What do you think about men saying simpy stuff like this?

[Anonymous]

I think this is okay to say if you’ve already had sex with the woman and have established you are not weak.

Otherwise, don’t say this simpy stuff when

1 ) you haven’t been with the woman yet and/or have established a relationship with her yet

2 ) haven’t demonstrated your strength, value, etc.

It’s like a mouse saying how harmless, sensitive, or soft he is.

He’s a mouse, he’s going to be all of these things.

Too many “men” say this stuff and I don’t know why. It’s either lack of experience with women, surplus of the WRONG experience with women, lack of testosterone, super poor role models, lazy lifestyle (drugs, alcohol, etc), and more.

[VIVANT]

🤔 Hmmm whilst I would def prefer that compared to sex when I’m getting to know someone, I think saying ALL that is awkward AF and would feel fake. I wouldn’t say all of that myself. Most I’d say is ‘I want to sleep next to you - just sleep’ and even that feels really weird to ‘say.’ Easier if you can just do it but unfortunately we can’t bc people assume there will be sex unless stated otherwise, so oh well. But yeah all those words… I’d be turned off it’s just not normal to say in the beginning. But I’d be really attracted to a guy who was clear about just wanting to sleep.

I think it’s a really nice way to get used to being around someone plus you get to see how you csn trust each otter. Sleeping next to someone you like in my opinion is fascinating peaceful and a great ice breaker but I know it’s not for everyone. Some people find it frustrating I find it very relaxing. The most relaxing thing I could do in a date. Esp bc I get kind of tongue tied and brain freeze so just being able to ‘be’ is awesome.

[Asker]

Oh yeah, it would be awesome. But If you haven’t built any reputation, it just sounds weak and off putting. A woman would be much more turned on if a man said after AFTER demonstrating to her that he’s strong, smart, loyal, hard-working, ambitious, etc. A high value dude. Once he’s proven he’s a lion, then he can start showcasing a little bit of the mouse. It makes the mouse attributes that much more meaningful and impactful to the woman.

[England4eva]

Wouldn’t trust it as far as I could throw it. If a man says this to me before we have been physical I instantly assume he is trying to get into my pants lol

[Not_Average]

Makes me cringe being that soon, but that’s me personally. If a guy is sappy, then I think the worst thing he could do is act like something he’s not to get women. He would end up becoming exhausted by covering up his identity and attracting the wrong kind of women for himself. If he’s sappy and cheesy, he’d be much happier being with a cheesy and sappy girl.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are right. Most women are not interested in sensitive metrosexuals who lack assertiveness.