His behavior entirely confuses me and I need advice? He sleeps on the couch now, highly speaks of chicks on only fans and disregards my feelings?

[Anonymous]

Well things have been going well up until this past week? He has been sleeping on the couch telling me it's comfortable. For the past 4 days in a row. I asked him if he's mad at me and he tells me he not. He is going through a lot. With his relative going through an amputation and his online business giving him struggle and withholding his income etc.
I came home to his explanation of this girl today at work making income through only fans and in detail what she does. Wearing a pink bra, having a police officer pay her such and such etc. He even said he told them all that he wants to do porn but I won't let him? He says he wants to do porn so he can make money of his great body. He boasts about himself all day and night to his physic, his penis, his future goals about ruling, his creations and doesn't once ask me anything. He doesn't really pay attention at all when he used to. I have a late period and constant cramps but tests show negative. He would joke about me being pregnant but then him being firm on not wanting kids. I would joke about it once and he would get dead serious look. Although would always firmly grope my breasts still. He would joke at times of us getting a divorce or me sleeping in my own bed. Would say he wants to partake in an orgy but only if I mention it. Also it's almost a daily thing where he either tries to get me to smoke weed despite my fear of anxiety I get from it because he likes to smoke together with someone or the fact that I don't partake in sex as much as his previous partners. I would like to have more intamacy. But touching my cl! t won't turn me on as much as a gentle touch but he doesn't like doing that. Everything else is fine. We hang out together and watch movie together and share snacks and laugh. He says he may have to Uber again but every time he comes home he would talk about these women trying to bring him back to their place or him falling guilty in having a connection with them through conversations. WTF.

[Markm3212]

he's pissed off with you, why else would you sleep on the couch. take it from me, if i was pissed thats the sort of thing i would do, or sleep right on one side of teh bed and not make any contact.

i think he's worried your pregnant... after all if he dont want kids thats enough to freek him out.

at the end of the day, dont sound like he is the long term guy for you. you need to ask yourself questions.
- do you want kids? if so this is not your man and time is running out to find the right guy.
- he's trying to get you to do things you dont want like smoke weed and have an orgy? is this something you want to live with, as he isn't showing much signs of change and probably won't. he'll just get more annoying.
- he's talking about (basically hookers) only fans sites, like what does he want you to do ths? is he naïve that he believes women will pay to look at him?

to be honest, this guy sounds like a bit of a jerk and you need to get yourself a decent guy. sorry

[DonkeyDan]

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

https://www.youtube.com/embed/7kVgb5aPhDQ

[JennyDunne2]

Ok, so its hard to tell as I don't know him and the situation sounds like it could be quite complex, but assuming yous have been together for a long time I'm going to say that these aren't really red flags as they aren't normal for him. Like he's just going through a thing.
It sounds like he's probably angry at you, but either doesn't know why, or does know but thinks the reason is stupid as so doesn't want to talk about it but is still angry anyway.

I guess all you can do is try and talk to him. Maybe right a bullet point list even, just to straighten stuff out in your own head. But explain to him why you feel unhappy and try and get an answer to why he's acting this way.
You probably can't expect a clear answer in that moment, but once you've established that something is wrong and he needs to address the ways he's acting, how he acts from there will tell you a lot.

[Anonymous]

Um girl, these are like red flags… it almost sounds like he’s giving hints he wanna have sex with other women & not cater to your emotions/needs. You need to have real talk and how it’s affecting you cuz it’s so disrespectful and uncomfortable for you to the point you have to ask it here.


If he’s not gonna step up, please dump him cuz he sounds so douchey… like who the fuck talks about that many women to their s/o? He better be talking about how amazing his woman is to these other women.

[sensible27]

Do you think he like and cares about you?/? Do you see a future with him

[Asker]

The situation is confusing. When I think all is fine and dandy he isn't straightforward with it. Things are sugarcoated and leaves me blind to the problem. I do see a future with him WHEN he behaved normally, happily and working as a couple together.

[sensible27]

Ask him to be truthful..

[Wise4myage]

Is he cheating on you?

[TheBigGuy9]

Sounds like a total narcissist. Get rid of him.

[FamilyGuy2020]

To be perfectly honest, I can't even fathom how to answer your question I just need time to think.

[najekim]

Sounds like he is tired of you, IMHO.

[Asker]

The problem is he grew too comfortable with me and thinks he's too good for me. But I gave him a better place to live in, a better car with my credit and multiple times helped his half with rent. His own mental health is more important than the consciences of being responsible. He doesn't know that. He's comfortable of people giving him tons of money and then not able to pay it back.