Men, why do you only want to look at your girls nudes?

[unknownforever]

I know this might seem like a silly question, but I had an ex who always looked at other women and had pure excitement to see other women's nudes. However, my most recent guys only ever wanted to see my nudes. One of them still watched porn, but he preferred to only look at me. And now this other guy won't watch anything else. I say it is okay, but he says no, and completely understands if I don't want to send anything. Why is this? Maybe I just had a bad experience with my first ex, but I thought guys would be over-thrilled to look at other girls. I am not used to guy only wanting to see my naked body. So men, why do you only want to look at your girls nudes?

[dankstranger]

yeah i think you've just had a bad experience. I'm really sorry about that. but it seems like your already figuring out that not all men are that way. I've only ever recieved nudes from 2 women before.

think about something for a moment. Why would men want to see nudes from an everyday girl when they have unlimited options of high quality professionally produced pornography literally in their pocket?

- Emotional Impact

when i look up a porno online I get my rocks off anywhere from 2-10 minutes in. i'm usually alone before during and after.

when a girl sends me nudes it's much more drawn out. there's a conversation about "what to take a picture of?" or "what she feels comfortable doing and not doing?" and it often leads into more dirty talk or discussion of what the next sexual encounter with her might be like. After that you talk more express thanks compliment her etc. there is a whole extra layer of emotional connections there that porn simply cannot provide.

A girl sending you nudes is more than just an erotic image. Its a symbolic display of trust. And to me, knowing that I have achieved that level of trust is extremely heart warming. I've only exchanged nudes with 2 women both of whom I was dating exclusively at the time. I never ask for nudes because I know that is a huge ask and will put a girl on the spot no matter the circumstances. but when it is offered. i am so appreciative.

for me, thats why in a relationship i only really want to see her nudes. because yes i'm being a horndog and i wanna jerk off, but its more than her body that excites me. its knowing that she trusts me enough to reveal that to me in digital form.

[unknownforever]

Thank you for your response. I see what you mean. But I guess it is so hard to understand. Like especially when they really only want to see you. Like I didn't know there was much of an emotional impact from looking at nudes. Like I am just so used to guys being happy to look at other women. So having these two wanting to see me was a big surprise. I still encourage them to look at other women if I don't want to send anything (because I learned to do that with my first ex), but they really just want to see me.

[dankstranger]

Your welcome. of course everyone has a wondering eye. but when you start to really get close to someone. that added emotional connection begins to trump any other eye candy you could find out there.

[unknownforever]

So true. I just have to stop being surprised about that lol. I sort of have trust issues, so when I am with a guy and he tells me that he only wants to see me, I don't really trust him. But yeah, I see your point. I think I am the same when I date a guy too

[dankstranger]

the first serious relationship i ever had went really sour. I had gotten cheated on. decided to forgive her like a doofus and she did it again. It really tanked my confidence and caused a few trust issues in myself as well. my girlfriend compliment me and I know she isn't lying, but that little voice in my head keeps doubting it. like even though i know its true and i want it to be true this evil voice keeps telling me "she's just saying that" trust is not easy to build back after it's broken. "once bitten, twice shy" All i can tell you is to be careful and if someone is really trying to earn your trust its possible they have good intentions. i wish you good luck with that.

[unknownforever]

Thank you. And I am so sorry to hear. It's horrible, and I wish cheating didn't exist. But I guess the most important thing to look at is that at least you got away from that person and met someone who is amazing. But t is very true. It is so hard to trust people after it's been broken. But I believe we will get through it :)

[RealMarek]

It depends on the people involved, but I think one reason is that it can be very healthy for the relationship. Some men are so attracted to or closely bonded with their woman that they just don’t want to see anyone else. Also, porn messes a lot of guys up sexually and can be addictive, so some stay away from it because it isn’t good for them or they don’t want to risk it.

[kyleelyn199723]

It’s difference between unloyal vs loyal. A loyal guy will only look at his girlfriend because he loves her and wants to stay loyal. An unloyal guy will use porn and other outlets to control his unloyalty

[unknownforever]

I guess that's true. My first ex was a total dumbass. Then my second ex would watch porn, however if he had the chance to see my nudes, he would only want to see myself. And now this guy is certain about only seeing my body. Which is what I don't get. I am just not used to it

[Jitternation]

Nothing wrong with watching porn in a relationship by the way. I’m assuming this is the honeymoon phase and he’ll start to get off to other things later which isn’t a bad thing.

