Why am I feeling like this off late? Should I get myself checked?

[Anonymous]

Am in my 30s, married and have two kids. I have been always conservative when it comes to sex and never have been a very sexual woman. But off late am thinking so much of sex and literally craving for it everyday. It's been so bad that sometimes I can't think of anything else. Is there a problem with me because I have never been like this and it's very much uncharacteristic of me. Should I visit a doctor or would this just be a phase that will pass?

[ohshee]

Well if it ever passes please let me know because the moment you turned on 5G or covid-19 because they both happened at the same time my whole body chemistry changed everything is 10 times more intense from every little touchy Every Little Kiss I've been able to feel energy from people all my life but nowadays when you could be on the east coast and I'm on the west coast and I chose if you're standing a half inch away from me that is intense I cannot explain it and I look for answers and everything everything's explainable and this year the only thing I can think of is 5 G it's in the air it seems like every time that they fire up a new location is when we all get another covid-19 Delta remember covid-19 everybody got to take out their masks and everything and then they fired up some rural areas and then we have Delta and so on and so on but anyway yeah I know exactly what you mean I love it in so many ways but it's like that's all I focus on now is finding somebody to masturbate with either to go play or phone sex have you gotten there yet

[LoneWolf21]

You could be goin through hormonal changes right now since you are pushing into your thirties. Also could be compounding sexual frustration from the reduction of sex in your marriage because of your husbands lowering libido. May very well be a mixture of both.

Have you talked to your husband about his lower libido and general reduction of sex between the two of you? If you haven't you really should.

I'd recommend you both go to your doctor's and get checked out. Also I'd recommend marriage counseling as well. All married couples should get periodic individual and couple marriage counseling. Even if you feel safe and secure in your marriage. It's another tool to help keep your marriage healthy and thriving. If you do go the counseling route, just make sure to find a counselor that will be as unbiased between you and your husband as possible. There are quite a few counselor's out there that are trash.

[Asker]

I have talked with my husband but he says that I must control myself as I am not just a wife but mother too. I get discouraged by his words but he says that as I am a mature woman now at 33 I must not act like very young girls.

[LoneWolf21]

While I agree that self control is a good thing to practice, and that you should be mature and not go around acting like a young woman in here late teens or early twenties. That has nothing to do with the fact that you are wanting more sexual intimacy with YOUR husband. It has nothing to do with your age, maturity, or that you're a mother. There is nothing wrong with you wanting more sex from YOUR husband. Frankly, he should count his blessings that his wife still has her sex drive and is wanting to have more sex with him. It's most often the case that the roles are reversed in a situation like this. I definitely think you should push for marriage counseling, and he should go see his doctor about his low libido. Prolonged lack of sexual intimacy can and will absolutely crater a marriage. It often times leads to cheating and/or divorce. You will definitely have to use self control while you tackle this problem in your marriage. Whatever you do DON'T cheat. Don't even put yourself in a position that may lead to cheating. It won't help anything, and it will only make everything worse. Not saying you will cheat, or are thinking about cheating. In situations like this the temptation to give in to sexual desire is harder to fight than normal. Best to just avoid and/or flee temptation altogether.

[LoneWolf21]

From what you have said, it sounds like you are going to have to push for fixing this problem in your marriage. He seems fine with his lack of sex drive. So you may very well have to dig your heels into the ground and fight for marriage counseling, and for him to take this seriously.

[Jamie05rhs]

I completely agree with what @LoneWolf21 has said. @Asker Why do you think your husband would say that to you? Does he have very prudish philosophical beliefs? Does he not understand that sex is natural and healthy in marriage?

[erandal]

I would say this is completely normal. We all have internal biological clocks and sometimes the alarm goes off. If you are concerned though I would go and see a medical professional and discuss it with them. I also crave sex almost every day but it has been like that for over 30 years so it is probably too late now!

[supercutebutt]

You should visit a doctor of love because u need your temperature checked by a 7" meat thermometer. :)

[Asker]

:-):-):-)

[SitBackRelax]

It is a change in your hormone levels. It’s a positive in two different ways. 1. Higher sex drive is usually a sign of better nutrition and endocrine health so congrats there. Secondly, women are known to hit their sexual peek in their 30’s. It’s very important that you allow your body to be satisfied sexually if you are feeling it. It’s healthy.

