How to deal with the fact that your boyfriend/ girlfriend had threesome like 3 times before they meet u?

My boyfriend is 32 and he told me he had threesome with a prostitute like 3 times. How to deal with this? I really wish I never know about this. I was crying when he told me this story cuz it’s really hurt my feelings. Because I think I can’t satisfy him enough
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  • I wouldn't think of it that way... personally like that. Think of it differently. Yourself for example, any sexual fantasies you have? If you did them, would it change anything as far as he is for you? I'm guessing not right? It's no different here. It's a fantasy that he actually had fulfilled that's all. Where my mind went was right to STI's. Hopefully he's been tested and clean? But that's the only thing I would worry about at all. Otherwise let it go because I can guarantee it's a none issue. And if you need reassurance, talk to him about it. Let him know this is how you feel, and is he happy with you sexually? Communication is key!

Most Helpful Guy

  • That is a pretty big red flag. Decent guys don't usually deal with prostitutes. It's the more player/ hookup types. Based on that i would bet it isn't anything longterm.

    The sexual satisfaction issue. Every man will get bored of your sex at some point. Most women don't keep it exciting and just lay there. Be enthusastic and actually want to bring him pleasure every time.

    The not fitting part as you mentioned in a comment. Use sex toys to get you pussy used to that size, it's a muscle it will stretch to fit. And do kegels every now and then.

Most Helpful Girl

  • The fact that he saw a prostitute would be my biggest concern. He has no way of knowing whether or not she was a sex worker by choice or if she was trafficked or being controlled by an abusive pimp. Which makes me feel like he didn't care as long as he got off.

    I get the sex workers are just trying to survive but I do not trust Johns.

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  • If you can't get over it then leave him.

  • Get over it. He’s with you and he’s not complaining.

  • Get him tested and clear your mind about it.

  • Don't make assumptions

  • He was just being honest, if you can't accept what he did in the past, than its time to move on.


  • Hey cheer up
    At least he told you ahead of time

  • That'd be great xP

  • What they did before you is none of your business. It's not yours to deal with

  • Prostitute is a red flag…but I guess details matter. There are some not sex trafficked. But not many.

  • Making a mountain out of a mole hill. Before your time so just treat it like trivia.

  • If its the past. Its stays in the past. I'm only concern with the relationship we have now

  • Just tell him and leave

  • @sasarin
    why do u feel you can't satisfy him? he's with you is he not?

    • He’s with me!!! But when I have sex with him my vagina is tight to get in so we take a lot of time to put it all in and I’m scare that I can’t satisfy him in sexually way

    • seems more like he doesn't satisfy you, a tight vagina only needs more caressing, the vagina will stretch a lot

  • that was his past, before he knew you, not a big deal

  • Interesting age gap

  • He sounds like a real catch. I wish you both years of happiness 🤣

  • Everyone has a past. He was honest about his. If you cannot deal with it you should find a new boyfriend. Going forward tell any future boyfriends to keep their sexual history a secret and you do the same.