I like to dress sexy, but my husband doesn't allow me to dress like that in public. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

[ShadezMcgee]

How sexy is sexy, exactly? We talking street hooker levels of revealing or are we talking sensual and teasing? Furthermore, why are you doing it in the first place? Are you just trying to get attention from other men or are you trying to show off to him?

Either way, you need to have a talk and hash this out with him you should dress how you wish, but understand there are consequences to these actions when there is no communication because it is left to interpretation. It would be one thing if my girl did that when we were at home or out for a nice dinner, but if she just did that out of the blue with no context or explanation, I would definitely see it as concerning and red flag behavior.

[DrewJohnson]

I'm sorry this is how your relationship is right now. I don't allow or disallow my wife to do anything. She's a grown woman. We talk about things but at them end of the day we make our own descions.

I would suggest you have an open, honest discussion. Then dress however you want. If you've got it flaunt it!

[SnakeBoop]

talk and come to a compromise. he's probably feeling a tad insecure over your "want" to dress sexy. Are you just after other people's attention kind of thing

[Asker]

I mean I like the attention.. I will be honest. But I dont wanna hurt him either.

[SnakeBoop]

Then definitely talk, because its probably important to know where his dislike comes from. Is he just being controlling, or does he have genuine concerns/insecurities? then you can go from there, and come up with options that hopefully still allow you some expression through clothes (maybe tamp it down if its quite revealing etc). Good luck!

[Asker]

Thanks 👍

[ushagomez]

Just tell him it’s ok and that you will only dress sexily when he’s not around ….. ?

[horatiohornblower]

If you don't want to hurt your relationship. Maybe fine something that looks really good but is tasteful. That way you get to feel sexy but he doesn't feel insecure about you showing a lot of skin. If showing skin is the issue. There's lots of sexy clothes which aren't overly revealing.

Ultimately, it is your choice.

[RobT312]

Aww. You should wear what u want!

[Wgatap999]

What would you wear in public. What do you wear when you dress sexy do you wear booty shorts tight skirts cute panties showing off your legs and your sexy body when you're at the house how do you want to dress when you go out and I don't know why he's tripping other than the fact that maybe he doesn't want to get into a bunch of fights because people nowadays disrespect so much

[ohshee]

Well that really sucks that makes me very curious I bet you're absolutely beautiful I bet you are absolutely sexy he needs to have more confidence within himself to allow you to do that I bet you are. Hot

[EmmaMary]

"Doesn't Allow"? Just who the hell does he think he is? Tell him to get lost.

[DonkeyDan]

Seriously? He doesn't own you, you should be able to dress how you want in public, within reason obviously. Just tell him you're going to dress how you want, and if he doesn't like it he can file for divorce.

[boggboss]

Evedently one of you will have to budge on the matter if dressing that way is so important to you then do it just know it will cause issues with him

[jshm2]

Depends. Either your "sexy" style is terrible and embarrassing to look at, despite what you think. Or he doesn't feel it's appropriate for you to dress like a hooker when going to funerals.

Speak to him and actually listen.

[Miristheiss]

The core issue.

Why are you wanting to do something that apparently hurts your mate?

You are free to do it but it sounds like causing rifts and cracks in your marriage is fine with you then. What is the drive to show off your body in revealing ways to other men not your husband?

[Bricealan]

My wife had the hottest ass in Orange County, and often showed it off in tight pants on her job. She was a Dental Assistant, and the patients loved her. (Ilm sure the men loved her ass more!) I was not insecure about her tight pants, and her big boobs (she had a breast augmentation)
You did not say what country you are in, and in many countries, men do not want their wives to show their body.
Sounds like something you need to discuss with him or, you and he, with a marriage counselor, to see why he resents you dressing in an appealing way. He sounds insecure when it comes to your style of dress.

Difficult to give a definitive answer to your question.

[FunkyMonkee]

Tell him to piss off!!

[sheikalana]

Dress sexy for him only.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Tell him your body, your choice

[silkjames]

Do what u want your a grown woman 🥰!

[TacosRAwesome]

What level / type of sexy are you talking about because depends on things either of you could be right.

[loveslongnails]

What kind of sexy are we talking about? What do you think about being told what you can or can't wear out in public?

[Wise4myage]

Dress sexy when he doesn't notice? Or does he watch you like a hawk?

[jahaims]

Listen to him. Your body is for you and him to enjoy once you are married. There is no reason to dress sexy in public other than for getting other people's attention.

[Asker]

But I enjoy the attention I get when I dress sexy. It gives me confidence boost. Makes me feel attractive.

[jahaims]

If that's what you need to feel that then you aren't in a relationship for the right reasons. You have a partner. You chose him and he chose you. If he isn't enough to satisfy your needs you shouldn't be married.

[HelenJacob]

don't listen to your husband

[pizzalovershouse]

Wear what you like