How do I stop my boyfriend pressuring to cum in me?

[Anonymous]

He told me we are a couple and he should go bare now.

[Canuck37]

Guys are told that the best feeling in sex is ejaculating into a girl without a condom on. Hence why "creampies" are one of the most popular types of porn. Until a guy has experienced that, he's going to feel like he's missing out; and if he has experienced that with some other girl, he's going to want to experience that with you.

However, letting him orgasm inside you obviously comes with the risk of having a child. That's a pretty big deal.

I'd like to go bare with my wife and ejaculate inside of her. However, I know we're not financially ready to have children yet, so I don't ask her.

Sit your boy down and ask him if he's financially ready to support a child. Ask him if he's emotionally ready to have a child. Ask him if he's ready to spend the time needed to raise a child. And even if he answers yes to all of those questions, you can still say that you are not ready for it, and as such, you're not going to let him orgasm inside of you without a condom until you are both ready for children.

If he asks you to go on the pill, have him read the side effects of the pill. The only girl I knew on the pill had some pretty nasty side effects from it. If he asks you to get an IUD, I guess you can make that decision on your own, but make him read what the side effects of an IUD are as well. If he keeps pressuring you, then tell him you'll let him do you bare if he gets a vasectomy. (That said, if you want children someday, maybe don't do that.)

[Asker]

I am not worried about getting pregnant just not sure if I am ready for bare sex. Sounds strange I guess.

[Canuck37]

Pregnancy should be a worry for you unless you know that your boyfriend is the one for you, you trust him enough to be a father to your future kids, you know that you can financially support kids, and you trust him to be good with your family. With bare sex, pregnancy is always a concern. The only form of contraception that is reliable is an IUD (and even that gets expelled sometimes). Girls forget to take their pill all the time. (Every year, 1 out of 10 girls who have sex regularly and use the pill end up pregnant.) Condoms break. Even when condoms don't break, sometimes a little sperm gets through. How long have you been together? If it's been only a short amount of time, I'd refuse. You need to know him well before you give yourself to him bare. You should also have a pretty good idea about whether he has or has had any STDs.

[DaveJord]

Well if he can't respoect your feeling on the matter the only way to stop it is to end the relationship. Honestly he is always going to want to go bare back. And honestly bare back does feel much better than wearing a condom. But if I really cared for a women and it was important to her then I would respect it and still want to be with her. But in the end I would always want to move the relationship to a level that she felt safe enough to have unprotected sex with me.

But that is something you have to determine for yourself, and if you are not comfortable with doing it then I ABSOLUTELY would advise you not to have unprotected sex. But I personally have never been in a committed and long term relationship with a women that I had to wear a condom every time.

[maceygirl]

Just tell him you don't want to do it. That should be enough.
As a side note, if you can go on a form of birth control, you should do it to protect against any accidents, like a broken condom or pullout failure/accidental cum inside.

[laurieluvsit]

Tell him you want a $100,000 deposit in preparation for the first kid and then another $100,000 upon conception to prepare for the next one.

Something tells me he's going to develop a sudden love for condoms... lol

[kyleelyn199723]

Tell him what you actually like, and tell him that adding pressure to sex only causes more distress and discomfort with women (and men of course) , but performance pressure can literally make us dry like the Sahara desert

[kyleelyn199723]

Oops well I read the question wrong lol tell him that all kind of sex acts need to be consented or it’s considered rape. His behavior is very rapey in my opinion

[JohnK123]

that’s not that kind of behavior just tell him the boundaries that’s it just like you have wants etc this is his want etc (for asker)

[kyleelyn199723]

Yes but a man pressuring after hearing a “no” is rapey behavior.

[JohnK123]

Where was the “no”?

[kyleelyn199723]

Having to pressure means there’s a clear “no” involved

[JohnK123]

No it doesn’t I can pressure u into telling me I don't know what country u from but there’s no no involved

[JohnK123]

In this case the guy could be like I really wanna do it in u but that doesn’t mean there’s a “no” he could just keep saying it

[kyleelyn199723]

Yes it does. If she said yes, there would be no reason for pressuring to happen.

