Are lesbians virgins?

[Preeti161101]

[Sangita93]

Our traditional definition of virginity (of a girl) is around her hymen and penetration of penis in her vagina. All medical examination also looks for this – if there is something to prove – in court for legal issues. I had faced such inquiries during my working in hospital and discussing it with advocates – making it more complicated. Pure lesbian sex means vag on vag and penis is absent.

There are a few key ways that lady lovers may get it on together, often involving fingers, tongues and objects. There may be penetration, there may be anal, there may be scissoring and all these things are defined as sex even if there are just two vaginas to wet the stamp. Because the behavior is sexy in intention, but settling on a definition of ‘sex’ is pretty hard. This gets even harder when we start talking about virginity.

The concept of virginity starts to leak through the underwear of our culture with two main opposing views: save it or lose it. Whether you have ‘had sex’ or not is tied up in our beliefs about virginity and sex and it needs reassessing for many reasons, including keeping ourselves safe.

If we do not think it is sex, as nature has design sex to encourage men and women to produce babies, lesbian sex is not real sex, it cannot produce babies. Technically speaking, if a person has had ‘sex’, they have lost their virginity as the baseline. So they are virgins.

Eating someone out in a bathroom at a party? May be. Making sweet love to your girlfriend in your shared bed? Sure. Using a dildo to masturbate? No. Sex is understood as something you do with someone else, generally sex and here are two persons present. When it comes to the crunch, we all have pretty wide views about what is and what is not sex, and this colors what activities we think can cause a loss of virginity, and which ‘preserve’ us. Lesbians who have never had a penis in their vagina may consider themselves to remain a virgin, despite sex with women.

Depending on who you talk to, losing your virginity as a lesbian may include: First orgasm, First orgasm with a woman, First time sex with a woman, Fingering that resulted in an orgasm, Oral sex that resulted in an orgasm, and whatever thousand other variations you can dream up.

You lose your virginity when you say you do. There is no specific round the world common believes really on gal-on-gal action in terms of virginity, and past believes are almost all exclusively formed by men, and newer generation has bigger fish to fry. Turns out a lot of the time, we do not think sexy stuff is sex unless it fits a certain arbitrary criteria. These criteria are very personal and therefore completely made-up. Do you lose your virginity if you are raped or sexually assaulted? If you do not participate willingly, then it does not count which fits in with our general ideas about what is sex and what is not.

[yuviii2012]

Agsin awesome answer

[Satyromaniac]

Cheers, You really do know your stuff ma'am. Amazing reply. Agreed with every word.

[kyleelyn199723]

In my opinion, yes. Penis to vagina makes you lose your virginity. That’s like saying a man fingered a virgin woman and she lost her virginity. It would be the same as that, and that is not using your virginity. Lesbians that never had sex with an actual penis ever are virgins

[ND4SPD31]

@kyleelyn199723 I was thinking the same thing! Haha.

[kyleelyn199723]

@ND4SPD31 it only makes sense. Lol a virgin woman can literally use 100 dildos on herself and still be a virgin

[ND4SPD31]

@kyleelyn199723 yeah I agree. How do they know they like pussy if they never had a nice cock in the first place. Haha.

[kyleelyn199723]

@ND4SPD31 well that’s different lol lesbians are lesbians because they like women only, but biblically speaking virginity is based on penis and vaginal sex

[ND4SPD31]

True 🤷🏼‍♂️😂

[MinxDoll]

No not at all lesbians are not virgins they still use penetration tactics, virgins have had no penetration at all

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll virgins can also use penetration tactics that aren’t penis and vagina. Essentially lesbians are virgins. Some may consider themselves not to be, but biblically they are virgins

[MinxDoll]

Virginity is a social construct anyway n they use strap ons and they ain’t small that’s for sure lol

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll virginity in the Bible is not a social construct. Virginity is literally defined as penis and vagina sex.

[MinxDoll]

Not everyone believes in the Bible so it’s what they want for themselves

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll you don’t have to believe in the Bible to realize that virginity derived from the Bible

[MinxDoll]

Girl haha virginity is what u want it to be it’s if you haven’t had sex before it ain’t that deep

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll just like the entire world wants things to be how they want it to be, and then there’s reality. Nothing wrong with being a virgin still

[MinxDoll]

Yea nothing wrong being a Virgin but not everyone bases what virginity is with the Bible and being heterosexual

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll and then there’s reality where just because it’s a social construct, doesn’t mean there isn’t fact behind literal virgin lol. Again, it’s literally okay to be a virgin

[kyleelyn199723]

Virginity*

[MinxDoll]

I never said it wasn’t ok to be a Virgin, I said lesbians aren’t if they had sex with each other

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll okay nice we have different opinions. No need to repeat yourself over and over again.

[MinxDoll]

Cuz u going off track from what we were taking about

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll no we just have different opinions and that’s totally okay, we can move on without needing to repeat over and over again of how we feel. You think one way, I think another. Next

[pretty_feminine]

@MinxDoll I agree with you @kyleelyn199723 I disagree with you

[kyleelyn199723]

@pretty_feminine nice, who cares

[pretty_feminine]

Maybe no one but as a lesbian I have strong opinions

[kyleelyn199723]

@pretty_feminine nice, again who cares. You thumbs down my opinion and that’s really all you had to do.

