

[Neosporin]

Aw man this makes me so sad lol :(

[Medicalbug]

I agree. It was a relief, kind of like passing my driving test.