[Asker]

Thanks I am really worried because I am not able to concentrate on anything off late.

[SitBackRelax]

Also, more frequent orgasm and exposure to semen vaginally is now peer reviewed to cause a woman to have very good mental health as well. Sexual stimulation and exposure to semen in the vagina cause an elevated production of serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine. These all counteract symptoms of depression in women.

[SitBackRelax]

Yes, it’s very difficult to concentrate because the body and hormones are powerful the more natural and healthy we are. We’re programmed and created to create life and also have a primal built in need to be so close to another person of the opposite. Men and women are literally each other’s counterparts. I‘ve certainly had my moments of not being able to focus on anything else either. My body says otherwise. This is why I said that it’s important to let your body be satisfied and release as much as it needs to during these phases. Releasing that sexual tension can provide some relief to function but it’s also physically and mentally healthy.

[SitBackRelax]

I will just add that there is nothing wrong or to suppress. Your body is actually working better than it ever has. Certainly learn to manage it so you can function but try to enjoy this precious gift of sex. It is literally amazing and life is too short to not fully realize and have joy in the measure of our creation.

[Asker]

Yes I understand what you say but my husband is now in a completely opposite phase. So that adds to the frustration

[SitBackRelax]

Oh dang. I’m sorry to hear that. That makes it tough indeed.

[MTC29]

It's normal. Your estrogen levels are falling, which means that your testosterone levels (yes, women have testosterone) are becoming evident.

You are getting horny. My SO is 54, and she's horny all of the time. There are "cures" for this (hormone injections), but why would you want to do it?

[DonkeyDan]

Many women experience a sexual peak in their 30s or 40s and it can be quite normal. But at the same time women also often experience an increased sex drive just before menopause, although you are only in your 30s some women do experience menopause early. It would be rare for this to happen at such an early age so its likely just an increase in hormone activity. But if you are concerned about it then you should always see your doctor to be on the safe side. There are also some underlying health conditions that can cause increases in sex hormones, so probably best to have that ruled out, so you can just enjoy the increased sex drive without sttess.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I met my gynec as I was really worried and she checked and told it was normal and not to worry about as it may take some time to subside. Also she ordered to undergo some hormonal tests to rule out any abnormality.

[DonkeyDan]

Fingers crossed for you that its all normal, I suspect it is normal, but if you ever want a chat about it just drop me a DM.

[PositiveNote]

It's perfectly natural for men and women to go through periods of life where they feel more one way or the other. What that really indicates is that you are extraordinarily healthy. If you are not getting enough of it, then that could be a problem, but don't ever try to slow it down. Too many people try to live their life like it's not a "thing" and it turns them into people they regret. You tend to either avoid people or you fall for some other who "gives more." Just enjoy it! Get your partner to enjoy it with you and maybe explore some new ways of satisfying yourself!

Can't tell you how I wish my SO would come up with a statement like, "I feel like I need so much sex!"

[wankiam]

sounds like a phase many people go through during their lives... it may well pass but my advice would be to enjoy it as much as you can and if hubby can't keep up, well thats what sex toys are for so just let yourself have some fun

[Asker]

Thank you. Met with my gynec today and she assured that it's normal and also said that it seems like am at my peak of sexuality and fertility and ita a good time to plan for a child. So am happy to hear that from the expert

[wankiam]

thats good then whether you want a child or not. either way enjoy it ;)

[LiamSawyer]

It could be a change in hormone flow. They say women don't hit there peak sexually untill there early to mid thirties. It's probably quite normal but if you get concerned you could check with your doctor or gynecologist.

[Asker]

Thank you. Yes am worried about it because it's not normal for me, I would visit my gynec soon

[LiamSawyer]

No problem, I hope I helped.

[AviatorTom]

From my personal experience, a woman your age has all kinds of changes in your hormones, which affects your desire, personality, etc. You are concerned, so it's good to see a doctor and explain your concern. It may be perfectly normal, the expert (doctor) can tell you what's really going on.