[pretty_feminine]

You took the time to write back to me so you must care … with way thumbs down removed

[kyleelyn199723]

@pretty_feminine or maybe because I keep getting notifications? Again, who cares.

[MinxDoll]

@pretty_feminine righttt like I’m bi and how they gonna tell us we still virgins if we haven’t had heterosexual sex before 😂 it’s embarrassing for them

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll girl you are bi, you probably had a penis in you. Give it a break

[MinxDoll]

@ND4SPD31 that’s like saying how do u know u don’t like cock if u never had it, u hear how ridiculous that sounds 😂

[pretty_feminine]

@MinxDoll I would give it up if I were you @kyleelyn199723 is just interested in being rude

[kyleelyn199723]

@pretty_feminine or I just stand for my personal opinion as I said from the beginning it’s my opinion. You don’t have to agree, and you will still survive. You obviously just came here to be rude.

[MinxDoll]

Did I @ u nope I didn’t, wasn’t talking to u

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll and you are still on my comment. You had a penis in you before obviously, so stop with the “you can’t relate to us” bs

[quietcuite]

So even gay men are virgins?

[MinxDoll]

I still didn’t @ u and how have I obviously had a penis in me, my sexuality isn’t me sex history 😂 girl u reaching atp

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxroll you aren’t denying girl 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s okay , don’t be ashamed to have penis in you

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll

[kyleelyn199723]

@quietcuite, I will clear that up and say men intercourse is losing virginity. A penis is involved

[MinxDoll]

Haha girl u trying so hard since u wanna know my sex history so bad I haven’t I’m still a Virgin but go off boo

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll mmmm doubt it boo boo

[quietcuite]

How about gay sex? Male-Male sex? They're Virgin males?

[kyleelyn199723]

@quietcuite I just cleared that up in comments above

[MinxDoll]

Haha don’t got to prove nothin to u, u sound dumb asf u don’t need a penis to lose ur virginity

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll who am I to believe you, when your goal here is to be right? You need a penis to lose your virginity. Don’t like my opinion? Oh well

[MinxDoll]

And who r u that I gotta prove my virginity 2, ya don’t need one but if u don’t like my opinion then oh well

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll, like I’ve said 30 comments before, if you don’t like my opinion , than oh well sis. Life goes on.

[kyleelyn199723]

Then**

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll you have sat here and tried to prove your virginity to me for about an hour now

[MinxDoll]

U kept replying to me when I didn’t @ u , well stop @ing me damn

[kyleelyn199723]

@minxdoll and you are on my comment, so if you want to converse with someone on here take your comments else where 🤷🏻‍♀️

[AviatorTom]

Interesting question.

Oxford dictionary says NO.

Virgin
noun
1. a person who has never had sexual intercourse.

Well MAYBE, what if, during lesbian play, her partner used a strapon.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for the mho

[priyakigaandme]

@preeti161101 Technically Yes

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Good lord, all these people saying no worry me. A virgin by its technical definition just means has never had sexual intercourse. We have sex, therefore we are not virgins.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Er... flip that. The people saying yes are wrong lmao Was too frustrated by seeing people saying lesbians are virgins. We are not once we have sex with each other.

[laurieluvsit]

I think it would be hard to classify yourself as a virgin if you have had full penetration with sex toys

[OlderAndWiser]

Present me with a precise defnition of the word virgin and I will answer your question.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s a social construct, so it’s up to them (each couple) to decide when and if etc.

[Dana223]

I was just about to say this.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Dana223 feel free to. Just think these are not the words you are looking for lol People have odd ideas on virginity at times

[ushagomez]

Not necessarily. They may have previously experienced a penis in vagina, which is the usually accepted definition of the end of virginity.

[Berethor]

Gold star lesbians, if they never had a PIV then yes they are technical virgins.

[Dargil]

If they have not had PIV or PIA intercourse with a male, yes.

[honeylover21]

They maybe 🤔

[chriscdi]

Not all of them actually I think a big majority of them aren't

[gangster123]

What they do is not sex.. that is just making out and can be compared to masturbation. Real sex is between and man and woman. Just my opinion. Don’t feel bad

[Iron_Man]

Yes of course they are

[Jamie05rhs]

That depends on how you look at it.

[Wise4myage]

Technically, yes.

[Neko_Nya]

Technically yeah lol

[bamesjond0069]

Technically if they haven't had a man inside their pussy yes. But practically, all "lesbians" have had sex with men so i doubt you would find a lesbian virgin.

[Nigjt]

Some are an some are not.
God Bless

[Shubham614]

Breaking of virginity is all bout stretching of hymen , weather its by penetration of male penis , or girl herself sometimes encounter during masturbstion or by a lesbian parter using a toy or fingers ,
Its all bout hymen stretching,
70% women bleed during their first sex which is stretching of hymen first time.
There are a lot of stereotypes especially about women not bleeding in first sex but she can be 30 % of them whose bodies are have naturally stretched hymen.

[Strongballsmilk]

Nope

[lpoots]

depends on what your description of a vigin is

[sifat10shahriar]

I guess NO
Bcz they are having sex as they says