[kyleelyn199723]

Either way begging someone to do a sexual act is rapey behavior

[JohnK123]

Mmmk

[JohnK123]

So it would be a rapey behavior if a girl keeps pressuring a guy to do it in (flipped from this question)

[kyleelyn199723]

Yes. Rapey behavior is not a double standard thing

[JohnK123]

That’s honestly the first time I’ve heard that lmao u must not be a liberal 😂

[kyleelyn199723]

@johnK123 yes because people literally have zero grasp on reality 90% of the time and only say things when it benefits them

[N192K001]

Remind him of his entitlement-mentality.

The fact he's given permission to sex is already a privilege, not a right. Jurisdictions across the globe have a charge of marital-rape in 1 form or another, so even lawfully-wedded spouses are NOT entitled to sex. What more the unmarried? And he's using his lower, non-spouse rank to make demands? lol 🤣

[N192K001]

Plus, that's impregnation-inducing. WHAT is his contingency-plan for that? Marriage? At the very least, financial-support for 18years? You'd best have it in writing as a signed contract, so dropping you when you inevitably get pregnant will be contract-fraud, a crime with legally-enforced penalties.

[N192K001]

Correction: "You'd best have it in writing as a signed contract, so dropping you when you inevitably get pregnant will be breach-of-contract or contract-fraud (if he signs with while having no intent on doing his part), a crime with legally-enforced penalties."

[Daniela1982]

And is he going to disappear like a cockroach into the woodwork if you get pregnant? He doesn't have as much to lose as the woman.

[Jooying]

A guy that doesn’t know how to respect a girl is a big No. kick him out of door and your life. He’s a jerk and let him find other girl who accepts his jerkiness to fuck.

[EnglishAntagonist]

A woman that doesn’t cater to her mans needs should also be kicked to the curb

[MTC29]

Mention that is costs $250,000 USD to raise a child from birth to age 18, and that that money would be coming from him. That bit of information should convince him to wrap up.

[Máiiréad]

"Oh, babe!!! I'm so glad you are ready to be a father now!!! How exciting! We should start coming up with baby names!"

[Máiiréad]

LOL second thought, you should buy some cheap baby socks or something and gift it to him!!! Let him shit bricks!

[OlderAndWiser]

How do you get your boyfriend to change for you? You don't.
How do you get a new boyfriend? I can help you with that.

[ChrisMaster69]

Just tell him to grow up and unless you are on BC it ain’t happening.

be fairly obvious with what you say.

it’s that or you a both looking at being parents

[PrettyPriya]

🫖...

[ChrisMaster69]

@PrettyPriya 😂🫖

[hsshannah96]

You dump him. It’s disrespectful for him to pressure you to do that if you and your body aren’t ready

[DonkeyDan]

Tell him there always the option of not going at all.

[slatyb]

That’s a strong sign that you should NOT be a couple. He has no interest in your welfare.

Next time he talks to you say “You know how keep saying that we are a couple and should go bare? I figured out the solution. We’re no longer a couple. Bye.”

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Simple. Ask him to go to the doctor and see what his options are for male-based birth control.

[MelonSoda]

He's a stupid cunt. Break up with him before he ends up stealthing you.

[AviatorTom]

Next time he suggests going bare, kick him in the nuts and say "No way, Jose!"

[Laciandmaci]

If he keeps pushing you, it shows he does not respect you.

[275153]

It’s your body sweetie and if there is a pregnancy or std, you are the one who will primarily will have to deal with it. Your boyfriend sounds somewhat irresponsible for trying to pressure you. I would recommend having a “come to Jesus” talk with him and telling him that ain’t gonna happen until you’re ready and not a moment sooner. And if he keeps persisting, he’ll stop getting it all together.

[Massageman]

Keep your pants on!

[KatherineJ]

No ring, no going without birth control.

[douride2]

Tell him sheath that tool or no sex.

[kindaofawh0re]

Tell him the risks