Are guys more open sexually in the bedroom?

[Anonymous]

Are guys more open to do what their partner wants in the bedroom compared to women?

I notice that anytime I bring up anything sexual I want to do with my man he is always down for it and his openness to it takes me by surprise everytime. He always says it’s because he’s a guy and what turns me on turns him on.

He always says I’m more freaky and kinky (which is why I get scared to request things at first) then him, but he likes it and is always open to do it anyways.


Do you think this is true? Are men more sexually open minded in the bedroom? Is it true for you or your relationship?

[MrOracle]

There's no universal truth. Some men are definitely more open, and some aren't. And, you may find a guy who is completely fine with, say, exploring BDSM, even if it's not really his thing, but may put on the brakes completely about anything he feels is remotely "gay" (a MFM threesome, or any anal play on him, etc.). Another guy may be fine with the latter and have a problem with the former. Another guy may be fine with all of it, and yet another guy may not want any of it.

But, overall, men are very sexual, and given that the vast majority are hetero, most of them are likely to be okay with most things that involve women - though some will have limits. This is something you really just have to discuss with any potential partner, because there is so much variation.

Something about the BDSM community is that it heavily encourages this kind of discussion, because it's necessary - nearly no one likes ALL aspects and activities of BDSM on a personal level, which means nearly everyone has limits and boundaries that they don't want crossed - and the specifics vary wildly. Thus, clear discussion is necessary and therefore expected in the BDSM world. The non-BDSM world would be much better off it it was normal there too - even though the discussions would be much shorter and simpler. LOL.

[NamerOfStars]

That would be in keeping with what I've observed. I think women, more than men, fear getting into the "if I say yes once, I'll have to do it forever" trap. That could well turn out to be awful, but can easily enough be avoided with better communication.

Sometimes you want to try something, but don't know how it'll go; sometimes you try it and it doesn't live up to how it went in your head. Most sexual scenarios and activities have lots of elements, each of which can be tweaked or expanded or shrunk; experimenting can help you turn a fizzle into a sizzle, and I think that men are (broadly speaking) more used to applying that kind of thinking in non-sexual situations, which translates into sexual ones as well.

[Asker]

Wow, that was spot on. I never thought of that. Thank you for answering.

[slatyb]

Some are, some are very inhibited.

[Shotia322]

Mosi yes.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, absolutely! Men are way more sexually free than women are. I never realized how repressed most women are until I noticed that a lot of them literally could not tell you what turns them on.

[Asker]

That is very true. I still get embarrassed to express what I like to him even though he’s really chill about the freakiest stuff

[Andres77]

Be thankful he's willing to talk about what turns him on. Many will but some won't.
Enjoy it.

[Asker]

He doesn’t really (besides blowjobs), he mostly just goes along with my fantasies and kinks.

[rod23]

Your young , enjoy it all while you can

[Ineverquit]

i think in many cases yes. but then i think woman dont always want variety, just lay there. guys want a freak in the bedroom

[TheBigGuy9]

For the most part, yes. It’s in our dna

[Likes2drive]

Men are yes

[dudeinohio]

I believe it is true

[OddBeMe]

Society puts more expectations of purity and chasteness on females, so I’d say as a whole, yes.

[Asker]

Hmm that makes sense

[OddBeMe]

That also means men are more predatory than females.

[Luckycharms12]

So are yes others nó depending on person

[andy530]

I think in general yes but there are some men who are not open at all I think there are a lot of factors that do into it

[Rudon00]

Yes I am. however I'm sort of conservative when it comes to sex

[Asker]

Interesting, and how exactly are you?

[Rudon00]

Conservative in the context that I'm a vanilla type when it comes to sex. Old fashion. if you know what I mean

[Asker]

Ahhh okay

[Rudon00]

Yep yep

[2021biguy]

It's probably true :)

[prosmind]

Of course men are more open in bedroom.

[Asker]

How come?

[prosmind]

Most of the guys love to explore new positions and methods plus talking dirty to partners.

[nudeNhorny]

Not all men, but a big percentage are.

[Amur8711]

All I can say is I am one of those guys

[Texas_guy]

I think it depends on the person

[Anonymous]

I’m up for almost anything. I find it a turnon if my partner is kinky (she isn’t) and wants to try new things.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, I find it extremely attractive when someone is kinky and tries new things and gets excited about sex in general (not having a conservative view on sex). Unfortunately if ur not with someone like that, you’ll always be sexually frustrated.