Why would a guy turn down a girl for sex if he has a genuine interest in sleeping with her?

If you had a very close attraction to a female friend of yours and you are both single why would you turn her down if she offered a friends with benefits arrangement? We are very close friends who talk everyday and share all our woes and joys. His excuse was he doesn’t want things to be awkward
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  • Hummmm... I assume your a sexy lady. Because a guy would totaly say no to a someone who's not sexy. So I will assume your sexy.

    So assuming your sexy, I would totally do it. I think like 90% of heterosexuals' guys would do it. Maybe he doesn't think he could be with a women without developing feelings for her or just be able to keep things on a friends level. Maybe he wants more than just friends with benefits.

    Or maybe he is gay... even if I knew I would totally fall in love with you... I would totally fuck the shit out you as many times as I could... and enjoy it for as long as it lasted. So he might be guy, or you might be ugly.

    • Considering I get hit on daily and he always tells me how beautiful I am I would consider myself sexy yes

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  • Well, the first girl I ever had sex with was coming on to me a couple weeks before we DID have sex but I wasn't exactly sure of it, at first and, besides, she was married to my new best friend so, I wasn't about to steal her away from him. When she told me that she was leaving him soon, anyway, because he beats her up, that changed my mind about that.

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  • That would make things awkward and most likely ruin the friendship in the end. It could be he is already getting some else ware and respecting you enough to not double dip.

    friends with benefits also tends to lead to one of you falling for the other, and if the feeling isn't mutual that definitely makes it pretty awkward.

    There is lots of other reasons it could be, if your as close as you say you could ask him about it, in a friendly way just to see what he says.

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  • Shyness, lack of experience, performance anxiety.
    Most likely intimidated by the woman's experience and expectations.

    That's assuming he *does* in fact have sexual interest in her.

  • Because having sex with a woman raises expectations that I may not be prepared to meet. If he's turned you down, it means he's currently as close with you as he wants to be.

    Pay no attention to the reason someone gives for declining. What else could he say? The truth is that he likes you but is not sexually attracted to you.

  • Maybe he has someone else. I have had to turn down an offer.

  • He wants a serious relationship and friends with benefits is not enough as he might lose her to another.

  • He probably has 0 experience and is nervous

  • friends with benefits is big NO because "sex in lieu of money is prostitution" and I can never ever go for it.
    I'm a Man who believes in real, open, straight-forward relationship with girls.

  • Lol he is an asshole than

  • If I really like to go and she only wanted to be friends with benefits I turn it down to

  • Because he wants a relationship not sex.

  • 'd personally at least be dating.

    Truthfully, id like to be married before i have sex... but i have sadly allready broke this rule i gave to myself :/

  • Apparently his genuine interest in sleeping with you isn’t as great as you think it is!
    Once you add sex into a relationship. Things can change. Like you stop sharing your deep personal feelings. Since you are no longer a friend but a lover.

  • He clearly doesn't have interest

  • Various possible reasons

  • He doesn't want things to be awkward is a possibility.

    Another possibility is that he saw how you treated guys and he doesn't want to be in the end of that.

    Another is that he likes you chasing him and think's you'll bail once he give up the goods.

    Several possibilities.

  • it can possibly be thinkin about ya only thinkin that he only wants sex down the line and the fact that y'all are friends