If the person you’re dating (or on the verge of dating) said they’re not ready to have sex just yet, how long would you patiently wait?

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Does it matter if they’re a virgin or not? For me, it doesn’t matter if they’re a virgin or not. I’d wait as many months as they wanted. I’d ask in return that they wait at least 6 months before expecting me to give it up. I’d consider doing other things, but i’m just not having sex with someone within less than 6 months of “knowing” them.
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Wgatap999 · Accepted Answer

That wouldn't bother me one bit. I mean don't get me wrong I have a very high sex drive I haven't been with anybody in a while by choice definitely do a lot of masturbating and have no problem taking care of myself but that question kind of hits it right on the spot because the woman that I'm getting to know we're not dating or anything yet but we're interested in one another and at first we started phone sex and I stopped it after a while because I knew it was wrong and it didn't feel right to me because I do have a faith in Christ and we both respected that she got to know who God is and started to have a relationship with him of her own and she agreed that we would wait either till marriage or too well into the relationship maybe even a year or more because there's more getting to know one another than just banging each other and I know that sex in a relationship is very important but it's not the most important thing that person is and getting to know that person and loving on that person in a loving way other than sex spending time with them talking to them is more important so I would wait I have no problem

Cubus · Accepted Answer

I am a virgin, and I think I won't have problems with waiting. I'm not rushing with it, I want it to be special, so such terms would be nice. It doesn't matter if she was a virgin or not. If yes - then it would be a first time for both of us, so something really special, and if she was not a virgin but waiting - then it speaks well of her that she wants to build trust and bond first. Either way it's fine. And if I really loved her, then I would wait as long as she would want.

19magic · Accepted Answer

With no other context 3/4 months but it does all depend on the situation. How often do you see each other is it 2/3 times a month or 2/3 times a week. If the latter than probably would expect something to happen earlier. Does the guy have some bad trauma, is he a virgin, has he had a bad relationship then there's more personal ones like just how into him I am. I have a problem with believing every guy I like and likes me, is more worthy than me, better than me and while I liked them it's never been super strong so I've always managed to justify not seeing them anymore.

But honestly if I really like the guy sex probably is on my mind from the start lol, my thoughts is let it happen naturally if he turns out he was in it for the sex and a couple of months in he's left again well that's less time wasted for me.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I'd say 3 months, that eliminates 70% of guys right there that just want me for sex.

Another 3 months, will eliminated half of the remaining.

I can't mess around too much, or else I'll end up jumping him... so must take care of it myself before dates to get it out of my system.

MrOracle · Answer

I'm a grown-ass adult. I'd be fine waiting a month, and under certain circumstances, I could see myself waiting 2 months, but for me, if it takes longer than that, then she's too uncertain and I don't have time for that. I'm a very open book, and I'm happy to talk about anything, but I have needs and wants too.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

As long as it takes. I have no issue with waiting, and I would hope any future partners do t gace an issue either.

DaveJord · Answer

Yeah, most guys today aren't giving you more than 4 weeks. Most guys worth dating aren't going to wait 6 months for you to get over yourself enough to have sex. Not unless he's so bad at dating he's got no other prospects.

The women who wants to wait 6 months will say there no good men out there... they are all cheaters and lairs. But honestly they don't realize that they don't know how to treat a good man right. Its selfish to expect a guy to what that long.

Its like saying hey guy, I am so good I have set my self worth at a 6 months minimum. So where's that evaluation put his self worth at? You just told him, thats his needs don't matter.

Most guys worth dating could be dating three or four different women in a 6 month time period.

katiesmuff · Answer

You don't put a time limit on it! If sex is that important to you then you should avoid any relationship where one partner is leery about having sex soon.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

My answer would go like this. When I was in High School, it had to be less than a month (I won't even lie, that's the truth right there) Now I'm 34 and I can easily wait 2 to 5 months.

Shortman70 · Answer

You wouldn't last 2 weeks waiting with me!! I'm smooth as glass and sexy AF. And the things I do with my tongue, cherry stems childs play. But I would give you just enough that you would do anything for just a little more. I would be your drug that you couldn't get enough of, begging, crawling, knowing that you would die if you didn't get more as soon as possible.

RobT312 · Answer

I didn’t necessarily need to be in love but needed a connection. Once I had a connection, I wanted sex ASAP. I don’t think I’d wait too long, maybe 2 weeks to a month.

I haven’t needed to date for 5 years so this based on my experience when I was still a young horny adult.

spartan55 · Answer

At my age? A month tops.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d wait as long as they need. There´s nothing to rush because sex is very intimate and nothing that should be taken lightly.

Gochogirl · Answer

I'm shallow, I could go maybe 1 month

TheBootyChest · Answer

I would wait for awhile for them if they needed time to decide if they wanted to wait to have sex with me. But I would rethink things if it was a wait till marriage thing or they wouldn't "play around" in other ways until they were ready for sex.

I'm glad to hear that you would still do other things in that six month period.

melanieeeB · Answer

Uhm with the first person I waited 4 months, the second was my biggest mistake I waited 2 weeks and after that made the rule, to only sleep with someone if it's close to serious or serious.

So with my ex it was like 5 months after our friendship changed to more but he did try earlier and I didn't sleep with him, until he told me that he wants me to be his girlfriend

NathanDavis · Answer

this was the case with my second girlfriend, when I was 20... said she wasn't ready nor wanting or thinking about that, so... that I would to consider that for me to be with her, and so I just said yes that I would not mind it and that I could just wait or put that aside

we don't actually ever talked about how long of a wait or if it ever anything would happen, I just "forgot about it" and focused on many other aspects of our relationship instead

Sarahr123 · Answer

If they agree to marry me then I’ll wait until marriage but I’ll need a formal engagement and announcement and then I can wait 3-5 years no problem because my finger does a better job anyway.

slatyb · Answer

Six months? I’m not wasting my time with a child.

Cherry234 · Answer

Maybe a year or two. Or even until marriage. Also Idc whether he's a virgin or not. As long as he doesn't have any std's I'm good.

yankees992012 · Answer

I would wait as long as the woman is ready to have sex. I am currently married to a woman who was a virgin when we first started dating. I waited a year until she was ready to lose it. It was well worth the wait since the woman and I became so close and eventually married her.