How would a guy feel about seeing semi naked photos of his girl best friend?

[Anonymous]

My guy best friend is super close to me. We talk everyday and are a very vital part of each other’s lives. We have never done anything physical besides hugs and kisses on the cheek. We have spoken about being friends with benefits before but he said he was worried about things becoming awkward. Yet he was very open to seeing semi naked photos of me. He knows I plan on selling them online and highly encouraged it. Though he has yet to see my exposed breasts or my vagina. He knows that exposed breasts are coming in the next photos. My question is how would a guy feel about getting these photos? And why would he encourage me selling them if he gets defensive about men coming after me in public?

[Anonymous]

Sex doesn't make things awkward.
Women harboring the expectation that their guy friends can be friends with them without having any sexual interest in them is what tends to make things awkward.

Men are afraid to admit that "of course I want to have sex with you" because they are terrified that their female friend will go like "*gasp* wait.. have you been friend with me solely for this reason omg?" and then cut them off.
And since the guys don't want for that to happen, they have to be cagey or outright lie to their female friends.

Of course your friend is attracted to you, he is just afraid of that outcome.
So if you are interested in more, just find a way to ensure him that he can be honest with you and that it won't backfire.
He is open to seeing your photos because it's you initiating that, he is just agreeing to what you are seemingly finding acceptable so he probably doesn't feel there is much risk in that.

Personally, if I was that close with a female friend, given the degree of intimacy, there would surely be more than just fleeting sexual interest on my part.

[Asker]

Even though I have told him I would have sex with him he still feels that way? I made it pretty clear I am still friends with people I have had sex with and there is no awkwardness

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, that's weird. If I felt sure that we are on the same page about it, then I would have no objections about becoming sexual. Maybe it's not fwbs that he wants but actually something more substantial. Maybe he thinks that you are not interested in that (as in romance) and that only getting the physical part would leave him worse-off than having neither.

[Asker]

He claims he only sees us being only friends forever. I also got out a recent long term relationship and he said I should take some time to be single before I got in another relationship and I agreed with this statement and said it myself on a few occasions. So I dunno he confuses me a lot

[Opinion Owner]

He said you should take some time to be single? That's an odd thing to say. Definitely feels like that's his jealousy speaking. Maybe he is just scared that asking for more would risk losing your current relationship in some way and that it's just not worth it.

[Asker]

I’m definitely his safe space and the one person always there for him so I know he is scared to lose me. He has told this several times. Even said if I ended up in another relationship that we would always be friends. We talk all day from morning to night. He always tells me he appreciates me and loves me. And I rarely see him flirt with other women. Although he has told me about women he knows and how he use to have big crushes on them. Like I said he confused me.

[Asker]

Actually when I pointed out him flirting with other women on his social media he stopped doing it. Social media is the only place I’ve seen him flirt with others before and never in real life.

[Opinion Owner]

Is he the more shy/inexperienced type? I imagine that could also add to his reluctance, feeling that he maybe doesn't compare to your previous partners. I guess the desire is there but the confidence isn't, so he is opting for the less straightforward ways of obtaining your attention. Or maybe he just likes the tension? I wouldn't mind a bit of build-up, especially with someone who was off-limits to me for such a long time. But then again I wouldn't give them mixed signals in that case, I would encourage them even if doing so subtly.

[Asker]

He says he is super shy with women. Only reason we talked to begin with was because of working in the same environment

[Asker]

We also had a falling out for a little while where my previous partner did not like me being around him and threatening him. I went on my way in the job but we still worked in the same place. But eventually after a few months he started talking to me again after I stopped talking to him at his request. We got close again within a month of us speaking again and I finally left my toxic ex.

[Opinion Owner]

In that case, I think that shyness of his is the main culprit, not lack of interest. Receiving pictures is something in which he is not in the proactive role, that's most likely why he eagerly accepts that route. Whereas something like asking him to kiss you puts him in the proactive role psychologically- something he can still "mess up", even if it was requested by you. I suggest you just up the ante with the photos, but if he is that shy I don't think it's going to take him out of his shell right away, though.

[Asker]

Well I am buying sexier items for my photos and he is happy to suggest things for them too so his entertainment will be going on for a while. Maybe eventually he will open up to me about what he really would like. Thank you for all your input! I appreciate it!

[Anonymous]

If I were him I'd be happy to see naked photos of you or the real thing. If I didn't think we could make a friends-with-benefits arrangement work I'd support your choice to sell your photos if that's what you really want to do. If I were you, I would have a serious discussion with your guy best friend to try to find out how he really feels about you especially why he's worried about things becoming awkward if you have sex. I would also ask him if he thinks the two of you could be more than friends. If you haven't kissed him I would kiss him and ask him if it was awkward. If he says yes, you should probably forget about him being a friend-with-benefits.

[Asker]

I have asked him to kiss me playfully and he has said he couldn’t cause I’m his friend.

