1. Yes an enema reduce the likelihood of things getting dirty. If you do anal once a month then that's ok but if you do it regularly, having to do an enema every time is annoying. Just go some time before the toilet and you're usually fine.2. Of course it's possible that cum leaks out. If you want to reduce that then go to the toilet. But you won't have the feeling that you need to rush instantly to the bathroom. How well you can keep it in also depends a bit of how long and rough your anal sex session was3. Something where you can relax. This is very important, also to have a clear mind. If your body is not relaxed because of the position or because you're afraid that it hurts or gets dirty, it will become much more difficult. Anal sex needs some experience, so don't give up after the first try. I suggest starting off with some small toys. I used to lie down on the side and have a small vibrator that I used. And remember, there's nothing like too much lube.4. You can surprise him with the idea but if you have no experience then you might get started with this together5. If he's into anal sex then he will find it hot, wouldn't worry about that. You can either just whisper it in his ear during missionary or when you're on top or if you use toys you can just surprise him by switching from the pussy to your ass at some point. There are a thousand ways to start it and if it never has been a topic before then it will be a surprise no matter what, but going by this question I would suggest to take that path slowly and figure it out together because else it will be a one time thing
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Don’t eat anything a least 4 hours before using the enema, make sure you leave the enema in there for about an hour before you use the bathroom to empty it out
there is no guarantee an accident won’t possibly happen everybody is different during anal
Thank you I am terrified of an accident
The first thing is to learn yourself with fingers, a toy what anal feels like.
Yes starting point is a decent poop, then a good wash, you don’t really need an enema and can cause longer term problems.
A good shower, and give your ass a good wash.
there are various lubes you can use, each with pros and cons.
Also you need to be aware of dilation, this is where your sphincter muscles need to relax and let in a toy or cock.
I would suggest trying this yourself with a toy, get used to how long it takes for you to dilate, to easily take the lubed toy.
it’s also good working out what position works for you.
on back legs raised and cushion under you., or doggy.
then work out depth, speed, how you feel, don’t forget about your other lady parts and pleasuring them.
Decide if you want him to wear a condom or not.
if a condom, then water based lube but you need a lot.
if using a silicon toy, use water based or hybrid.
yes there is likely to be poop at some point, yes there will be fart noises at times, yes you may fart out the cum, watch out for that on way to bathroom.
it’s important you talk to each other and he does not go porno mode and shove it in you.
talk before, during and after.
to introduce it try letting him watch you play with a toy, this will also mean you are dilated and his cock will hopefully go in easier.
Thank yoy so much! I have tried a hair brush with a condom and water based lube. It takes a couple minutes and I like to go slow. Im so scared to have poo anywhere I would die of embarrassment and thats why I haven't done anal before. I usually lay on my side but I know that position won't work if I let him do it. I prefer if he doesn't wear a condom.
Unfortunately sex does expose us to bodily fluids, noises, facial expressions etc lol Try it in missionary but with your ass raised a bit, this sort of creates a more direct route in. Towels are really a good idea. Also make sure you keep him to small strokes and not almost pulling out and in deep, you can increase the chance of fissures that way. Also never do Ass to Pussy Once he’s in your ass, he cums in it or on you and not your pussy. You can simply tell him during initial fore play that you have a present for him and guide his fingers to your lubed ass. Just make sure you have plenty to put on him, also keep it warm
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1 using an enema before anal will abssolutely decrease the chances of poop dick (its ok to lol)
2 I don't think so? haven't observed that happening before anyway
3 best position is probably going to be just plane missionary or doggy style.
4 you should really really discuss something like this before hand. waiting until foreplay to bring it up may seem kinky and feel like your in an erotic novel, but you might put him on the spot and make him feel pressured to agree to it. Its best to discuss it before hand.