[unknownforever]

I suppose. I mean I guess that is the difference between myself and my exes. I wouldn't look at other guys or watch porn with them. But it is not necessarily just porn. I mean, my exes would look at other sexual photos of women from the start. This guy just seems to love to see my body. And my last ex would watch porn, but he really only wanted to see me. Which is why I was a little shocked. I thought every guy wanted to see multiple women nude like all the time

[Jitternation]

Most women watch lesbian porn so you wouldn’t be looking at other guys. There’s a difference between watching porn and interacting with women say on Instagram. As long as they don’t interact with women it shouldn’t be a problem. There’s also a minority of guys that don’t watch porn so he might be in that minority, but the majority get off to it. It’s probably the honeymoon phase though.

[unknownforever]

Probably is. But I don't watch lesbian porn either. I just thought every guy did it, especially at the start of the relationship. For me, if I were to look at another guy sexually, I would find it wrong. I just feel like I am personally going against my boyfriend. But I also know guys don't think like that

[Wade12345]

Because I'm "Straight". Looking at other men's nudes would make me a homosexual. Homosexuality is an unnatural affection, i. e. "Sin".

[Ineverquit]

i like all not just my own. like to see what others look like sometimes.

[Wise4myage]

Guys like that are keepers and he respects you. So don't ever let him go.

[Twalli]

The thing with personal nudes is that they're more intimate

[LegendaryIcon]

he likes her?

[Joshua0213]

Cause she's mine and I find her the most attractive of anyone

[unknownforever]

Aww, that is really sweet :)

[Zlantur2]

We are visual but sexting along with them makes it better

[jriosds]

Ya, to each their own. Please dont judge us all the same.

[unknownforever]

Haha yeah, I know. I just really thought it was abnormal to have a guy only want their girls nudes. I guess I am really not used to someone really caring about you or not wanting to always look else where

[Anonymous]

Because it’s personal and we know you

[Anonymous]

You want me to look into porn as well as yours too?

[unknownforever]

Haha, not necessarily that. Like if you had the option to see multiple women naked, wouldn't you take that chance? Like this new guy will not look at anything else. And if I don't send anything, he is cool about that too. He won't go and look at something else

[Opinion Owner]

most girls don't like their guy checking out other chicks

[unknownforever]

Yeah, I am not a big fan of it. But I had to learn to get used to it. I thought like the majority of men would still continue to look at naked women, even whilst in a relationship

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting you think like a mature girl, I doubt you are 17

[unknownforever]

haha, yeah I am 17. I always get told I am more mature then my age, but I doubt it. I'm a complete idiot most of the time lol

[Opinion Owner]

How many fuckbuddies you have right now?

[unknownforever]

lolll, rn a few. Kinda going through a phase. Thinking about ending it with all of them. But the second guy I spoke about (the one that watched porn but still really only wanted to see my nudes), was my last ex. But yeah, it was probably a bad idea. One too many of them caught feelings, so yeah, it didn't turn out the way I wanted it to

[Opinion Owner]

Whats the age range for you when sleeping around?

[unknownforever]

Haha I don't necessarily sleep around. Kind of like casual dating, nudes and so forth. However they all catch feelings, which is really annoying. But I try to keep it in the same age gap

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting, I thought You sleep with older guys

[unknownforever]

Haha I am still a virgin. I have had older guys, but that was when I was a lot younger. And that was the worst mistake. but one of them is a little older, which is why I am not so keen about it

[Opinion Owner]

I can understand, some guys can be clingy :P

[unknownforever]

Lolll so true. I just wanted fun and casual. And then they get annoyed when I have to ghost them. But oh well, that's my fault too

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps you should have told them its temporary in the beginning

[unknownforever]

Yeah I did. But they still caught feelings lol

[Opinion Owner]

Then don't show your nudes to them, babes

[unknownforever]

Lol yeah. Ending it with them. Thought they would find it easy not to catch feelings by looking just at nudes lol. Guess I was wrong 😂

[Opinion Owner]

lol what type of nudes you show? boobs, pussy or both?

[unknownforever]

Lol, the whole range. It really just depends on the guy 😂 some get more, some get less lol

[Opinion Owner]

I would be happy with boobs for sure :P

[unknownforever]

Lolll. Well apparently I have nice titties to them, which is so weird lol because they're small. But hey, as long as they're happy with it lol. But yeah, some of the guys get photos with all of me. Such lucky blokes lol

[Opinion Owner]

lol curious to know how they looking

[unknownforever]

Loll, they're not that cute. I really don't know what is going on in their minds lol

[Opinion Owner]

boobs are powerful still :P