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My girlfriend told me to wear panties? Is this a common fetish for girls?

We have been going out for 5 months now and a couple days ago she told me to wear some panties when we were cuddling together and i did it just for fun but I feel like she was into it. This is my first girlfriend so I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has an experience like this. I know I need to ask her about it but it's a strange thing to bring up so I'm kind of just waiting until something happens again or the right time to talk about it.
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  • Many many gen-Z women are getting turned on by androginy and male feminity (not instead of trad masculinity but as an extension to it, both archetypes, and a logical gap to fill when they're bi/pan, which turns the norm too), globally the spectrum is being queerified even for the straights!) If you're softish , long hair, a bit of the softboy bingo, and apparently you're not too insecure about it but just a little bit shy, she probably finds it cute and amusing! Indeed try communicating more tho and you're not quite sure yourself about how it makes you feel. If it turns out she has a full on feminisation-kink or want to explore a dominant side or gender play before you're ready for that or if it's just not your thing, it risks making it all feel clumsy and both of you will be repressed and hiding your true needs and desire to try stuff. Usually guys have anxiety about lacking masculinity in their girlfriend's eyes, so I think as she is the one into some of it at least, you can brace yourself and try to taste the waters of what her kink is and be vulnerable enough to tell her how you enjoy it, and which way you'd wanna explore, what is fun for you but what would make you insecure :)

    • That's interesting I never really thought of it that way and my girlfriend is bisexual but she's never actually been with a woman. That is kind of what i am like kind of long hair and a little soft but not like a pushover. Yeah I'm not insecure about something like this I dont really know that much of what i like or dont like so she is kind of taking control in a lot of situations. I know I need to talk about it with her but it makes me a little anxious thinking about it but I know when the time is right I'll do it. If she had some kink like that I guess I would be okay with trying things out but it would be new for me I just wouldn't want her to feel unfulfilled. I appreciate your response, its helpful !

    • You're welcome! I'm glad for once I can help someone so precisely and my guesses were right haha! I'm guessing as well with what you added, statistically she is likely to be attracted by the blurred line between soft-domming and the straight-queer blur of our generation. In simple words it probably either 1) amuses her, 2) turns her on to see you being cute, responsive, expressive, and letting her guide you without being a pushover, clingy, and not having your shit together (yeah the big problem with softies into this thing is that they/we often struggle with adult life and long for a replacement mommy with sex beenfits to bear all the emotional burden, that's the trap not to fall into, except if really consensual and talked about). In 2016 - 2017 when I needed to find a community to fit somewhere, it's r/gentlefemdom on reddit that did the work more than anything, I think where you are in your relationship that could help you both a lot discovering what you like! To start communicating maybe you can share her one of your most vanilla kink but with that same "flavour" as wearing panties, or just ask her someday if she'd like to see you wear one again, pretending you're joking^^ like teasing the waters playfully before thinknig of coming out for something but you don't really know what yourself x) But take it with a grain of salt, for me this "guessing game" wa sall too complicated so when I got out the virgin-nerd life I pulled everything on paper so my play partners would know, I didn't experience the "girlfriend thing" the usual way^^

    • Yeah some of your guesses were pretty spot on lol she's always been a bit more of an aggressive person than me so it makes sense if she's a soft dom. I could tell it turned her on. I've never used reddit before but I'll check it out maybe I'll find something I like. That might be a good way to ease into it like joking about it. What way did you experience with your girlfriend lol

  • You are either like this because you are a virgin or because you're a feminine guy. No man should let their woman tell them to put panties on and actually do it. If you liked the feeling of it then maybe you should explore your feminine side more. Your girlfriend is one of those feminist women that loves taking masculinity away from guys and that's when you run away before you become her little bitch

    • well I did lose my virginity to this girl and I'm not a super manly man I guess but I dont think that reason is because I wore panties for fun lol okay maybe I liked it a little but I dont think she's going to turn me into her bitch

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yeah make yourself a sissy and let her see you as a sissy.

    • Wearing her panties makes me a sissy?

    • Her telling you to wear panties and you putting them on confirms it or you are simply on the gay softy side shame.

    • I'm not gay but I am a little on the soft side

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  • It's certainly not a common fetish for girls.

    • Mine does it!!

    • didn't think it was but it is my first girlfriend so I was curious but I guess it's nice to experiment

    • Everyone has their own personal preferences. Please do remember that communication is the essence of making a successful and satisfying relationship.

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  • Wow dude, no. Sounds sexy/ kinky though! My girlfriend has blindfolded and cuffed me to be the dominant one but that’s about it

    • it was definitely a surprise to me 😂 and that sounds fun I'd be willing to try that

    • Yeah try, it’s fun. We tend to both be aggressive in bed so this was a game changer. I actually enjoyed being submissive for once, it made me feel like I was being worshipped by her. Maybe your girlfriend was getting you into a sub role with her underwear?

    • For me she's always been I guess more aggressive than I have but she's never done something like this before but I did enjoy it. Maybe that is her way of putting me in that role or something I still need to talk about it with her but it makes me a bit anxious lol

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  • Not common, lol.

    • didn't think it was but it is my first girlfriend so I was curious

  • For some reason women will often try to emasculate a man. It’s a test. Don’t give in unless you wanna be some fucking cuck bitch

    • I wasn't sure it didn't really feel like a test but if it was then I guess I failed but I dont think I'm a cuck

    • Never let her feminize you like this again

    • It was kind of fun but if she pushes something too far I'll let her know

  • ewe... no way. but whatever floats your boat

    • that's kind of how I felt until she convinced me to put them on lol

    • haha. soon you'll be putting on lipstick

    • I'm not like that

  • Kinky but I’d do it.

    • I liked it

  • Maybe she into cross dressing

    • I dont think she is

  • My ex used to make me wear her panties. I have a fetish and love panties on a woman. I’m not into wearing them myself but the tight sheer material did actually turn me on and turned her on

    • That's sort of how I felt as well like the thought of me wearing panties doesn't turn me on but the way it felt while wearing it and knowing my girlfriend wanted it made it so hot for me

    • These were bikini style sheer ones and the tightness made me hard

    • What style did she put on you?

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  • Mine did to mee I haven't left them since

    • I honestly dont know how to feel about it but it was fun

    • I love ittt they feel so nice.

    • that is true it did feel kind of nice to wear lol

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  • If your dick firts in there it is small. Your girlfriend must see you ass a total sissy and she knows she rhe one who calls all the shots

    • Well I dont have like a big one it's below average and she does not see me as a sissy I don't think though. She calls the shots a lot but I like that about her

  • Maybe for some girls, she seems fun

    • She is fun I love her

    • Make her wear your underwear next time

    • Maybe, I just dont know if it would turn me on like it does for her

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  • Panties feel good to wear and are skimpy, you can still be tough and wear panties.

    • it did feel good to wear

  • Sounds like she is becoming Dominant and make you submissive and trying to start feminizing you. Go along with her, it sounds like fun. Is her name " Peggy"?

    • Well she's always been a little bit dominant but I dont think I would be into feminization and I dont mind going along with things she wants it's nice to experiment. Lmao I see the joke your making

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