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Is this a normal sex life?

We are in a long term relationship. It usually happens three times a week with or without foreplay. Foreplay happens less and less. One of those times is often a quickie. I start the long sex always. My partner only starts quickies. He’s too tired to at night and have long sex. He still masterbates.

But he never starts long sex unless it’s maybe once a week. He only gives me oral probably once a week.

But most days wants a quickie. And rejects or has sex at night but it seems forced until the actual sex.

Is this normal. For the amount and how it’s me who starts longer sex. The foreplay etc?
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  • Yeah, I think you need to have a long talk with your guy about sex. If he loves you and is concerned, he should attempt to make some changes. I get being tired and wanting to get off, but still, you need some stimulation too.
    Good Luck.

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  • does he watch much porn? if so could be that when he's stimulated he wants it and naturally after he has calmed down is not up for it?

Most Helpful Girl

  • Sounds like he’s gotten lazy and can’t be bothered to make an effort anymore, because he gets what he wants and needs anyway. He obviously don’t care much about your wants and needs though. Selfish and taking you for granted.

    • It’s so boring when that happens. I never take him for granted I always want to surprise him during sex or foreplay and always try to look nice etc. He’s smoking weed multiple times a day now and his breath is so horrible. He won’t even clean his teeth before bed. I don’t even want to kiss him at this point. I read something (maybe fake) that you can get cavities from someone who has them themselves and the way he is going he must have some. No way am I kissing him in case of that. Yet I’m always making sure mines is fine, hair done, tan done etc. I always want to have fun with things and he’s such a buzz kill. I have a night planned tonight to actually orgasm myself and I’m so excited for it.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Personally, that is not normal to me. I think every time is special. Then again, I have a very strong emotional connection with my partner.

    Perhaps don't be intimate as much and when you are they will be more special/meaningful. Just a suggestion.

  • It’s ok, but just sounds like going through the motions. You should be having more fun with sex than that. Talk about it

  • It’s normal to only have sex 1-3x a week in the first place so only one being particularly good is a great batting record

  • I'd just be happy with once a week at the moment!
    It can't be fireworks everytime, but talk to him, see if there's anything new you can try.

  • Have you discussed this with him?

    • Yeah he’s says it’s in my head

    • That's a lame reply.

  • A. Have you talked to him about this?

    • Yes he claims to be tired

    • That's a BS excuse if he uses it all the time.

    • Every night he does but during the day tries non stop for sex. Even if he doesn’t manage to get it during the day he will be too tired at night. He still does it with “force” 3x a week. But all throughout the day is saying he was fuck etc and trying to. Then as soon as it’s 7 pm he’s too tired to.

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  • Definitely not normal.

    • I don’t think it is either he’s trying to tell me it is normal

    • Well it’s not. Lol. I can tell u more but not here because it’s too much to type out and I don’t need underaged people trying to get at me. Lol. But feel free to follow me or message me, if not no worries.

  • "There's no such thing as bad sex. There's great sex, and sex." - Sir Winston Churchill

  • It's just an idea but maybe he only needs it once a week. and the rest is like a duty for him because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But what I'm writing here can also be complete nonsense.

    • For about 8 months he got used to that between us when we were doing good as a couple. Now I think it’s his normal

    • Maybe it's time to try something new?

    • Like what I’m very into just normal sex I’m more into the connection than something being a wow factor

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  • you need more play time and more sex

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