[Asker]

Thanks for helping, I met my gynec as I was worried about it. She checked and told it's completely normal and chances are that am at my peak of sexuality and fertility now. She told that if me and my husband are okay with it then it's really good time to plan for a child as chances are that I could get pregnant soon. She ordered some hormonal tests to rule out abnormalities but bad news is she told that this may just not be a short phase but rather long term.

[Fireguy17]

How about having sex with your husband, more often and start to introduce different positions and toys into the night's festivities.
Have someone babysit the kids check into a motel and have at it like a couple of teenagers.
Watch some porn to get different ideas, have him tie you to the bed and get you off with a vibrator 4 or 5 times, because you aren't able to do a thing about it.
Embrace your sexuality, enjoy the time together.

[Asker]

Thank you but unfortunately my husband is going through a completely opposite phase as mine and he isn't much interested in sex from a few months.

[exitseven]

Just enjoy the ride.

[Asker]

:-) thanks

[Seangreen]

Men are most fertile when they're young so their hormones are raging on the other hand women eventually stop being able to reproduce your body is just trying to trick you in the pumping out a few more puppies before you can't anymore. But what you should do is maybe have more sex

[Staximus]

Just start fucking your husband more. I'm sure he won't complain. It's fine, as long as it doesn't start interfering with you taking care of your kids and responsibilities or make you cheat on your husband. So the beast had awakened, let it out. Don't hurt anybody.

[Asker]

The issue is he isn't interested much in sex now. So having sex with him has taken a backseat.

[Ratpack60]

Completely normal. Your sexual taste and desire change with age. Spice it up and have fun. Discuss with your husband and enjoy

[boobliker]

jump his bones as much as you can it will fade and may never come back like my SO.

[Cowboy6666]

Its about time for you honey

[LegendaryIcon]

"you've been conservative"

Also you: I have two kids

[Asker]

I have two kids from marriage. Brought up in a conservative setting

[LegendaryIcon]

Righhhttt

[Jamie05rhs]

@LegendaryIcon I think she's telling the truth. There are people like that, you know (though I'm not one of them.)

[LegendaryIcon]

@Jamie05rhs No, dude, she's not Too many trolls on this site You can't "be conservative" then say you have two kids already

[Jamie05rhs]

@LegendaryIcon She had them with her husband. Smh

[LegendaryIcon]

Doesn't matter. conservatives typically don't have sex

[Jamie05rhs]

@LegendaryIcon 😂

[Asker]

@legendaryicon you can't judge people based on their mentality and the situation they were living in. Try to be unbiased rather than inflict your thinking.

[LegendaryIcon]

Of course we can the trick is, to not say it aloud

[whosnumber1]

no. I go through crazy periods of high sex drive. ride the wave... ride the wave.

[Steve1071]

Welcome to your sexual peak👍🏽🙂 The sexual ride is going to get more interesting as you age so enjoy the ride.

[PeterSmith1983]

Completely normal

[Rudon00]

No! You don't have a problem I can assure you. I have also a friend on this same site who is experiencing the same situation you're going through. I haven't spoken to my friend in such a while since we often discuss such issue.

For one who are in your sexual peak and its okay to desire sex. Its natural and assured way you are wired correctly.

Are you not having a healthy sex life with your husband?

[Asker]

My sex life with husband is okish but not that great. It's not too common between us.

[Rudon00]

Similiar to what my good friend experiencing as well. Tell me something what is the age difference between you and your husband?

[Asker]

8 years

[Rudon00]

8yrs huh seems to me your husband has a very low libido for his age when compare to yours. As we males get older our sex drive plummets while the female increases.

[emperor90]

U should get checked out just in case

[Asker]

Thanks for helping. I met my gynec as I was worried about it. She checked and told it's completely normal and chances are that am at my peak of sexuality and fertility now. She told that if me and husband are okay with it then it's really good time to plan for a child as chances are that I may get pregnant soon. She ordered some hormonal tests to rule out abnormalities but bad news is she told that this may just not be a short phase but rather long term.