Guys, as a black woman with big breasts how do I get men interested? I know no one likes black women but it's demoralizing?

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  • I've said before, your looks aren't the issue. You're a pretty girl, in good shape, and guys definitely aren't against big boobs. Your looks wouldn't stop me from dating you, not by a mile, and I suspect lots and lots of men would say the same.

    So, in my opinion, the main issue is that you seem to have a lack of confidence, which likely makes you shy around guys. Being shy is a problem because it's hard for guys to get to know you. I don't really know you so I might be off base, but anyway, the secret to getting a good guy for a relationship isn't difficult.

    First, you need to focus on the guy's personality, morals, and values, rather than his looks or his career. Looks and career/status might make for fun and exciting dates, but that won't sustain a relationship, especially given that the better looking/more popular a guy is, the more likely he is to be selfish and the less likely he is to get into a committed relationship.

    Second, you have to be what the GUY wants, and MOST guys want a woman who is:

    - fit
    - friendly
    - feminine
    - submissive
    - cooperative
    - sexual IN THE BEDROOM (but not in public)

    You've got fit taken care of, so really think about the others. Do you smile? Do you laugh? Guys are like everyone else - they prefer to be around someone who is friendly and fun, so smiling and laughing and being happy and having a positive attitude is important.

    Guys want a girl who is feminine. Long hair, dresses and skirts, being soft and warm and quiet and calm - someone who brings PEACE into his life rather than conflict.

    Guys want a girl who is submissive - who lets him lead (provided he does a good job and takes her needs and wants into consideration).

    Guys want a girl who is cooperative - who works together like a teammate working towards a set of common goals - and who doesn't have to be "right" about everything, especially when she isn't right.

    And guys need their girl to be sexual, because she's going to expect him not to be sexual with anyone else, so she needs to be prepared to satisfy his needs sexually (and he hers). At the same time, most men want that to stay in the bedroom - he doesn't want you dressing sexually out in the world, or otherwise attracting sexual attention from other men.

    If you take these things to heart, and if you make it clear to men who show interest that you are only looking for a serious relationship - and you stand behind that even if you "lose" a hot or popular guy because of it (you can't really lose what you never had) - then you're going to attract the interest of the kind of guys who will make good long-term boyfriends/husbands. Of course you still need to vet them - their morals and values and attitudes especially - but if you don't project the attributes that men find desirable, men will pass you over, and it's not because of looks. Too many women think it's always about looks, but it's really not.

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  • Aw, man, not another "everyone is racist because 10/10 white dudes won't f*ck me and I can't be bothered to make an effort or date non-white men" posts on here again... Weren't you Jujubees last time? I'm starting to think you're just catfishing or something. You and @Priv9696 should form a club to complain about this same issue every week. The Hot Black Chicks With Big Boobs Who Nobody Wants Club. It'll meet at the local Y next to the Male Feminists Who Aren't Sex Offenders Club.

    This is especially such BS because we're living in an Age of Simps. Hell, you've probably got at least half a dozen simps who'll shower you with compliments on this very thread!

    Which is why I'm convinced you're a catfish. The woman you're pretending to be is fine as hell, just like I said last time. The picture is also from 2020 and has almost 2,200 views, so how long have you been asking this same question around the internet using this same picture and that GIF you also have?

    How do you get men interested in you? Lower your standards, stop chasing 10/10 rich white men (which is the common assumption), and go after real people by making the first move and saying Hi to them.

    Guys, as a black woman with big breasts how do I get men interested? I know no one likes black women but it's demoralizing?
    • I date all races actually but black guys only seem to wanna get with slim thicc mixed race girls

    • @Priv9696 "Black guys only seem to wanna get with slim thicc mixed race girls." That's not remotely true. Me personally, I couldn't care less about race. I just want a girl who isn't shallow, entitled, gay, poly, or mean-spirited.

    • That's exactly what I said to her. Look at her, she's hot as hell, I just don't tell what I would do with her if she was in my bed because that would be gross and rude but we all here know that the problem is not her looks or her skin color. If she lower her standards and stop chasing Chads and Tyrones she will certainly find a great guy with breast fetish as she described.

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  • Uhm. . . I like "Black" women. But maybe you didn't want "Black" men to respond.

    Coincidentally, my ex had very large breasts.

  • Personally, I think you're being too hard on yourself. What is this "no one like black girls" shit? I have known many attractive black girls. The only reason we didn't hook up was because our upbringing was so different, we drove each other nuts

    I didn't look at your pictures, but from the sounds of it, I'd consider you dating material.

    Quit treating yourself this way. It's a new age. Society still has to catch up, but the most of the 2K millennials who didn't grow up in a hick town are actually very open to biracial relationships.

    If you're getting grief from anyone that makes you think "nobody likes black girls", then politely tell them to go fuck themselves and right them out of your life because they're the reason society is still far behind the times when it comes to race.

  • What makes you think nobody likes black women? While I've never dated or been with any personally, I've been interested in a few, but they weren't available or interested back. And it's just plain hard these days finding anyone, for most people. My advice to all women is don't wait for guys to approach you, you do some approaching yourself. It doesn't make you "look desperate", it shows confidence! You know how most women like guys to have that... we do also! It's attractive.

  • It's a mistake to give up before you've even started, which is what you've done with this thinking.

    It's a big world, and there are plenty of guys who find you attractive and are interested. Be more confident in yourself.

  • "I know no one likes black women"
    *That is no unfair. Many of us do. Just make yourself visible and maintain a cheerful attitude. Also, from personal experience, make your hair "touchable". No sulfur smelling goop. No "fly away" styles. I am particularly attracted to (!) rope braids and short Afro's.

    • Looks like the second was taken down.

  • Believe me, men are interested. Maybe not the men you are interested in, but there are plenty of us that find you very attractive.

    There are other things at play that could affect your attractiveness, like personality and perceived intelligence, that we don't get a good reflection of here.

    • Being intelligent is off putting to many men

    • It's off-putting to boys. Real men like intelligence

  • Just be yourself and try approcing guys, there are literally billion of men every guy is different.

  • You're beautiful, honey. You don't need to keep posting this question.

  • I don't know what you're talking about... you're hot as hell.

  • Plenty of people like black women. Besides, it's way more about the individual person than the rave. Someone can find one race to, on average, be less appealing to them and still find women of that race that they'd consider some of the most attractive people they've ever seen.

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