Why my boyfriend change his mood just after ejaculation?

Question

When we do intercourse he is very romantic. But after the ejaculation his mood turn into angry. He needs go away from me. Is it my problem

Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

When you have sex, a number of different hormones surge through your body, including dopamine and oxytocin. If you orgasm, other hormones are released too, such as prolactin. All together, these hormones can cause some pretty intense emotions and usually feel happy. After sexual activity ends, these hormone levels drop, and you felt fine at first. But then, this can cause some unexpected emotions — notably anxiety, as you lay there afterward, either of you or both could not stop worrying about what just happened, what it meant, or what was going to happen next. But for some reason, that is all your brain wanted to think about. You or your boyfriend is not the only person this may happened to. Post-sex anxiety is a real thing and is actually pretty common. Not only that, but it can happen both during and after any form of physical intimacy — not just sex.

If you have unresolved issues, fears, or worries about your relationship, sex can bring them up and make you feel overwhelmed — especially with all those hormones. Lots of people have complex feelings and anxieties around sex. Maybe he has an idea of what sex should look like, or how it should go, or he is uncomfortable with certain positions. Maybe he is worried about your ability to “perform.” Sometimes boys feel guilt or shame around sex. All of these feelings are incredibly common, and they can easily lead to anxiety after a sexual encounter. When he is feeling anxious, it is easy to hyperventilate.

Just simple breathing exercises can help him. Ask him to focus on inhaling and exhaling to try to calm his mind and slow his racing thoughts. Sometimes, talking out his anxieties can help you feel less alone with his fears. It can also help him fact-check whatever his mind is worried about. Encourage him for talking something. It is important to let him know that you are there for him when he is ready (for second round too). The best thing you can do as a supportive partner is be there for them in whatever way they need you to be. Sometimes just knowing they have someone there for them will go further than you think. Feeling anxious during or after sex is not that unusual. However, if it happens regularly, you may ask him to talk with a therapist. They can help him unpack his anxieties and address any underlying issues that are popping up during or after sex.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Get out now before you start to believe you're imagining things. He won't change.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

That means it's all about him I've always been curious about this and it seems to be when this happens most guys are wanting it when the girl doesn't want it he's acting all lovey-dovey to get what he wants but once he gets it he has an attitude you guys will end up breaking up probably and that really kind of sucks and if you pay attention to when this happens even when he's making love to you it's all about him he comes he's done it's over with he doesn't want any type of touching cuddling or even communication sometimes not unless it's an argument so you can leave yeah you need to really pay attention to what's going on because it's all about him he should be making it all about you

TonyV · Accepted Answer

I don't know why he'd go to angry but my mood usually shifts after I cum. Like my girl usually wants to go again and while I have the energy and can usually get it up again easily I'm just not interested, not horny anymore🤷‍♂️ sorry it's just how it is.

Hell even when I'm alone watching some kinky porn that I find very interesting right up till I cum, as soon as I cum it can all change, I wonder why I even thought that was jerk off inspiring in the first place.
So sorry I don't know why he gets mad, I just loose interest, point is we can have a complete mood/ interest swing after cuming.

DaveJord · Answer

Do you really need to ask or be told that angry issues are a problem? FUCK YEAH, yeah that's a HUGE FLIPPING problem... get out of this relationship.

PositiveNote · Answer

I always just feel sleepy. Am I missing something! I really don't recommend belittling your partner, nor do I recommend expressing anger for her sexual intercourse.

That is so ridiculous, but I think all us guys might have done it at one time or another. We're just pigs!

Dargil · Answer

Don't understand the "angry" but there is an adrenalin crash that can make us more "distant" after sex.

imjustadude · Answer

I mean things change rapidly for a guy after orgasm, but being mean shouldn't be accepted. I'm more likely to want to go to sleep afterwards unless she didn't cum and then I work on that.

priyakigaandme · Answer

It Happens with SOME boys, I'm One of THEM

Seangreen · Answer

Unfortunately that's kind of normal he got what he wanted and you don't need to give you nothing now until he wants it again which is kind of a s*** head move on his part I mean if you care about somebody you should still give a s*** after you bust your nut

Neosporin · Answer

It makes sense that mood changes but not sure why he angry.

Wise4myage · Answer

Not sure what his deal is, but you need to ask him if it has anything to do with you.

jahaims · Answer

That's called post nut clarity. He isn't doing it consciously. If a guy needs to nut he will do what it takes to get laid. After he nuts is how he really feels.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's not you. I feel the same way but not angry. I can't explain it.

boobliker · Answer

My SO get Depressed after and no touching at all

LegendaryIcon · Answer

Why do girls do the same

whosnumber1 · Answer

that's weird. warning signs... you should nuke him

Steve1071 · Answer

No it’s not your problem and he has a psychological problem. You might want to hold off being intimate with him until he gets his attitude issues fixed. Most of us guys when we finished the deed we want to sleep and cuddle with you.