6 Get a butt plug. lube the plug and your anus. use it as a warm up. let him help. it will warm you up and probably warm him up too.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I'll provide some serious answers from experience as a gay man who is a total bottom during sex with guys. I got fucked so many times anally, so I know enough tricks:
1) Yes, enema can help cleaning your anal canals. But, making sure you go to the bathroom before anal sex, emptying your bowels and washing yourself sufficiently can also help. I often do that before I get fucked.
2) If he cums in your ass, you'll feel it, but that won't necessarily cause you to go to the bathroom. Some of my men have so much sperm that it flows back out of my hole despite all my efforts. But if your bowels are clean (Item 1 above), the sperm that flows out won't really be brown.
3) Anatomical differences between sexes and also personal differences aside, my favorite position getting fucked is missionary, because I can get the full length of my top's penis into my hole that way. Raising my legs over his shoulders also helps establish intimacy, since we can kiss as he fucks me.
4) In your case, since vaginal sex is also an option (the more conventional one), you may feign to start with vaginal sex, then switch to anal as your first act of the day. If he doesn't expect it, he should get really surprised.
5) I often wiggle my ass to attract my man's attention. I have a rather bubbly ass, which often does the trick and I get his dick in me before I know it. LOL
Hope this helps. Please feel free to ask more questions if you have any. I often serve as anal advisor to my female friends, since I always act as the girl against men in bed, and anal sex is the only way I can have men fuck me.
Not trying to be rude at all! But thank you so much but are you always prepared? How do you do that? I'm nervous but definitely want to try it. The guy I thought of experimenting with said that he's made women bled and had then do gross things since one wasn't prepared.
Does size matter? I thought smaller would be better?
You're not rude at all, honey. I have seen rude, believe me, as some of those men who fucked me were. But I always knew I could not play the field and expect everyone to be nice. LOL It would be a lie if I said I'm always prepared. But, if I have any inkling that I might get fucked during a day, say I will meet a guy I like and he wants to get in my pants; or I go to a bar where the night might end up with me underneath a stranger, then, yeah, I try to be clean. This puts some restriction on my diet (amount and kind of food), but life consists of trade-offs, doesn't it? LOL Your case is a little different as you’re a nicer person and not a slut like me, so you don’t go semi-blindly into sex. Since you know your man and can control the time and location of the sex, things can work to your advantage. I’d say, choose a day before which you eat easy-to-digest things in small amounts. Then, have your bowel movement, clean up, then voilà, your asshole will be clean for anal sex. I didn’t quite understand your last sentence, though… Did this man make a woman bleed and then do gross things on her because she wasn't prepared? Is this some kind of a punishment given by him to that woman for not being prepared? If so, that guy sounds rather mean to me… How well do you know him?
Be clean, don’t think you need and enema.
start with touching , fingering so you have an idea of what it would feel like
yeah anal can be fun , I’d start with doggy or even better... missionary with your legs over his shoulders then you can see each other
I love that idea 💡 thank you
👍👍 Have fun with it. My girlfriend and I were originally opposed to anal. We started slow and eventually tried penetration and ended up liking it. Don’t be afraid to start slow
Thank you I think I'll like it
We never use enema or any other thing. I keep my bottom clean all the time and we use lube :)
join priavte will teach well.
All interesting questions.
1 yes an enema helps lessen chance of a mess but honestly if you move your bowels a bit prior to anal sex I don't use enemas
2. No it will not make his cum brown, when it works its way out it is still the color of cum
3. I think the easiest way is with both of you on your sides with him behind, he can distract you and keep you horny and wet ( my husband will suck and nibble on my ears and neck and talk dirty to me) and will also play with my breasts and pussy and will use my pussy juice as the only form of lube we use
4. Invest in butt plug set and have one in and let him find it, bonus is it preps you somewhat for anal sex
5. Could do a massage with massaging oil that will make it slick.
We honestly somehow manage to do it every time without lube just use my pussy juice and it works great
Good advice from other commenters but I’ll add here
Don’t trust a fart after you’ve had anal sex.
Lol yep
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