[Opinion Owner]

You could offer him a free pass where he can kiss you if he wants. If he doesn't enjoy it he can remain a friend with no questions asked.

[Asker]

If I see the opening I will but only kissing we have done is on the cheeks. And he didn’t start that til I did it first.

[Opinion Owner]

He could just be very bashful or really worried about ruining the friendship.

[Asker]

He is always very careful about hurting my feelings or careful about offending or making me mad. So I can see him worried about messing things up because of our falling out before and how much regret he has over it.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you worried about things becoming awkward if you take things to the next level with him, or is it just him that is worried?

[Asker]

I’m not worried about it at all. I’m very comfortable with letting him see that side of myself. He is the one who is declines it saying he doesn’t want to make it awkward and mess up the friendship we have.

[Opinion Owner]

I would try to make it known to him that you are not worried about things getting awkward because of the strength of your friendship and the trust you have in him. Perhaps ask him what exactly he thinks could be awkward and try to address each concern.

[Kaneki05]

That's just hot. Which also that guy would think the same even if more if he knows you. if a random Stanger thinks that. probably encouragred you do because he wants to them self or understands the value of easy money tbh. And just want you to make some.

But honestly ethier way he is for sure thinking about you been naked in a hot way.

[AviatorTom]

I don't know why any guy would buy your naked pictures when there is so much free porn available.

[Asker]

I dunno but they do

[FilmGuy93]

obviously you aren't just friend.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I really wish people would stop ignoring reality.

[Asker]

What do you mean by that

[TheSpaceGnome]

People keep using the word friend wrong.

[TheSpaceGnome]

its not friends with benefits, its casual sex from indifferent people.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Any guy who is actually your friend, and is sexually attracted to you, is going to have feelings for you.

[Raidernation01]

When I was younger my female friend got her nipples pierced, she sent me a picture of them and I jacked off to that picture a bunch lol

[Seangreen]

I'm not going to lie if I was by myself I probably jerk off

[Wise4myage]

Id be turned on, but why are sending nude pics when he clearly thinks its a bad idea? What your end goal for letting him see you fully naked?

[Asker]

He said he didn’t think we should sleep together. He never had any objections to seeing my nudes

[Wise4myage]

Their both tied together.

[jahaims]

Depends on the guy. I've seen most of my female friends in their bra and underwear or topless.

[Tj87479]

I can understand him not wanting to risk your friendship over sex. I really respect that, shows he truly cares about you. That being said, seeing you naked is harmless. So I can definitely understand him wanting to see. Lol. Best of luck to you.

[shanshu]

I already have seen my close best friends naked, we haven't had sex but fooled around abit, I'd say don't do it fully yet, tease a little like a cleavage photo, warm him up first, my friend did this to me

[Asker]

I do not plan on letting him see me fully exposed. I’m keeping at least one area a mystery.

[shanshu]

Good, hope you have fun with whatever you do, if you want to show me first, not naked, I mean what sexy pose type your going to do I can give you my opinion but up to you

[nawtee_me]

He is looking out for your safety. He doesn't mind you posting naked pics of yourself he just wants you to be safe doing it.

[PeterSmith1983]

Would not mind

[OddBeMe]

I feel uncomfortable looking at friends beach vacay photos. My wife filters for me.

[emperor90]

A bit weird unless we were dating

[SilverRain92]

Guys wouldn't mind seeing naked pictures of their female friend. The problem is that after seeing them they may view their female friend differently, it may ruin a friendship in some cases. But if you were the one who offered him to become friends with benefits things should be alright

[bestfriend69]

Would you like me to be your 2nd best friend? 😍

[bestfriend69]

I am serious anon

[billluc69]

sounds like fun

[Zlantur2]

Ok his reactions are weird, they don't match. I would have wanted to be fwbs if I was seeing such pictures

[Asker]

I think he wants to be. But he claims he is worried about it messing up our friendship. I also think he has feelings for me that he isn’t fully sharing the depth of. Cause he has also said that friends with benefit situations always go bad cause people catch feelings. So maybe he is worried about his feelings getting deeper?

[Zlantur2]

Probably

[Oh-canada]

I don’t think it’s a good idea. But if you need to me check them out first I would be happy to help

[DarkOpposite]

suspicious.

[Quaku]

1. I don't think the guy wants to have any serious relationship with you. Men generally are attracted buy what they see. So he may have no problem seeing your nudes.

2. The fact that he is a close friend of your current boyfriend and he sees nothing wrong with you selling your nudes and showing to him means he is low moral values.

3. In my part of world, taking nude pics and planning of selling them will end romantic most relationship including tides with parents and family members. You seem very cool with it and don't feel shy at all. I wish you will stop selling and delete them. Internet always remember

[Asker]

He isn’t a friend of my boyfriend I don’t have a boyfriend. My ex threatened him because he was friends with me. We didn’t get close til after I broke up with my ex. Also most of my family already know I do this so I’m not worried about it hurting my ties.